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What not to say to a bereaved parent

When a friend gave birth to a stillborn baby her granny told her, “Now you have your own angel.” This comment upset my friend and yet her granny repeated it every time they spoke. My friend shared, “I love my granny but my baby is dead and what she is saying to me is no comfort.”It is rare to hear that a baby or…See More
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Sharing Stories – One at a Time

My grandmother was born in Austria and when I visited there this summer I felt an immediate connection. When I had my first bite of apple strudel, it triggered a flood of memories. The last time I ate apple strudel was when I was a child and my grandma made it. I posted a photo of the apple strudel on Facebook and my…See More
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Robbie Miller Kaplan posted a blog post

Sharing Stories – One at a Time

My grandmother was born in Austria and when I visited there this summer I felt an immediate connection. When I had my first bite of apple strudel, it triggered a flood of memories. The last time I ate apple strudel was when I was a child and my grandma made it. I posted a photo of the apple strudel on Facebook and my…See More
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Mark Moran commented on Robbie Miller Kaplan's blog post What to do with all those memories
"A very insightful article about things past generations did not have to face.  For them it was crossing out an address or removing a number, but it seems more personal now when we have to face deleting numbers, old voicemails, and the ghostly…"
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Melinda Guinn commented on Robbie Miller Kaplan's blog post How to Help a Bereaved Family
"My only child, Candace, who had just turned 30 yrs old passed. When I got that phone call my world came crashing down. It's been unhinged ever since, and so have I! She's my LIFE! I moved out of state to be near her, I love her…"
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Comforting Words - When You Don't Know What to Say

Robbie Miller Kaplan

Robbie has traveled an interesting road to becoming a successful author. When she started writing career books, she had no idea she would eventually write about loss and grief. It's her personal experience and desire to make a difference in the lives of those grieving a loss that motivated her to write How to Say It When You Don’t Know What to Say.

 

Robbie writes from a unique perspective as a mother who has lost two children. It's Robbie’s goal to help her readers communicate effectively when their loved ones, neighbors, colleagues, and community members face difficult times. Her book is now available in e-book and print for Illness & Death, Suicide, and Miscarriage and e-books on Death of a Child, Death of a Stillborn or Newborn Baby, Pet Loss, Caregiver Responsibilities, Divorce and Job Loss. All publications are available in Amazon's Kindle Store.

 


Visit Robbie's website at www.wordsthatcomfort.com or follow her on Twitter @How2SayIt.

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What not to say to a bereaved parent

Posted on September 18, 2014 at 12:49pm 0 Comments

When a friend gave birth to a stillborn baby her granny told her, “Now you have your own angel.” This comment upset my friend and yet her granny repeated it every time they spoke. My friend shared, “I love my granny but my baby is dead and what she is saying to me is no comfort.”

It is rare to…

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Sharing Stories – One at a Time

Posted on September 3, 2014 at 7:30am 0 Comments

My grandmother was born in Austria and when I visited there this summer I felt an immediate connection. When I had my first bite of apple strudel, it triggered a flood of memories. The last time I ate apple strudel was when I was a child and my grandma made it. I posted a…

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What to do with all those memories

Posted on August 12, 2014 at 10:00am 1 Comment



When someone dies, they leave behind a footprint. In years past you most likely found old photographs, letters,…

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How to Help a Bereaved Family

Posted on August 4, 2014 at 1:00pm 2 Comments

The death of a family member is more than painful; the absence of a parent or a child throws the entire family out of kilter. Roles are changed, schedules must be realigned, and financial circumstances may be greatly altered. The middle child may now be the youngest, or the eldest child may become an only child.…

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Don't Avoid Calling the Bereaved

Posted on July 23, 2014 at 10:00am 0 Comments

It happens every time I call the bereaved; they sound dreadful when they answer the phone. When they hear my voice and realize I’m calling to say hello, their tone miraculously changes and their gratitude seems to seep through the phone line.

The fact is, our phones rarely ring…

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At 10:34pm on August 4, 2014, georgia said…
Hi Robbie,how I wish I could send your successions as what to say to a grieving person,to a few uncaring and selfish people that I thought understood what Iam going through .
I wish people get it in their head that grieving has NO expiration date.
Some how people think once a year has passed ,you should be your old self.Guess what people ,,,,you will never be your
old self .
At 10:09am on May 18, 2014, Barbara Maier said…
Thank you Robbie, reading your site, was very helpful. Lost my husband in March, my best friend my soul mate my everything. Life seems so meaningless without him. Friend and family, try to do their best to comfort me, but you are so right to say that what they say does not help. Yes, all the classics that you mention. It's going to be a long road for me, I hope at some point I come come to some acceptance. For now I'm just going through the motions. Facing each day is a struggle. I always prided my self as a strong women, raising 3 kids, running a business, and facing each challange head on, but this by far is the hardest ever. Trying hard to hang tough, thanks for your advice
At 7:20pm on December 28, 2011, Shirley Gutierrez said…

Dear Robbie,

I too have lost 2 of my 3 daughters (to cancer.) My youngest Lisa, died Aug. ll, 2009. My oldest, Linda died 7 months later on March 1, 2010. The first & second holiday seasons were very difficult but I believe this one (2011) has been the worst. I have asked myself many times, "why my daughters, why 2 of them" as if there were a reason & if there were a reason, would it make any difference, would it bring them back. Life goes on in spite of us.

Sincerely, Shirley Gutierrez

At 4:34pm on December 5, 2011, Vicki Blue Brinker said…

Thank you for responding.  It is nice to know there are people who care & want to help.  Blessings, Vicki Blue

At 1:47pm on May 10, 2011, Carl Mathis said…

Hey Robbie, just stopping by to say be encourage, You are in my prayers, be bless and have a wonderful day.

 

Carl
At 6:45am on August 25, 2010, Lee Beck said…
Thanks for your help. I feel very uncomfortable when dealing with someone's grief. Because of this, I generally avoid contact with them. I'm trying to learn more about ways to minimize their pain. Your expertise will help.
At 8:42am on June 11, 2010, Gaye Bowman said…
I was so touched by your article Lessons Learned from My Dad and I would really like to share this with my daughters. Howeverf I am not too computer savy and cannot seem to forward this to them. Do you have a suggestion ow I can do this? Thanks and God bless

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