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Will You Get To Say Goodbye?

This morning I read in an obituary that a woman in my community “Left this life peacefully in the arms of her husband, children and grandchildren.” Another obituary stated, “She died peacefully surrounded by her loving family.” The deaths described sound almost surreal. Is it realistic for us to want to have this…See More
Aug 20
T.C. Goodwin commented on Robbie Miller Kaplan's blog post Will you get to say goodbye?
"Thanks for your post...Our words can be as harmful as a sword. Words can hurt us. It is best to mend relationships before its too late (NWT Proverbs 12: 18)"
Aug 19
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Will You Get To Say Goodbye?

This morning I read in an obituary that a woman in my community “Left this life peacefully in the arms of her husband, children and grandchildren.” Another obituary stated, “She died peacefully surrounded by her loving family.” The deaths described sound almost surreal. Is it realistic for us to want to have this…See More
Aug 18
Robbie Miller Kaplan's blog post was featured

Extending Sympathy When You’re out of Touch

When I opened the morning newspaper, the death of a former school superintendent was front page news. I worked for the schools during the superintendent’s tenure and his widow had been in my book club. I had not seen either of them in over a decade.Later that day I remembered that my former book club member had…See More
Aug 10
Robbie Miller Kaplan posted a blog post

Extending Sympathy When You’re out of Touch

When I opened the morning newspaper, the death of a former school superintendent was front page news. I worked for the schools during the superintendent’s tenure and his widow had been in my book club. I had not seen either of them in over a decade.Later that day I remembered that my former book club member had…See More
Aug 10
DJ commented on Robbie Miller Kaplan's blog post Why Obituaries Matter
"Whereas obituaries may be for the living today, they may be even more precious for the living tomorrow - researching their ancestors. If we think only of today, perhaps we do know everyone who needs/wants to be informed; however we don't know…"
Jul 21
Robbie Miller Kaplan's blog post was featured

Making a Memorial Donation

Many of us choose to make donations in memory of our loved ones and those of our friends, colleagues, family members and neighbors. I made one just today in the memory of a friend’s mom. The donation was easy; the death announcement indicated where donations should be made, and I went online and made the payment.But when making these donations, do we know exactly who is getting the money and how it…See More
Jul 10
 

Comforting Words - When You Don't Know What to Say

Robbie Miller Kaplan

Robbie has traveled an interesting road to becoming a successful author. When she started writing career books, she had no idea she would eventually write about loss and grief. It's her personal experience and desire to make a difference in the lives of those grieving a loss that motivated her to write How to Say It When You Don’t Know What to Say.

 

Robbie writes from a unique perspective as a mother who has lost two children. It's Robbie’s goal to help her readers communicate effectively when their loved ones, neighbors, colleagues, and community members face difficult times. Her book is now available in e-book and print for Illness & Death, Suicide, and Miscarriage and e-books on Death of a Child, Death of a Stillborn or Newborn Baby, Pet Loss, Caregiver Responsibilities, Divorce and Job Loss. All publications are available in Amazon's Kindle Store.

 


Visit Robbie's website at www.wordsthatcomfort.com or follow her on Twitter @How2SayIt.

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Will You Get To Say Goodbye?

Posted on August 18, 2015 at 4:30pm 1 Comment

This morning I read in an obituary that a woman in my community “Left this life peacefully in the arms of her husband, children and grandchildren.” Another obituary stated, “She died peacefully surrounded by her loving family.” 

The deaths described sound almost surreal. Is it realistic for us…

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Extending Sympathy When You’re out of Touch

Posted on August 10, 2015 at 12:54pm 0 Comments

When I opened the morning newspaper, the death of a former school superintendent was front page news. I worked for the schools during the superintendent’s tenure and his widow had been in my book club. I had not seen either of them in over a decade.

Later that day I remembered that my former…

Continue

Making a Memorial Donation

Posted on July 10, 2015 at 7:30am 0 Comments

Many of us choose to make donations in memory of our loved ones and those of our friends, colleagues, family members and neighbors. I made one just today in the memory of a friend’s mom. The donation was easy; the death announcement indicated where donations should be made, and I went online and made the payment.

But when…

Continue

Why Obituaries Matter

Posted on July 1, 2015 at 7:30am 4 Comments

After the death of a close friend, I searched the paper each morning for her obituary. I never found it. My friend was very accomplished; she was an innovator in her field and a philanthropist and she made a real difference in this world. I’m not sure why it was so important for me to relentlessly search; maybe I needed the written validation of her death or this…

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The Importance of Tangible Memories

Posted on June 17, 2015 at 2:30pm 0 Comments

There are reminders of my mother all over the house; the family heirlooms I inherited, the gifts she gave me, family photographs, and the personal items I chose to save. I would not part with the family heirlooms or her handwritten recipe cards, but what about all the letters, cards, and her personal items I elected to keep?…

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At 10:34pm on August 4, 2014, georgia said…
Hi Robbie,how I wish I could send your successions as what to say to a grieving person,to a few uncaring and selfish people that I thought understood what Iam going through .
I wish people get it in their head that grieving has NO expiration date.
Some how people think once a year has passed ,you should be your old self.Guess what people ,,,,you will never be your
old self .
At 10:09am on May 18, 2014, Barbara Maier said…
Thank you Robbie, reading your site, was very helpful. Lost my husband in March, my best friend my soul mate my everything. Life seems so meaningless without him. Friend and family, try to do their best to comfort me, but you are so right to say that what they say does not help. Yes, all the classics that you mention. It's going to be a long road for me, I hope at some point I come come to some acceptance. For now I'm just going through the motions. Facing each day is a struggle. I always prided my self as a strong women, raising 3 kids, running a business, and facing each challange head on, but this by far is the hardest ever. Trying hard to hang tough, thanks for your advice
At 7:20pm on December 28, 2011, Shirley Gutierrez said…

Dear Robbie,

I too have lost 2 of my 3 daughters (to cancer.) My youngest Lisa, died Aug. ll, 2009. My oldest, Linda died 7 months later on March 1, 2010. The first & second holiday seasons were very difficult but I believe this one (2011) has been the worst. I have asked myself many times, "why my daughters, why 2 of them" as if there were a reason & if there were a reason, would it make any difference, would it bring them back. Life goes on in spite of us.

Sincerely, Shirley Gutierrez

At 4:34pm on December 5, 2011, Vicki Blue Brinker said…

Thank you for responding.  It is nice to know there are people who care & want to help.  Blessings, Vicki Blue

At 1:47pm on May 10, 2011, Carl Mathis said…

Hey Robbie, just stopping by to say be encourage, You are in my prayers, be bless and have a wonderful day.

 

Carl
At 6:45am on August 25, 2010, Lee Beck said…
Thanks for your help. I feel very uncomfortable when dealing with someone's grief. Because of this, I generally avoid contact with them. I'm trying to learn more about ways to minimize their pain. Your expertise will help.
At 8:42am on June 11, 2010, Gaye Bowman said…
I was so touched by your article Lessons Learned from My Dad and I would really like to share this with my daughters. Howeverf I am not too computer savy and cannot seem to forward this to them. Do you have a suggestion ow I can do this? Thanks and God bless

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