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Loss of only grandchild

Posted on September 16, 2009 at 7:52pm 0 Comments 0 Likes

My "normal" life came to an end on August 25, 2009 when I lost my precious grandson to SIDS. I feel that as a grandparent people do not understand that we grieve not only for ourselves but for our child as well. How do we help our child and grieve for ourselves as well. I find myseld being strong for my daughter when inside I am broken. I appreciate anyone who has been through a similiar circumstance that can offer any encouragement. I feel as grandparents we are not allowed to grieve....

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At 10:40am on February 11, 2011, MH Kelly said…: Our Jaxson was born April 2, 2010 and his "Angel" date was August 6, 2010 from SIDS. That 4am phone call brought us to our knees. It is the worst pain that we have felt in our 59 years. The last five months we have gone thru the days in a fog. We try with our might to be strong for our daughter and soninlaw (their first child) but, some days we do not have the strength. Some family and friends will not talk about Jaxson, as if he didn't exist. I distant myself from them. I have four months of pictures to last me a life time.

At 9:47pm on December 6, 2010, Kalyn said…: Rita
It was good to hear from you...how are you all doing? We are trying to hang on. Addison will have been 1 on the 16th of this month, the day after our oldest grand daughters birthday. Last year we thought it was a great blessing for them to be able to have birthdays so close but this year we find ourselves wishing things were a little different. What a difference a year makes. For some reason, it just hit me a few days before Thanksgiving that she had died on the 25th and that meant that she would be gone 8 months on Thanksgiving day and 9 on Christmas day....this whole month has been hard, it just feels like the world is closing in on us. Like we're going through the first weeks all over again. It just doesn't seem to get any easier! I have been wondering how everyone was but I haven't been on here much myself. Trying to keep busy and away from the house as much as I can. Please know that you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers, especially during this holiday season..thank you for taking time to write and check on us

At 8:19am on April 11, 2010, Kalyn said…: We lost our precious angel on the 25th of March, 2010. She was three months old. I just don't seem to be able to cope very well. You are right, as grandparents we not only grieve for our loss but the loss our children are suffering. It is hard, trying to be strong for them when all you feel inside is empty and heartbroken also. I too feel like I'm not suppose to grieve but be strong so they won't have to watch me suffer. I kept our sweet baby Addison Grace two days a week. Everybody keeps saying to get back into a routine that it will help...Addison was my routine. Now my mornings are so empty and quiet. I find myself at the cemetary most days just sitting with her because the house just is not the same without her in it.

I am so sorry for your loss....will be praying for you. Please write if you want to talk....

At 5:55pm on February 15, 2010, laquita buxton said…: Today would have been my grandsons third birthday. He died 8 months ago. He was my only grandchild. I spent most of today crying, does the pain ever get easier? I thought if I could make it through Christmas I would be okay. My heart is still breaking, I miss him so much. Any word of wisdom that may help me cope? Need help, Laquita

At 2:55pm on September 17, 2009, Lucy Moore said…: I lost my only grandson when he was 26 and I know it is hard to grieve and still try to comfort the parents. You just have to let them know you share their grief, that you too loved the grandchild and you know how much they loved their child because of your love for your children and although you cannot know the extent of their pain but it is very difficult to see them suffer. Your child needs your support so look to other family members or good friends for your solace. You and the parents will never get over this. It just gets easier to bear. It has been nearly 2 years and I think of him every day with pleasant memories. I hope you and your family can find peace.