Hi Michelle - I read your post that your husband had CF.  I have two grandchildren with CF.  They are ages 9 and 11.  Our son and my grandchildren live here with me.  My daughter-in-law died almost 6 years ago (she didn't have CF though she had Graves disease and died after surgery to remove her appendix).  After she died we had our son and the grandkids move in so we could help with their care.  My husband was taking the grandkids to school on 11/5/2010 and ended up in an accident with a semi.  He died but the kids are okay and didn't get hurt. 

I just felt that I needed to reach out to you and first of all thank you for being willing to reach out to someone with CF and take the risk of loving them and marrying them even knowing you may not have a long future together.  I hope my grandchildren will find someone like that someday. I wish they were further along with the new medications they are working on so that your husband's life might have been prolonged.  We are also very involved with the CF foundation and we have a benefit every year.  I am sorry you have had trials with your in laws.  My son has had some of that too with his former in-laws.  It is almost like they feel it is his fault Crystal died.  She was only 24 when she died and he was also 24.  He is now 30.  I too find work to be a distraction and weekends harder.  I am 54 so although I feel like I am a younger widow - I guess I am old when I compare myself to you.  May God continue to be with you and comfort you - prayers of hope going up for you.

Sheryl McCormick

Michelle, so sorry for your losses. Drugs & alcohol- yep, those seem to be the most common answers- even my close family & friends- Christians- suggest those things might help! I can't believe it. I have to much respect for my husband to bow to those things, yet I completely understand why others go that route. Suicide- never, but again, I would not condemn  the soul who suffered as we are, to have given up. It's really almost impossible at times. I am so thankful for my God & his word. For me, I have found a purpose & that is I am really the only person alive who knew Larry & can share him with his son, more & more as he grows. He just turned 13 yrs. & there are alot of things he should know but is not ready for. I just try to encourage him in the right things as his dad would want. I used to live to make Larry happy, but now I live to honor him. I am the opposite of you though when it comes to work. Larry & I worked together for 7 1/2 yrs. so it is especially difficult to be at work, but I have to stay another 1 1/2 before I am "vested" for retirement. I don't know what I'll do for income if/when I leave. Nothing is certain any more. as for wondering if it gets any better I have to say I am getting  more use to being alone, yet I continue to miss him just as much & perhaps more with each new day. It has been almost 8 months for me & I still haven't accepted that he will never be back. Crazy.

I wish you the best & remember to take things as they come- stay in the present! Peace & Hugs, Christy

Michelle, It has been eight months for me. I lost my soulmate suddenly on August 14, 2010. It was a a week and a half before we were supposed to take our daughter 4 hrs away to college. To say the least, it was the hardest 4 hr drive of my life. Alone, all the way home, I cried all the way. Don't know how I made it. I have felt exactly as you do. I did not know how I would go on without him. He was my everything. I love him SO much. I know our love was special. It will get better in time. It seems for me, just recently. The kids and I moved to be near family. I miss our home, but for me, I do believe all the memories were killing me inside. Everything in every town near our home had some kind of memory. I cried so much. It has gotten better. Just take it one day at a time. I have chosen to live by this motto. I have to. Or I might not be here either. Just know that we are here for you whenever you have anything you would like to share. We can relate. No one understands unless they have been there. We care and know that time does not always heal so quicky.  All of us in our own time. Sorry I can't tell you some better news about it getting better right away. I wish I could take everyones pain away and reunite them with their loved ones for awhile. So we could all say the words that were not said. Just know you are not alone. Hugs, Julie

Hi Michele

I have to say it does to a point. I lost my husband aug 31, 2010. Then in feb i lost my sister! That one has been the toughest. The first 3 months were a blur. It was like a big empty place in my heart. After 32 yrs i didn't know how to act or what to do with my time. I am glad i work 2 jobs. I gets me out of the house, which is now so empty. I went and got a dog. She is 2 and her name is Liza! I also go to a grief group and a counselor.

I can relate, as we all can i guess. I just lost my partner Bill on March 23, it isn't any easier for me, harder i find, coming up on the one month mark, feels like yesterday