Michele, People are certainly strange and it amazes me the things that they say, thinking they are helping, but they only hurt you more than you are hurting. I tell anyone that asks that "I am doing about as well a I can expect to under the circumstances." If that doesn't tell them enough, then too bad. I just cannot believe that anyone could compare losing your husband to a divorce. They 'choose' to divorce, we did not choose to have our husbands die. Sometimes I just hate people. I can talk to people on here openly and honestly and I guess it just has to be like that. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Michelle, You are absolutely right that a divorce cannot be even thought about with what we have experienced. I am just existing since I lost my husband. He and I were extremely close and were together all the time. We shopped together, went everywhere together, even to go for gas around the block, we went together. He would come directly home from work and when I worked I did the same. He never went out without me. And when our kids were born, if we couldn't take them, we just didn't go. I love him so very much. I don't want to live without him. It will be one year in November and I am dreading this whole time. I wish I could be more positive for you but I am still hurting terribly. I will keep you in my prayers.