Hello Mary,.thank you for the friend request. I will warn you..I am very bad at responding to emails...I just tend to space out, and forget to respond..so if I don,t respond to some of your emails..it is just me. Have a good day.

Mary

Thanks for accepting our friendship.  Nice to know you!  I live just outside of Vancouver, B.C. in the burbs.  So hot here!  

Mary, sorry for your loss.  I found Legacy / Bereaved Spouses to be such a help, because everyone here *knows* the loss, going through the grief.  I don't post very often, but read almost every day - for me it is such a comfort being with others on this journey.  So many Angel's here, too.

Dear Mary,

I see you are a recent member, thank for your friend request.  I see that your lost your husband June of this year, I am truly sad that you too have had to endure what everyone here has suffered.  I am truly sorry that your beloved Joe has departed.  The shock and feeling that you are feeling are normal and no you are not going crazy.  For me, when I watched my Mark take his last breath, I sat there in stunned silence.  Not sure what to do, who to call or worse, how I was supposed to react.  It all seemed like a bad nightmare, one of which I was sure I would wake up from.  It was not, and as quickly as those thoughts raced thru my mind, the tears and uncontrollable sobbing started.  It took rescue and the police about 20 minutes to arrive, in those minutes I can not even begin to list the emotions I was thrown into.  All in all, it took 4 hours before the coroner arrived and everyone left.  By this time I was exhausted, had a splitting headache and eventually fell asleep from shear exhaustion.  Waking up just made things worse, most of our friends had moved away and so it was just me and our dog Bella.  What was left of my family was 1100 miles away in Florida.  Phone calls seemed to add to my misery, but, as each day moved on, I was finding ways to cope.  I still had my job and did not take time off, just kept working.  Mark had wanted himself donated to a teaching hospital so there was no immediate service to plan for.  Bella was one of my special angels, she kept me busy walking her and over a short period of time I took her out more and more.  Walking without thinking about where I was and where I was going, just lost in my thoughts.  We had a set route, so I guess I was on autopilot.  The walks helped, I took time off at Christmas and drove home.  Being around my family helped, but the quiet times I had when driving became another good outlet for me.  I had time to reflect, to think clearly, to make decisions and to eventually decide that I needed help.  Once I got back to Texas I found this site and my real healing began with just one post.  I was not alone, just a few clicks away from venting, hearing other's stories and what they did or did not do.

Mary, please feels free to reach out to me anytime, you can post on my page...take care dear sister...hugs to you

Dear Mary,

Thank you for the friend request - I humbly accept, and want to say that your contributions to our caring family are so gratefully welcomed. I do hope that being here with us is helping you as you go through your journey along this uncharted path we all walk. The blessing is that at least we know we are not walking this path alone - we have each other to talk with and to whom we can offer a hand when someone stumbles, as we all do sometimes. If you find yourself stumbling my friend, do not hesitate to reach out to me please. I do not always see posts right away, but promise that I will always respond as soon as possible.

Wishing you a peaceful weekend, and sending a big hug -

Love, Chuck