This will be a tough Mother's day but I planted a rose bush for my mom called the Peace Rose. She always liked to sit on our deck and gaze out into our garden watching the birds. I planted it in a place where she could see it from where she always would sit. Plus I am sure that will see it from heaven above also. I also placed an angel with a cross that I had bought after she died when I had planned to do this. There are all kinds of things to do to keep their memory alive it gives you an inner peace
I am sorry to hear that. People like your brother do get their's in the end as people see right through them and they die alone and unhappy. You are right, you have your memories and life is short, you can disown your family, I know I have. Take care Mary and live your life to the fullest!!!
Mary, I have a brother who is exactly the same, anytime he showed up on your doorstep, he wanted something. He always thought life owed him something. In fact, he phoned my 88 year old mother who was in very poor in weath, wanting to know where his $50 dollars was as my mom always gave that to him for Christmas. He didn't care how she was. My mom was on her last few months of life and all he could do is care about himself, like usual. My mom told him she couldn't aford it. My mom passed away on February 27/2010 and he wondered why my brother, myself and my sister didn't even tell him she passed away. He read it in the papers. Mary, forget your brothers and you will always wonder how they were related to you as you obviously have much better genes than they do. Here is what I would do. Sue them and make their life hell. I have come to the conclusion that I am going out of this world as a strong person and not to be walked on anymore. Life is too short to be nice, go for it Mary.