I agree with Debbie. getting your feelings out is what this place is for. As a group we can understand better than most what each of us is experiencing. We sympathize for the bad days and cheer when people have a good day. So remember…"
i'm not sure if it is any easier when you lose your spouse after a long illness. My Melanie fought colon cancer for two and a half years. I have only experienced the slow expected death and have wondered what the short unexpected side is…"
I am sure you have heard all the cliches that are supposed to make us feel better. Grief is not easy, it's not fair and there is no miracle cure. It has been two years since I lost Melanie. I can look back now and see how much…"
our oldest son got married 8 months after Melanie passed. towards the end of the reception my family started getting together for some family pictures. When i looked across the hall I saw melanie's family doing the same thing without…"
"Last saturday the 28th was the two year anniversary of Melanie's passing. I kept myself busy but almost lost it a couple of times. I was told by a good friend right after her death that as time goes by people will stop checking in on me. I…"
Hi Micheal. I am so happy you were able to connect with everyone else..and that you continued to come here even tho you had yet to receive a response. I dunno why I clicked on your name that night, I saw you were online, and when I read your post, and realized it had been nearly 10 days, I knew I had to do something! If no ne had responded to me when I first came here, I would have been crushed...lol...I am glad you had the tenacity to hang around. I think the best thing about this place, is I know I am not alone in my grief and emotional fears...and there is always someone hear to support us. I am sorry your wife died, and she was so young!
Family doesn,t really understand..they seem to think that we "should be over it" as time passes. Unless they have been in our shoes, they can,t know that sometimes it gets WORSE as
time passes...and, also, sometimes our "Family" tends to be people we're are "Stuck with" (Not imeadiate family, like your children) they might be people we would have never befriended...where I now live my husbands family lives here..and if I asked they would help me..but I don,y want to b obligated to them. Which is tough, as I DON!T DRIVE! And I am stuck in an area with no public transportation...in Oklahoma..where we retired to 13 years ago...the rest of my family and friends are in Northern California, where I plan to return to, but I seem to be frozen in time, and immobile. I just hope it will,get better and I will find the will to get my tushie in gear.
So, welcome Micheal..btw, I LOVE that u talk to yr wife all the time...I do the same. I feel BOb is always with me, and he helps me get through each day. Bye for now..
Hi Micheal...welcome to Legacy. NO one has responded, as your post is kind of hidden on your personal page. Omg, I hope you DIDN,t think we were ignoring you...you need to go to the main page, and click on bereaved spouses, or when a spouse or partner dies...this site is a bit difficult at first to navigate. I feel so badly there wqsn,t a response to your post..
YES YES YES?..what you are feeling is what all of us feel...my husband died of cancer 4 months after your wife died, and I totally understand what you are feeling. There is so much support and understanding here...it
just takes finding the correct place...I hope I have steered you in the right direction...I just happened to see your name that u were online right now...so don,t worry..you have friends here...and we will all be here for you. I will also contact Steve Cain who is sort of one of the people who started this group, and he might b able to transfer your post to where we can all respond.
If you have more trouble, don,t hesitate to leave ME a post on my page, MARY JANE...and yes, I cry every day..just like you. On Saturday, it would have been Bobs and my 50th anniversary...so I am pretty much a wreck at the moment...but rest assured, we are here for you.
My wife and I were given the diagnosis of her cancer two months after her 41st birthday. We were told she would do chemo until she couldn't handle it anymore. She fought for 2 and a half years. She died October 28th 2015, it was our middle sons 18th birthday. She was at home in our living room, a room I still have trouble going into. I talk to her every day and cry most of them. I realized this past weekend that I have trouble getting around family. Especially her side. I'm just wondering if this is something others have experienced?