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At 5:30pm on October 27, 2010, Jennifer - Zach's Mom said…
Mary, I meant to add that Zach's sister from his dad's 2nd marriage died of the same thing the month before Zach died on October 1, 2009. She started on prescription Ambien and Xanax at the age of 19! I agree that something needs to be done about the lack of care from the drug companies and doctors ... all that drives them is the almighty buck. Thank goodness not all doctors are that way!
At 5:26pm on October 27, 2010, Jennifer - Zach's Mom said…
Hello Mary,

I read these posts and feel a kindred to you as well. I lost my son, Zach, November 6, 2009 (year is coming up) to heroine and pain meds. He'd been clean for approx. 2 weeks and it's thought that his body couldn't handle the same strength he'd taken before. He started with pain meds and "graduated" to a cheaper, easier substitute ... heroine. Something I never in my wildest dreams ever thought would touch our lives!

I don't see your comment about leaving this site, and I hope you still visit. I've only been on a short while and it's helping. Just knowing others who have gone through the same nightmare is somewhat comforting ... if there is such a thing. We have such beautiful children and I want people to know of them. Please keep in touch. Jennifer
At 10:57pm on October 12, 2010, neicy said…
You have the right to feel anyway you want to feel about the God I serve . But I know he is real . He is the living God
We might not always understand the things that he allows to happen . For it is not our will but his .But know this if you just call on him
In your time of need he will comfort you . His Grace and mercy is sufficient .surrender to him Try it and see .and I will be praying for you
At 11:52pm on October 7, 2010, CHERYL said…
Dear Mary, and to all of you, who have lost a child, I feel your pain. My heart breaks everyday, sometimes I think I will die of a broken heart. I lost my son, though he was 30 yrs. old, he was my baby. My son also died of an accidental overdose, hooked on pain pills, but he did not just fall asleep and not wake up. He was with a 38 year old drug pusher, whom I begged not to kill my son with her pills. He was getting help to stay off this oxycotin. She knew he was addicted, but did not care, she gave him her pills and sold to everyone else. Jeremy, my son was clean for 2 months, he was going to graduate from college in December of this year. This drug pusher would lure him with expensive gifts, and of course her pills. He was not well enough to resist. The coronor said that since he had been drug free, he probably did not know it would not take as many as he had been taking before to kill him. He suffered for quit sometime, as she watched. I do find comfort in going to church. I found several facinating videos on youtube, go to youtube and type in the search, Perry Stone Life After Death, it was very soothing. I get on my knees every night and I ask God to forgive me for blaming Him, and also for being angry with God, and for anything that I have done that is not pleasing to Him, I also ask Him to have mercy on me, because by faith we are supose to believe that our loved ones are in heaven, but as a mother, the only thing we ever want is for our children to be happy and safe. I feel like I failed as a parent, I asked for forgiveness for that. I pray that God will make Himself real to me and let me know that my son is in His arms, then I will be at peace. Watching the videos on youtube with Perry Stone about life after death made me realize I am not the only one who believes this, and even pasters who lost their children ask why. I hope that you will view these 15 parts of a series. I am praying for you and all of the others on this web site. God bless you, Cheryl
At 11:52pm on October 7, 2010, CHERYL said…
Dear Mary, and to all of you, who have lost a child, I feel your pain. My heart breaks everyday, sometimes I think I will die of a broken heart. I lost my son, though he was 30 yrs. old, he was my baby. My son also died of an accidental overdose, hooked on pain pills, but he did not just fall asleep and not wake up. He was with a 38 year old drug pusher, whom I begged not to kill my son with her pills. He was getting help to stay off this oxycotin. She knew he was addicted, but did not care, she gave him her pills and sold to everyone else. Jeremy, my son was clean for 2 months, he was going to graduate from college in December of this year. This drug pusher would lure him with expensive gifts, and of course her pills. He was not well enough to resist. The coronor said that since he had been drug free, he probably did not know it would not take as many as he had been taking before to kill him. He suffered for quit sometime, as she watched. I do find comfort in going to church. I found several facinating videos on youtube, go to youtube and type in the search, Perry Stone Life After Death, it was very soothing. I get on my knees every night and I ask God to forgive me for blaming Him, and also for being angry with God, and for anything that I have done that is not pleasing to Him, I also ask Him to have mercy on me, because by faith we are supose to believe that our loved ones are in heaven, but as a mother, the only thing we ever want is for our children to be happy and safe. I feel like I failed as a parent, I asked for forgiveness for that. I pray that God will make Himself real to me and let me know that my son is in His arms, then I will be at peace. Watching the videos on youtube with Perry Stone about life after death made me realize I am not the only one who believes this, and even pasters who lost their children ask why. I hope that you will view these 15 parts of a series. I am praying for you and all of the others on this web site. God bless you, Cheryl
At 11:44pm on October 7, 2010, CHERYL said…
Dear Mary, and to all of you, who have lost a child, I feel your pain. My heart breaks everyday, sometimes I think I will die of a broken heart. I lost my son, though he was 30 yrs. old, he was my baby. My son also died of an accidental overdose, hooked on pain pills, but he did not just fall asleep and not wake up. He was with a 38 year old drug pusher, whom I begged not to kill my son with her pills. He was getting help to stay off this oxycotin (man made herion). She knew he was addicted, but did not care, she gave him her pills and sold to everyone else. Jeremy, my son was clean for 2 months, he was going to graduate from college in December of this year. This drug pusher would lure him with expensive gifts, and of course her pills. He was not well enough to resist. The coronor said that since he had been drug free, he probably did not know it would not take as many as he had been taking before to kill him. He suffered for quit some time, because this girl who was giving him her pills texted her friend at 10AM and said Jeremy was dying, her friend text her back and said call 911 and leave (she had rented a suite in a hotel)but instead she paid for another day, because the maid service said they would have to leave or pay for another day. She did not want anyone to see what was happening, she just watched him smother and die, she would not even turn him over. He could have been saved so easily, if she had only called 911, he died at 1:45 PM. Now, she is walking around free, selling her pills, destroying other lives. Nothing is being done about it. I had heard, the week of his funeral that the police was going to pick her up, and that the grand jury would try her for 2nd degree murder, but nothing has been done to her. My son Jeremy died on March 1, 2010. I do not want to leave my home, we live in a small community, and I am afraid of what I might do if I see her. I pleaded with her so many times, not to give him her pills. The devil keeps reminding me how much
At 9:21pm on October 7, 2010, Mollye Self said…
Hi Mary, Please don't leave the group for good. I too had to stay away for weeks at a time then I come back to check it out and sure enought many are still in the deepest of grief after years and there are those others who are trying to get through their grief. So you never know when you find someone who has helped you or someone you have helped. My youngest son Jake shot and killed himself on June 17 this year. What a shock as he was the most upbeat, strongest young man who loved and lived for the Lord. He simply was going through something he didn't feel he could share with us involving a young lady and he made a terrible rash split second decision that has changed the lives forever for his family. Our hearts are broken but we are all strong in our faith and know God leads us and carries us every step of the way. We have made the decision to celebrate Jake's life and remember to all the many many good things that made him who he was rather than dwell on the final second he left us. In this way we can glorify God and honor Jake's memory. Is it easy? No,but God never promised easy. He promises possible. No child truly belongs to us. They are on a loan from God to raise and care for on earth and when he wants his child with him in heaven, he simply calls him home. I will not be angry at God or question his reasons. He loved my son far more than I or any of us could be capable of. I rejoice in the undescribable joy my son now knows and I too will join him some day for a never ending reunion. God Bless you and I will be praying for you. Love, Mollye
At 2:08am on October 7, 2010, Lauree Lage said…
Hi Mary ,I also lost my son to an accidental heroin overdose on 5/28/10. He was one month shy of 22. I know what your going through.
At 9:32pm on October 6, 2010, Susan - Donny's Mom said…
Just read your post and I too lost my adult (39) year old son December 2009.
Also, from an Accidential OD. Makes it all the worse that it could have maybe somehow been prevented.
His was a combo of pain pills and anit depression pills plus having the flu and being dehydrated. All a bad combination at one time. I too am trying to work through it and some weeks are better than others. When the big sadness hits there is not a thing I can do about it.
Tomorrow his Dad and I are having a visit from one of his very best friends who is visiting from Oregon. I know it is going to be quite emotional as we haven't seen him since the memorial service. But he is feeln' the need to see us and have a hug. Another one of our son's friends comes and has dinner with us about once a month. Both of these boyz were devasted when my son left this world. He was a good guy, a best friend to anyone he met and father of 3 teenage daughters.
But was in the middle of a horrible nasty mean divorce hence why he added the anit-depression pills that Dr.'s are so ready to give out. Ten years ago he broke his neck in a water accident and got hooked on heavy pain pills to continue his construction job to keep his family going. All a very sad story.
My heart goes out to you as December is shortly coming and what will we all do when that month comes and it is one year.....how will we make it through all the holidays ??? I know they will never be the same again....not with a child missing from the dinner table.
Hugs to you and your family.....
Susan Donny's Mom
At 9:32pm on October 6, 2010, Susan - Donny's Mom said…
Just read your post and I too lost my adult (39) year old son December 2009.
Also, from an Accidential OD. Makes it all the worse that it could have maybe somehow been prevented.
His was a combo of pain pills and anit depression pills plus having the flu and being dehydrated. All a bad combination at one time. I too am trying to work through it and some weeks are better than others. When the big sadness hits there is not a thing I can do about it.
Tomorrow his Dad and I are having a visit from one of his very best friends who is visiting from Oregon. I know it is going to be quite emotional as we haven't seen him since the memorial service. But he is feeln' the need to see us and have a hug. Another one of our son's friends comes and has dinner with us about once a month. Both of these boyz were devasted when my son left this world. He was a good guy, a best friend to anyone he met and father of 3 teenage daughters.
But was in the middle of a horrible nasty mean divorce hence why he added the anit-depression pills that Dr.'s are so ready to give out. Ten years ago he broke his neck in a water accident and got hooked on heavy pain pills to continue his construction job to keep his family going. All a very sad story.
My heart goes out to you as December is shortly coming and what will we all do when that month comes and it is one year.....how will we make it through all the holidays ??? I know they will never be the same again....not with a child missing from the dinner table.
Hugs to you and your family.....
Susan Donny's Mom
 
 
 

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