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At 9:33pm on October 13, 2012, Darrell Sours said…: Hey Just wanted to check in and say hello. Hope you are doing OK.

At 8:57pm on October 11, 2012, Darrell Sours said…: Hey Paul. I want to offer my condolences to you on the loss of your partner Mike. I lost my wonderful partner Homer back in February. In fact Monday the 9Th was eight months since he passed and it would have also been our 31st anniversary also. I can't even put into words how much I miss him. We met on October 9Th 1981. So we always called that day our anniversary because we basically moved in with each other right away. He was a soft hearted, kind man. I can't put into words how much I miss him.

I wish I could offer you so great words of advice on how to deal with your loss but I don't have any. As I mentioned to someone else on this site I guess it gets better with time but it is not something I think you really get over. I have been talking to my guy since he passed several times a day sometimes I think I feel his presence but I'm not sure it could be just wishful thinking. It helps me though just to talk . I am also thankful that Homer was with me all of those years. I thank God for that everyday because Homer and I truly loved each other and true love is so hard to find in this world. I was blessed. It sounds like you and Mike really cared for and loved each other also.

I doubt if I was much help to you but please to feel free to reach to me anytime. Take care Paul.

At 11:15pm on October 10, 2012, Scott Hankins said…: I have lost two husbands and even though its been a year still very fresh. I can understand being lonely. Night time was always the hardest. I can always trick my mind during the day but when it comes to bed the truth is there. I spent many sleepless nights watching tv and still do some nights. Animals and family have always helped. Feel free to write whenever you need.

At 10:11pm on October 10, 2012, Scott Hankins said…: Hi Paul just read your message. It is the worst at first. I can not say the pain will ever go away but each day will get easier. All of your feelings are normal. Crying will continue for a long time it happens when u least expect it. Support is very important. Its okay to be alone but be sure not be alone all of the time. Just take it one day at a time.