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Losing Friends

Posted on January 9, 2009 at 5:52pm 1 Comment 0 Likes

I recently, well three days ago lost a friend who was in a car accident. Joey was such a funny kid. He was always the smartest person i ever knew and and the same time did not use his head. He apparently was going 100 mph down a street and a lady with a infant in the car went to pull into a private street. She was driving a SUV and Joey was driving a honda crx. He collided with her head on and the SUV did a 360 and at the same time Joeys car continously spun around and slammed right into a poll… Continue

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At 11:57pm on February 2, 2009, martina houser said…: Hey, was thinking about and hope things are ok. In your reply to me you mentioned you used to cut. Can I ask, did that start before or after your first friends death?

At 4:44pm on January 27, 2009, martina houser said…: oh i forgot, music has always helped me cope. When my grandma died, there was 2 songs that remined me of her. One is an oldie--Lean On Me. and the other one is by Mazzy Star, and it' name is Into Dust on her "So Tonight That I Might See" Please take care of yourself.

At 4:40pm on January 27, 2009, martina houser said…: Melissa, I am new to this site, but your blog was so familar, I felt compelled to write to you. Losses at your age do seem to be so much harder to deal with because you are young (which is a wonderful thing) but you haven't developed the experience of older people to deal with losses as well, and like the other lady said, your hormones are out of control and that makes things worse. (Trust me, it happens again when your pregnant.) I know you probably think I am just an old person and doesn't have a clue what you are feeling, but I do. I lost 4 friends in my teenage years and early 20's. It seemed so unbearable, that I thought I couldn't make it another day. It must be even more difficult when you lose someone that you could lean on and was your stability, your rock like it sounds like Joey was to you. My grandmother was that person in my life. I like you thought about suicide after her death, because I felt so lost, so unstable, so hopeless. The thing that kept me from doing it, was I knew she would be so disappointed in me. I think Joey would be too from what you said. Also I want you to think about how you felt when your other friend committed suicide. How did that make you feel? Do you want to make others feel that way? I am so sorry your friend succumbed to the stresses that this world has put on our young people....but it does get better. Please don't do anything to hurt yourself, because in turn you hurt everyone close to you. When you have these thoughts, then it is time to speak to someone who can help you work through this. It doesn't mean your crazy or weak, it means you are smart and know when you need to lean on someone. Don't put all of Joey's hardwork to waste. please write me back if you want.

At 6:26pm on January 21, 2009, sandra said…: SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS

At 10:41pm on January 14, 2009, Peace said…: Melissa,
My email is JaniPea7@AOL.COM. You can email me anytime. If I didn't say so, I am female. I had a male friend of mine die in the freezing cold last Jan. a year ago in Northern Va. He literally froze to death. His parents had him cremated too. It made me so mad. Now there is no where for me to visit him either except where he died. It's a good couple of hours or more from here near Washington so I probably won't get there. Take Care. Think about everything I said.