Hello Mary,.thank you for the friend request. I will warn you..I am very bad at responding to emails...I just tend to space out, and forget to respond..so if I don,t respond to some of your emails..it is just me. Have a good day.
Mary, sorry for your loss. I found Legacy / Bereaved Spouses to be such a help, because everyone here *knows* the loss, going through the grief. I don't post very often, but read almost every day - for me it is such a comfort being with others on this journey. So many Angel's here, too.
I see you are a recent member, thank for your friend request. I see that your lost your husband June of this year, I am truly sad that you too have had to endure what everyone here has suffered. I am truly sorry that your beloved Joe has departed. The shock and feeling that you are feeling are normal and no you are not going crazy. For me, when I watched my Mark take his last breath, I sat there in stunned silence. Not sure what to do, who to call or worse, how I was supposed to react. It all seemed like a bad nightmare, one of which I was sure I would wake up from. It was not, and as quickly as those thoughts raced thru my mind, the tears and uncontrollable sobbing started. It took rescue and the police about 20 minutes to arrive, in those minutes I can not even begin to list the emotions I was thrown into. All in all, it took 4 hours before the coroner arrived and everyone left. By this time I was exhausted, had a splitting headache and eventually fell asleep from shear exhaustion. Waking up just made things worse, most of our friends had moved away and so it was just me and our dog Bella. What was left of my family was 1100 miles away in Florida. Phone calls seemed to add to my misery, but, as each day moved on, I was finding ways to cope. I still had my job and did not take time off, just kept working. Mark had wanted himself donated to a teaching hospital so there was no immediate service to plan for. Bella was one of my special angels, she kept me busy walking her and over a short period of time I took her out more and more. Walking without thinking about where I was and where I was going, just lost in my thoughts. We had a set route, so I guess I was on autopilot. The walks helped, I took time off at Christmas and drove home. Being around my family helped, but the quiet times I had when driving became another good outlet for me. I had time to reflect, to think clearly, to make decisions and to eventually decide that I needed help. Once I got back to Texas I found this site and my real healing began with just one post. I was not alone, just a few clicks away from venting, hearing other's stories and what they did or did not do.
Mary, please feels free to reach out to me anytime, you can post on my page...take care dear sister...hugs to you
Thank you for the friend request - I humbly accept, and want to say that your contributions to our caring family are so gratefully welcomed. I do hope that being here with us is helping you as you go through your journey along this uncharted path we all walk. The blessing is that at least we know we are not walking this path alone - we have each other to talk with and to whom we can offer a hand when someone stumbles, as we all do sometimes. If you find yourself stumbling my friend, do not hesitate to reach out to me please. I do not always see posts right away, but promise that I will always respond as soon as possible.
Wishing you a peaceful weekend, and sending a big hug -
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved Joe. All of us here have found ourselves in the dark frightening place of losing our spouse, and although our lives and circumstances may differ greatly, what we share is a common understanding of the enormity of such grief, and how fearful and helpless it can make us feel.
Here we are invited to share our feelings without fear of judgement. There is only the desire to accept and offer unconditional support and comfort to each other as we all navigate this new world we inhabit without our loved ones by our side.
Please be gentle and kind with yourself Mary, as there is such tender pain surrounding your heart now. I won't begin to suggest that time will make things better, because there is no one pah toward our future for us - we all travel forward at our own pace in our own way. However, make no mistake - we travel together, and watch out for each other. We will watch out for you willingly, and know that you are not alone in your sorrow and grief. I lost my husband Larry three years ago, and were it not for the compassion and love I found in this uncommon family, who knows what would have become of me.
I keep you in my prayers, and wish for you today some moments of peace and calm -