"Marsha, keep your chin up and your powder dry, there's a favorite saying of mine from the days of a Ancient Rome, in the original Latin it went "Illegitimati Non Carbarundem." Which roughly translates into English as"Don't…"
"Marsha, it's sad that your nephew is behaving like the rude overgrown 'Punk' that he has shown himself to be, Often we are beleaguered with people that are blood relatives that we wouldn't have chosen to associate with in the…"
"Mary. Jane. No not me, fear left me completely. I felt drained of all emotion besides grief and anger. I became reckless for a time, engaging in behaviour that was foolish and uncaring, not worried if I met the Grim Reaper myself. I felt that I had…"
"Mary,Jane..I know about auto immune disorders, my wife was a victim of Rheumatoid Arthritis, which is a terrible and disabling ailment. It causes many physical,emotional, and mental terrors, some due to the drugs which are prescribed as a treatment…"
"Marsha, I 'm very sorry to hear about sweet Tootsies illness, I hope things change for the better on the prognosis. It's unfair that we're already full up with heartache and yet we have to bear more loss. I bought my Dear wife Janice…"
"Mary Jane, There is no need to ask for 'Forgiveness' from anybody in this sad club, we're all in the same boat without a paddle at times, sometimes we have to revert to the old dog paddle to keep our heads above water, often our life…"
"Bill, I'm sorry that you had to suffer this loss, after losing my wife Janice of 30 years, back in June of 2013 I've always maintained that I wouldn't wish the pain and emotional devastation of such a loss on my worst enemy. It's…"
"Danny, I've found that it's part of the whole grieving process, going places where you and your beloved once went is tough, my wife Janice and I shared many things, restaurants, movies, we had the same family physician, when I had to visit…"
"Danny, believe me I know exactly how you feel, my wife of 30 years passed away suddenly 3 years ago on June 27th 2013, the pain and memory still haunt me at times, there's just no way to prepare oneself for such a terrible loss. Your loss was…"
"Sara, There's an excellent book out by Carole Brody Fleet by the title of 'Happily Even After' it's deals with the many unique issues that we who grieve deal with every day, I lost my wife of 30 years, and I know how hard the…"
"Trina, Thank you for your post, I have to maintain some sort of detachment to keep from beating my head against the wall. Yes, birthdays,anniversaries are tough, as unfortunately you alsoi are aware. I wish peace for you in the coming months Trina.…"
So very sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved wife and then of your sister-in-law. I lost my husband last August; he was 49 years old. It's been several months now since he is gone, but I still find it difficult to come to terms with my loss. It's irreparable. Like you said, death that is not due to old age is hard to understand and hard to come to grips with. I can relate to your feeling of loss and grief. You have my deepest sympathy. Hope you can find some measure of peace over time.
I lost my beloved wife Janice on June 27, 2013..She was my mate through good times and bad for 27 years. She'd been ill for awhile, and I watched her slowly grow worse, but I saw through eyes that were partially closed in denial. It can be likened to being in a windowless room with no clock, its easy to ignore the lateness of the hour when you're blind to the normal visual indicators. Then you step outside and are shocked to find the darkness. I went to work that morning by exchanging a kiss and an 'I LoveYou', not knowing that it would be the last time, and that upon my return that afternoon I would find her lifeless form on the floor of our home. It's been a long hard journey these last 16 months, you discover things about yourself that never occured before the loss, like how very much connected you were to this woman. What should be obvious, sometimes is as clear as a foggy day, it always is in retrospect.I grew close to her sister Katy, not in a romantic way, but in a human way, she reminded me of Janice in many ways, and helped me deal with my despair. Then this last December, she died too.which reopened a lot of wounds. Death from circumstance not related to old age is hard to understand, being alone is a task left to conquer.