Michele, I really dont think this gal is in it for love. I certainly do not understand her smoking around your dad..I feel really bad for you. I do not think your dad is thinking straight. Although I can understand him being lonely. My husbend has been gone for over a year. The thought of moving on for me is not fair to another man, I am still in love with my husband. Greif is hard to cope. It makes us do things we never thought possible. Beleive me I know. i PRAY this woman is in it for the right reasons. Prayers for you and your family as well. Hang in there..