Sara Murphy
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  • Tewksbury, MA
  • United States

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Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha....In reading the comments surrounding your dilemma over this upcoming wedding, I sense you don't want to go and wanted to know if that's okay.  It absolutely is.  I liked Steve's thought that maybe this is something…"
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Steve.......that's a beautiful lamp you found to use as an urn for Mark.  Very talented, I wouldn't have been able to do any such thing.  I have Ken's ashes in a beautiful urn I picked out at the funeral home and also chose…"
Jun 18
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Sandfly....I just read your post and my heart breaks for you even though I feel the same way.  One of the things I found most helpful when I first found this site was when someone else took the words and thoughts from my head and typed them…"
Jun 18
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Michael......I'm still trying to catch up on the posts so I just read yours now.  I lost my husband Ken on 1/13/16 which I also note as the day my life ended as well.  I still cry for him most days so what you're feeling is…"
Jun 18
Sara Murphy and Sandfly are now friends
Jun 17
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Chuck......I just read that today is the anniversary of your first meeting Larry and of your civil union.   I'm glad this year will be easier for you with Steve by your side.  I'm glad you're a "we" again,…"
Jun 16
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Steve.......I just finished reading your story of finding your feathers and of how your friendship with Chuck developed into something more.  Thank you so much for sharing it.  I feel a deeper connection to you both just from reading what…"
Jun 16
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Chicago.......I just saw your link with the post about grief and I had to share it on my fb page.  Thanks for sharing that with us."
Jun 12
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi All.......I haven't posted in the past week but I think of you all everyday.  Between being busy at work and having some things come up after work, I haven't been able to catch up on all the posts here.  The last one I read…"
Jun 11
Sara Murphy replied to Sandfly's discussion I used to love long week ends. in the group Bereaved Spouses
"That's one of the most difficult things......hearing other people making plans, even something as simple as the grocery store or doctor's apt because they're making those plans together.   I feel bad about being jealous but…"
Jun 6
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Chicago........thinking about you as you go through this tough day.  Birthday's, anniversaries, holidays add a little extra heartache.  I'm sending you a prayer and a hug. Sara"
Jun 1
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Mary Jane.....It was very likely it was either Bob or your cat that died since pets do go to heaven.  It was their way of letting you know you were not alone.  I would cherish the experience."
May 31
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Steve.....Thanks for posting that song.  Danny Gokey himself is a widower so he speaks from experience and that certainly comes through in his song."
May 29
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Debbie....It' good to hear from you.  Your strength has been an inspiration on my toughest days.  That void left when our spouses were called Home, it just can't be filled.  Some days more than others, the grief comes…"
May 29
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Thank you all for your support.  Only my Legacy family can understand. nailed it with saying it'll be a blink of an eye for him when we finally reunite but an eternity for me.  I've been reading about…"
May 28
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Good Morning,  Today should be my 28th wedding anniversary.  Instead, it's the second one I spend without Ken by my side.  We should be going out to breakfast and spending a nice day together.  Instead, it'll be just…"
May 28

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Posted on February 28, 2016 at 1:58pm 1 Comment

I lost my husband Ken in January after 26 1/2 yrs of marriage.  He was the love of my life, my everything.  Now I don't know what comes next.  It's a struggle to get through each day.  Only those that have lost their life partner can understand how excruciating it is.  I'm hoping this group can somehow help.

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At 7:44am on February 18, 2017, LARRY WALD said…

Thank you Sara

At 9:16am on October 13, 2016, virginia mckinney said…

Thank you Sara ,I am sorry is not good enough to say to you,there are no words ,Micah is my son, he was 32 when it happen, I am the daughter of a preacher and never doubted god , but living with my husband 53years ,saying ,it's a fantasy that people want to believe,and all the other of his beliefs it is hard for me to think which way is right (I am problem not making sense,idont these days)

At 2:21pm on July 21, 2016, Marsha H said…

Hi Sara ...  Nice to be your friend.  My honor!


At 3:37pm on July 7, 2016, Reponsa Bias said…
Hi Sara
I'm truly sorry for your loss if I could I'd wish it all better for you. Hang day at a time.
At 8:27pm on July 2, 2016, Karen said…

Oh, my Sara, I think I understand what you're saying - all this time - ugh.  Thank you - well, it's too late now bc Daddy's been gone 6 yrs so I'm doing much better - wow.  Thank you for the info!

At 7:57pm on June 24, 2016, Harold McKinstry said…

Hi Sara

My biggest struggle is I know Diane is gone and not coming back, but there is a small piece of my brain that won't accept that. The idea that I will never get another kiss, hug and I Love You More from her just doesn't seem possible or real. None of this seems real to me how could it makes no sense. I find I do best if I don't look too far ahead, when I do I get depressed and anxiety sets in. Then the reality sets in of being alone for the rest of my life without the love of my life. Maybe not looking to far ahead is my brains way of keeping that piece of my brain that can't accept happy. I try not to think of it to much. 

At 9:08pm on March 21, 2016, Joann Sueing said…

Hi Sara,

From reading the posts, you and I seems to be the only ones who have recently lost our spouses.  Have you returned to work yet?  I haven't.  I am looking for something new.  I can't go back to that place.  

The weekends seems the hardest to me.  Sunday just wouldn't end. I pray for strenght every day.  I haven't been able to go through his things.  I wear his pajamas, socks, t-shirts and anything else that I can.  I miss him so much.

If you ever want to talk one on one, just let me know.  I think I would find comfort in talking.


At 8:13pm on March 19, 2016, Joann Sueing said…

I'm having one of those moments and anxiety as I type.  I will ask my doctor for some meds.  I am 4 months from my 57th birthday.  He made them so special.  I, too, wish that I could be with him but yet know that my children need me.  I feel stuck.  My emotions are so out of control right now.  I just want my heart to stop aching.  

I hope to talk to you tomorrow.  Let me know what range of time would be good for you.  I plan to go to church for the first time since his funeral.  I am going to take something to help me sleep.

Talk to you soon.


At 7:38pm on March 19, 2016, Joann Sueing said…

It's been recent for both our losses Sarah.  I feel so restless and just don't know where to turn.  My husband and I had only been been married for less than three years.  He was the love of my life, and it is so surreal speaking of him in the past.  I am so lonely.  My adult daughter and son has both moved in with me for a while.  I could not imageing living here in this house alone.  I know we will get through this, but I just can't imagine my life without him now.  God help us all.


At 12:32pm on March 12, 2016, Charles E. Nelson said…
Thank you, Sara - I'm not very familiar with computers, not on facebook, and generally Larry and I were viewed as dinosaurs by friends and family alike. I was always a bit suspicious of this form of meeting people - how do you know they are who they present to you? I threw that out the window and posted here the first time unsure what, if any, response would come. I cried when the first post welcomed me and offered sympathy on the loss of my husband - suddenly I felt safe and accepted, which unfortunately is not, nor has it always been the case for either Larry or myself. As a couple we felt the "safety in numbers" and knew we had each other's backs. Now here I am, with gay friends far away, and feeling exposed and vulnerable, an old habbit formed over 62 years or rejection and sometimes abject hatered. Finding myself mourning my beautiful Larry and feeling afraid to trust anyone, this little piece of heaven is magical for my soul - and you are very much a part of that - again, thank you - I don't "invite friends" beacuse I never want to put anyone on the spot as it were, having to accept for fear of offending me, so I stay back until someone like you, my friend, offers a hand. Hello, friend - let's walk this walk together...
Love, Chuck

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