Sara Murphy
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  • Tewksbury, MA
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Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Debbie.....Congrats on the 2nd home.  I'm in awe of your strength to make such a large purchase.  I panic just thinking about smaller purchases or projects around the house.  I'm glad you'll be in a place that brings…"
Friday
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Trina......That's a wonderful post and pretty much says everything I think we all feel.  None of our family or friends were present in our marriage so they can't know what we feel.  The loss isn't the same for them as it is…"
Friday
Kaela Roster Federle and Sara Murphy are now friends
Thursday
Sara Murphy replied to Kaela Roster Federle's discussion Need Advice:Grief and Chronic Fatigue in the group Bereaved Spouses
"Kaela.....Working on your masters is huge so don't sell yourself short.  It takes strength to put the effort in and focus.  That's your work and it's probably helping even if you don't see it right now.  My doctor…"
Thursday
Sara Murphy replied to Kaela Roster Federle's discussion Need Advice:Grief and Chronic Fatigue in the group Bereaved Spouses
"Kaela......It's hard to describe what it feels like but it's just this anxiety that builds inside me and I have this overwhelming nervous feeling.  In the beginning, I would take a pill and lay there for a little bit until it kicked…"
Wednesday
Sara Murphy replied to Kaela Roster Federle's discussion Need Advice:Grief and Chronic Fatigue in the group Bereaved Spouses
"Kaela.....I too had to take anti-anxiety meds when I first lost my husband which was 20 months ago.  Also, the early morning hours, usually 5:00-6:00 am seemed to be when panic really set in.  I assumed it was because I'd have to get…"
Wednesday
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Chuck.......I got a chuckle out of your response about jumping off a roof just to see their expressions.  I happen to like that dark streak so don't lose it.  I too like to make people uncomfortable when they ask stupid…"
Sep 13
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Russ......I feel as you do about the "stupid" things people say in an attempt to help/make us feel better.  To me, I feel like they think saying these things is like waving a magic wand and poof, I'm all better.  It's…"
Sep 12
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Debby.......Thank you for sharing your story.  My heart breaks for you and for Greg.  My husband, Ken, had a long complicated medical history.  I won't type it all out now but I can relate to the pain and anxiety you felt…"
Sep 12
Sara Murphy and deborah peck are now friends
Sep 12
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Mary Jane......It doesn't sound crazy that it was hard to buy a new mattress.  That's actually one of the things I stress about...having to buy new anything without Ken.  Luckily I don't need anything right now so I push…"
Sep 11
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Debbie.....I'm glad you had a nice weekend.  It's so hard to feel normal but when you have a day or weekend that gets close, I think it gives a little added strength to get through another day.  I hope tomorrow is a good day…"
Sep 10
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Chuck.......That's a beautiful story.  I can imagine Larry and Mark meeting as you say and keeping each other company until the 4 of you are together.  So often we don't think about the separation from our departed loved…"
Sep 10
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Chuck....What a nice find.  I'm so happy you now have Larry's voice and his mannerisms as well.  I know that I love seeing candid pictures of Ken because it captures his "being" much more than posed pictures…"
Sep 7
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha....I'm sorry you were having a bad week.  I hope you've since had a couple of good weeks.  Please know that you're very much needed.  Your words of wisdom have helped me many times.  And of course, the work…"
Sep 7
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Debby.....that was wonderful that you found Greg's phone and get to have his voice on it.  I absolutely believe you heard him speak to you as I heard my husband on 2 occasions.   These signs are so important as even though we…"
Sep 7

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Posted on February 28, 2016 at 1:58pm 1 Comment

I lost my husband Ken in January after 26 1/2 yrs of marriage.  He was the love of my life, my everything.  Now I don't know what comes next.  It's a struggle to get through each day.  Only those that have lost their life partner can understand how excruciating it is.  I'm hoping this group can somehow help.

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At 7:44am on February 18, 2017, LARRY WALD said…

Thank you Sara

At 9:16am on October 13, 2016, virginia mckinney said…

Thank you Sara ,I am sorry is not good enough to say to you,there are no words ,Micah is my son, he was 32 when it happen, I am the daughter of a preacher and never doubted god , but living with my husband 53years ,saying ,it's a fantasy that people want to believe,and all the other of his beliefs it is hard for me to think which way is right (I am problem not making sense,idont these days)

At 2:21pm on July 21, 2016, Marsha H said…

Hi Sara ...  Nice to be your friend.  My honor!

Marsha

At 3:37pm on July 7, 2016, Reponsa Bias said…
Hi Sara
I'm truly sorry for your loss if I could I'd wish it all better for you. Hang in....one day at a time.
At 8:27pm on July 2, 2016, Karen said…

Oh, my Sara, I think I understand what you're saying - all this time - ugh.  Thank you - well, it's too late now bc Daddy's been gone 6 yrs so I'm doing much better - wow.  Thank you for the info!

At 7:57pm on June 24, 2016, Harold McKinstry said…

Hi Sara

My biggest struggle is I know Diane is gone and not coming back, but there is a small piece of my brain that won't accept that. The idea that I will never get another kiss, hug and I Love You More from her just doesn't seem possible or real. None of this seems real to me how could it makes no sense. I find I do best if I don't look too far ahead, when I do I get depressed and anxiety sets in. Then the reality sets in of being alone for the rest of my life without the love of my life. Maybe not looking to far ahead is my brains way of keeping that piece of my brain that can't accept happy. I try not to think of it to much. 

At 9:08pm on March 21, 2016, Joann Sueing said…

Hi Sara,

From reading the posts, you and I seems to be the only ones who have recently lost our spouses.  Have you returned to work yet?  I haven't.  I am looking for something new.  I can't go back to that place.  

The weekends seems the hardest to me.  Sunday just wouldn't end. I pray for strenght every day.  I haven't been able to go through his things.  I wear his pajamas, socks, t-shirts and anything else that I can.  I miss him so much.

If you ever want to talk one on one, just let me know.  I think I would find comfort in talking.

Joann

At 8:13pm on March 19, 2016, Joann Sueing said…

I'm having one of those moments and anxiety as I type.  I will ask my doctor for some meds.  I am 4 months from my 57th birthday.  He made them so special.  I, too, wish that I could be with him but yet know that my children need me.  I feel stuck.  My emotions are so out of control right now.  I just want my heart to stop aching.  

I hope to talk to you tomorrow.  Let me know what range of time would be good for you.  I plan to go to church for the first time since his funeral.  I am going to take something to help me sleep.

Talk to you soon.

Joann

At 7:38pm on March 19, 2016, Joann Sueing said…

It's been recent for both our losses Sarah.  I feel so restless and just don't know where to turn.  My husband and I had only been been married for less than three years.  He was the love of my life, and it is so surreal speaking of him in the past.  I am so lonely.  My adult daughter and son has both moved in with me for a while.  I could not imageing living here in this house alone.  I know we will get through this, but I just can't imagine my life without him now.  God help us all.

Joann

At 12:32pm on March 12, 2016, Charles E. Nelson said…
Thank you, Sara - I'm not very familiar with computers, not on facebook, and generally Larry and I were viewed as dinosaurs by friends and family alike. I was always a bit suspicious of this form of meeting people - how do you know they are who they present to you? I threw that out the window and posted here the first time unsure what, if any, response would come. I cried when the first post welcomed me and offered sympathy on the loss of my husband - suddenly I felt safe and accepted, which unfortunately is not, nor has it always been the case for either Larry or myself. As a couple we felt the "safety in numbers" and knew we had each other's backs. Now here I am, with gay friends far away, and feeling exposed and vulnerable, an old habbit formed over 62 years or rejection and sometimes abject hatered. Finding myself mourning my beautiful Larry and feeling afraid to trust anyone, this little piece of heaven is magical for my soul - and you are very much a part of that - again, thank you - I don't "invite friends" beacuse I never want to put anyone on the spot as it were, having to accept for fear of offending me, so I stay back until someone like you, my friend, offers a hand. Hello, friend - let's walk this walk together...
Love, Chuck
 
 
 

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