"THANKS Jerry and Marsha H. for your comments, I really appreciate your kindness.I'm pretty upset with my family and my husbands right now....my brother and his girlfriend (they both lost their spouses) were the only ones who sent me a card…"
"Today is the anniversary of my husbands death....I can't believe it's been a year all ready. Some days it seems like yesterday and somedays it feel like 10 years! I too wish I could have one more day with my husband....I miss him so…"
" Dear Frank,
I am so sorry for your loss. My husband passed away last October 20 2011 and it still doesn't seem real to me. I went to a bereavement group tonight called: "Grief Share" and it was pretty good for…"
"Dear Carol Kayser,
I just read your post and I like the idea of releasing balloons. My husband died last October 20,2011, his birthday is on the 1st of October and I'm dreading October so much!!! October was our month...we loved to ride…"
What web site did you go to to find this info because I need to send something like that to my family and friends also.....NONE of them have been around and they have no idea how hard it is when you lose your husband and what…"
I'm so sorry for your loss.Hopefully you can find some comfort through this site. We're all going through the same terrible thing and just hearing from other people who are going through the same thing…"
It's been some time since I've been on here, but today is a really hard day for me.....it's been 10 months today that I lost my husband. I've been cring a lot lately..remembering how terrible…"
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband on October 20,2011...our 35th wedding anniversary would have been on the 29th of October. I would like to suggest a book for you...it's called: "Widow to Widow". I…"
I'm SO glad you read the book: "Widow to Widow". After reading the book I didn't feel so crazy. The book explains so much about the process of grief and what other people have gone through. It…"
"To Bruce....Thanks so much for the information. I did finally get the truck to start....I left it run for a good while to charge the battery and today it started right up for me! I've made a note of your info so the next time I'm…"
"Karen and Everyone,
I know I posted this before, but for those who might not have read it..there's a really good book called:"Widow to Widow". My friend is reading it right now so I'm not sure of the author...it…"
I totally know what you mean. I have 4 brothers and none of them EVER ask if they can help me with anything. I called my one brother today because the battery in my husbands truck was dead and I needed to use it…"
I'm so sorry for everything that is happening to you right now. I pray that God will be with you and help you through this difficult time. Try to check into some kind of support group thru your local church or…"
I know how you're feeling...my husband used to fix everything as well. It's so hard when you go to get in the car and it won't start because the battery is dead.I have had to put the battery charger on a few things…"
Hello Peg, I just read your reply tonight. This site for some reason is hard to follow posts . My wife did have cancer,although her illness started as a problem with her vision that was due to a pituitary tumor. Somehow after 4 surgeries, it turned cancerous and spread though out her body. She went through a year of hell on earth then passed away Jan 15,2010. She was just 55 years old.As for the nurse thing, hospice sent a nurse twice a week to check on my wife's condition. They also had and aid come 5 days a week 4 hours a day.She really didn't do much,only god thing was it allowed me to leave for sort periods to go to the store. Mainly sat in our bedroom and watched tv. The week before my wife died she told the nurse she didn't want the aid any longer,by this time my wife was blind,she told the nurse all the aid did was sit in the room and rustle papers. So they stopped sending her. I am glad since I spent the last week next to my wife rubbing her back to help ease the pain. Maybe she knew the end was near and didn't want tone around a stranger. It is sad when we can't get along with our children,but I see it happen all too often. Hope you are doing well.Jerry
It seems that everyone fels that as time passes you should be back to normal. But no one knows how we feel in or mind and especially out hearts. I still often think about what was happening when my wife was alive on certain dates, things like was she in the hospital, or were we going to the city for treatments. I try not to do this often, better to think of the good times,which in reality there wer so many more. I have 2 married children and at first they were a little more supportive, but after 2 1/2 years seem to have backed away. I even had to cut my brother inlaw out of my life, he made a few stupid comments soon after his sister died that I didnt like.I feel that I have to do what I think is right for me. Hope you find some peace in the future.