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T.C. Goodwin commented on Robbie Miller Kaplan's blog post Must the Obituary Include a Cause of Death?
"I dont think an obituary should state a cause of death. I think of cases of suicide, murder, bad habits, lethal injection....( negative things).  I just dont want to think about that stuff at a funeral. I think a funeral should memoralize…"
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Must the Obituary Include a Cause of Death?

When I checked the obituaries in my local newspaper today, I found four out of the 33 stated a cause of death. Of the four, only one was specific. While it is customary to state the cause of death in an obituary, not every family is comfortable doing so. Or, the family is willing to state in general terms, but…See More
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Must the Obituary Include a Cause of Death?

When I checked the obituaries in my local newspaper today, I found four out of the 33 stated a cause of death. Of the four, only one was specific. While it is customary to state the cause of death in an obituary, not every family is comfortable doing so. Or, the family is willing to state in general terms, but…See More
Feb 3
T.C. Goodwin commented on Robbie Miller Kaplan's blog post Condolences When a Friendship Is Strained
" Even though the relationship is strained... a true & loving friend ( distant and far) will show love and reach out to that person by card or letter. Encouraging words have a very powerful effect on those who are grieving. -Proverbs 17:17"
Jan 20
Robbie Miller Kaplan's blog post was featured

Condolences When a Friendship Is Strained

It’s hard not to feel sorrow when a friendship flounders. Maybe you are experiencing a difficult time and a friend vanishes; or, a friend experiences life changes and seems to drop out. It can be hard to pinpoint what has happened and if you are uncomfortable asking, you can only speculate.This happened to me when a friend disappeared while I was going through a tough time. To make…See More
Jan 19
Robbie Miller Kaplan posted a blog post

Condolences When a Friendship Is Strained

It’s hard not to feel sorrow when a friendship flounders. Maybe you are experiencing a difficult time and a friend vanishes; or, a friend experiences life changes and seems to drop out. It can be hard to pinpoint what has happened and if you are uncomfortable asking, you can only speculate.This happened to me when a friend disappeared while I was going through a tough time. To make…See More
Jan 19
Robbie Miller Kaplan's blog post was featured

New Year, Fresh Perspective: 4 Timely Tips

The news was horribly sad: The mother of my daughter’s best friend was terminally ill and in hospice care. She and her husband had retired two years ago and relocated to a community nestled in the Blue Ridge Mountains. It was a new beginning with different friends and adventures awaiting; now, she has just a few weeks to…See More
Jan 7
Heatha commented on Robbie Miller Kaplan's blog post New Year, Fresh Perspective
"I thank you for sharing your post on this subject, as this is how I look at the New Year. New perspective. I have to take care of myself first, in order to be able to take care of any other aspect of my life. I realized that there are going to be…"
Jan 4
 

Comforting Words - When You Don't Know What to Say

Robbie Miller Kaplan

Robbie has traveled an interesting road to becoming a successful author. When she started writing career books, she had no idea she would eventually write about loss and grief. It's her personal experience and desire to make a difference in the lives of those grieving a loss that motivated her to write How to Say It When You Don’t Know What to Say.

 

Robbie writes from a unique perspective as a mother who has lost two children. It's Robbie’s goal to help her readers communicate effectively when their loved ones, neighbors, colleagues, and community members face difficult times. Her book is now available in e-book and print for Illness & Death, Suicide, and Miscarriage and e-books on Death of a Child, Death of a Stillborn or Newborn Baby, Pet Loss, Caregiver Responsibilities, Divorce and Job Loss. All publications are available in Amazon's Kindle Store.

 


Visit Robbie's website at www.wordsthatcomfort.com or follow her on Twitter @How2SayIt.

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Must the Obituary Include a Cause of Death?

Posted on February 3, 2016 at 11:00am 1 Comment

When I checked the obituaries in my local newspaper today, I found four out of the 33 stated a cause of death. Of the four, only one was specific. While it is customary to state the cause of death in an obituary, not every family is comfortable doing so. Or, the family is…

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Condolences When a Friendship Is Strained

Posted on January 19, 2016 at 9:30am 1 Comment

I t’s hard not to feel sorrow when a friendship flounders. Maybe you are experiencing a difficult time and a friend vanishes; or, a friend experiences life changes and seems to drop out. It can be hard to pinpoint what has happened and if you are uncomfortable asking, you can only speculate.

This happened to…

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New Year, Fresh Perspective: 4 Timely Tips

Posted on January 4, 2016 at 12:00pm 1 Comment

The news was horribly sad: The mother of my daughter’s best friend was terminally ill and in hospice care. She and her husband had retired two years ago and relocated to a community nestled in the Blue Ridge Mountains. It was a new beginning with different friends and adventures awaiting;…

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Our Cherished Objects

Posted on December 21, 2015 at 10:30am 0 Comments

My daughter inherited my mother’s strand of pearls. They were housed in a silk case that was very worn and I replaced it with one of mine, more worthy of the cherished heirloom. I was then faced with the dilemma; what to do with the silk case that my mother’s hands touched every time she…

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When a Sympathy Note Is Belated – and You Never Met the Deceased

Posted on December 1, 2015 at 8:00am 0 Comments

Oh dear – the days and weeks have passed, and you never wrote the sympathy note. You meant to do it, but it was too hard. You don’t know the bereaved well, and you never met the deceased; nor do you know anything about the relationship between the bereaved and the deceased. How can you…

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At 10:34pm on August 4, 2014, georgia said…
Hi Robbie,how I wish I could send your successions as what to say to a grieving person,to a few uncaring and selfish people that I thought understood what Iam going through .
I wish people get it in their head that grieving has NO expiration date.
Some how people think once a year has passed ,you should be your old self.Guess what people ,,,,you will never be your
old self .
At 10:09am on May 18, 2014, Barbara Maier said…
Thank you Robbie, reading your site, was very helpful. Lost my husband in March, my best friend my soul mate my everything. Life seems so meaningless without him. Friend and family, try to do their best to comfort me, but you are so right to say that what they say does not help. Yes, all the classics that you mention. It's going to be a long road for me, I hope at some point I come come to some acceptance. For now I'm just going through the motions. Facing each day is a struggle. I always prided my self as a strong women, raising 3 kids, running a business, and facing each challange head on, but this by far is the hardest ever. Trying hard to hang tough, thanks for your advice
At 7:20pm on December 28, 2011, Shirley Gutierrez said…

Dear Robbie,

I too have lost 2 of my 3 daughters (to cancer.) My youngest Lisa, died Aug. ll, 2009. My oldest, Linda died 7 months later on March 1, 2010. The first & second holiday seasons were very difficult but I believe this one (2011) has been the worst. I have asked myself many times, "why my daughters, why 2 of them" as if there were a reason & if there were a reason, would it make any difference, would it bring them back. Life goes on in spite of us.

Sincerely, Shirley Gutierrez

At 4:34pm on December 5, 2011, Vicki Blue Brinker said…

Thank you for responding.  It is nice to know there are people who care & want to help.  Blessings, Vicki Blue

At 1:47pm on May 10, 2011, Carl Mathis said…

Hey Robbie, just stopping by to say be encourage, You are in my prayers, be bless and have a wonderful day.

 

Carl
At 6:45am on August 25, 2010, Lee Beck said…
Thanks for your help. I feel very uncomfortable when dealing with someone's grief. Because of this, I generally avoid contact with them. I'm trying to learn more about ways to minimize their pain. Your expertise will help.
At 8:42am on June 11, 2010, Gaye Bowman said…
I was so touched by your article Lessons Learned from My Dad and I would really like to share this with my daughters. Howeverf I am not too computer savy and cannot seem to forward this to them. Do you have a suggestion ow I can do this? Thanks and God bless

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