My wife also died of pancreatic cancer. She was six days past her 57th birthday. It was roughly six months after her diagnosis. Like your husband, her symptoms were vague (food did not taste right... which led to weight…"
Everyone grieves in a different way, but from my experience, the hole or void in our life that we feel on the loss of our spouse results for a loss of connectedness to the world. This is the root of the loneliness that we…"
"Thank you for reaching out to me that means a lot. I was thinking about finding a group to join. I thought I could do this by myself but I can't. Every little thing reminds me of him and I start to cry. We have horses and they keep me very…"
For me it is not a matter of letting my wife go but forging a new relationship with her. I believe that Molly will always be a part of my life and she will always be in my heart. In many things I do on a daily basis, I can hear…"
So sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. I lost my wife to pancreatic cancer in Dec 2012. The first few months were just a fog for me. The pain of her loss has gradually lessened over the last 18 months. The…"
"Greg: I'm coming to the dog adoption discussion late, but it still appears that you are on the look. I adopted a 4 1/2 year old Golden Retriever last July. She has been a savior for me. She added focus to my days and it is…"
""That is why I can't remember anything?" - Yes, it is true. The pain of our losses really messes with our ability to focus, to remember and to complete seemly easy tasks. Since Molly dies, I live by lists. If it…"
Early after losing Molly, I envisioned this void you describe as a huge hole in the road and my grief work as shoring up the sides of the hole and building bridges across it. Shoring to allow me to get close to the hole without fear of…"
I have found that it is a good idea to have something planned for these momentous days. It is just not a good idea to leave them to chance. Barbara and Marsha offer some suggestions. For me it has just making sure that I am in the…"
I'll second Barbara's comments. It has been almost 15 months since Molly dies and I still toss around interactions we had while I was trying to care for her as she was sick and fading away. One of the longer term goals…"
I am glad to hear that you have found a grief group that you can connect with. You know from my previous posts that I have had some very positive experiences in the bereavement group that I found. For me it is the sense of…"
"It has only been twelve days since losing my soul mate and the love of my life and the pain is sometimes unbearable."
It is so soon for you and the pain of losing Pamela is so front and center. My memory of the first month…"
I am so sorry to have to welcome you to this group.
I had a similar experience at the beginning of 2013. I lost my wife of 32 years to pancreatic cancer on December 29, 2012. I had been her primary caregiver and had only been back to…"
I just passed the one year mark from Molly's death. The last two weeks in December were quite difficult for the reasons that you pointed out. Friends and family helped me a lot by spending time with me or calling me to let me…"
What you are expressing are normal manifestations of grief. Your loss is so recent and the pain is so close at hand. Yes, it does get easier. It helps to talk about it with people, such as the teacher at work, who have…"
Thank you for reaching out to me that means a lot. I was thinking about finding a group to join. I thought I could do this by myself but I can't. Every little thing reminds me of him and I start to cry. We have horses and they keep me very busy. But on the other hand it also hurts because it was our dream and now I am living it by myself without him. So I will take your advise and join a group with others that have dealt with the same thing I am going through and will understand how I am feeling. Thank you Mike