Sara Murphy
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Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hello dear family.....I've been going through withdrawals the last few days.  I've been without a computer (hard drive crash) for nearly a week and haven't been able to log in.   I'm going to catch up over the next…"
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Mary Jane.......Yes, definitely that was a feather from heaven.  Feathers are one of the signs our loved ones use to let us know they are near.  Bob wanted you to know that he was with you and your daughter that day at the ocean."
Nov 9
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Steve......I think it would be fascinating to sit around a fire with you and Chuck (sorry, can't call him Charley) and listen to your stories as you both have a way of setting the scene that really draws you in.  I knew Mark had…"
Nov 9
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Deb S.......It's nice to hear from you.  I'm glad the purchase of your home in NC seems to be moving forward.  It's also nice that you were able to connect with other widows.  I do wish I could find a widow or two…"
Nov 6
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Debby.....I'm so sorry you have to deal with this health crisis on top on your grief.  Being sick is scary enough but when you don't have your spouse by your side for support, it's so much more overwhelming.  And for you to…"
Nov 6
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"I'll tell you all about something that really annoyed me last week.  Ken's aunt passed away on Wed 10/18.  On Monday 10/23 I texted Ken's brother to ask if he could help me with something.  He said sure and asked if he…"
Nov 1
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Michael......I have my 2 yr anniversary coming up in January and I expect it'll be similar to yours.....I'll keep busy but no one will call.  I will however post something on Facebook because  I want to make sure Ken is never…"
Nov 1
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Steve.....I'm so sorry  you're in the middle of a medical merry-go-round.  Nothing worse than doctors not knowing what's wrong and having to have a fit in order to get their attention.  I hope you don't have Lyme…"
Oct 23
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Deb S and is my update.  Today was Ken's birthday and although every day without him hurts, certain days hurt a little more.  Mary Jane......I'm glad you had a nice vacation.  The east coast really does…"
Oct 23
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Kaela.......Don't worry about the language.   We all get very frustrated and have to let it out.   You make a valid point.  I think we spend so much time worrying about other people and trying to act/feel normal for…"
Oct 16
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Steve.....that's a great poem.  I never thought of it that way, that we can say we're doing well because we allow ourselves to grieve.   That certainly has to be healthier than holding it in and pretending we don't feel…"
Oct 15
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha.....That's unbelievable.  It's hard to believe someone can really be that clueless. "
Sep 18
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Debbie........Perfect timing for that chapter.   It's too bad that it's always those of us grieving who feel the need to ease other people's feelings of discomfort instead of expecting them to ease our feelings of…"
Sep 18
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Deborah P....It's unfortunate that your sister doesn't understand.   I like Mary Jane's comment about asking if she thought Greg would expect to do a dance or cartwheels instead of being sad.  People who haven't…"
Sep 17
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Deb S......It's nice to hear from you.  Congratulations on buying your second home.  I'm glad you seem to be in a good place. "
Sep 17

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Posted on February 28, 2016 at 1:58pm 1 Comment

I lost my husband Ken in January after 26 1/2 yrs of marriage.  He was the love of my life, my everything.  Now I don't know what comes next.  It's a struggle to get through each day.  Only those that have lost their life partner can understand how excruciating it is.  I'm hoping this group can somehow help.

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At 7:44am on February 18, 2017, LARRY WALD said…

Thank you Sara

At 9:16am on October 13, 2016, virginia mckinney said…

Thank you Sara ,I am sorry is not good enough to say to you,there are no words ,Micah is my son, he was 32 when it happen, I am the daughter of a preacher and never doubted god , but living with my husband 53years ,saying ,it's a fantasy that people want to believe,and all the other of his beliefs it is hard for me to think which way is right (I am problem not making sense,idont these days)

At 2:21pm on July 21, 2016, Marsha H said…

Hi Sara ...  Nice to be your friend.  My honor!


At 3:37pm on July 7, 2016, Reponsa Bias said…
Hi Sara
I'm truly sorry for your loss if I could I'd wish it all better for you. Hang day at a time.
At 8:27pm on July 2, 2016, Karen said…

Oh, my Sara, I think I understand what you're saying - all this time - ugh.  Thank you - well, it's too late now bc Daddy's been gone 6 yrs so I'm doing much better - wow.  Thank you for the info!

At 7:57pm on June 24, 2016, Harold McKinstry said…

Hi Sara

My biggest struggle is I know Diane is gone and not coming back, but there is a small piece of my brain that won't accept that. The idea that I will never get another kiss, hug and I Love You More from her just doesn't seem possible or real. None of this seems real to me how could it makes no sense. I find I do best if I don't look too far ahead, when I do I get depressed and anxiety sets in. Then the reality sets in of being alone for the rest of my life without the love of my life. Maybe not looking to far ahead is my brains way of keeping that piece of my brain that can't accept happy. I try not to think of it to much. 

At 9:08pm on March 21, 2016, Joann Sueing said…

Hi Sara,

From reading the posts, you and I seems to be the only ones who have recently lost our spouses.  Have you returned to work yet?  I haven't.  I am looking for something new.  I can't go back to that place.  

The weekends seems the hardest to me.  Sunday just wouldn't end. I pray for strenght every day.  I haven't been able to go through his things.  I wear his pajamas, socks, t-shirts and anything else that I can.  I miss him so much.

If you ever want to talk one on one, just let me know.  I think I would find comfort in talking.


At 8:13pm on March 19, 2016, Joann Sueing said…

I'm having one of those moments and anxiety as I type.  I will ask my doctor for some meds.  I am 4 months from my 57th birthday.  He made them so special.  I, too, wish that I could be with him but yet know that my children need me.  I feel stuck.  My emotions are so out of control right now.  I just want my heart to stop aching.  

I hope to talk to you tomorrow.  Let me know what range of time would be good for you.  I plan to go to church for the first time since his funeral.  I am going to take something to help me sleep.

Talk to you soon.


At 7:38pm on March 19, 2016, Joann Sueing said…

It's been recent for both our losses Sarah.  I feel so restless and just don't know where to turn.  My husband and I had only been been married for less than three years.  He was the love of my life, and it is so surreal speaking of him in the past.  I am so lonely.  My adult daughter and son has both moved in with me for a while.  I could not imageing living here in this house alone.  I know we will get through this, but I just can't imagine my life without him now.  God help us all.


At 12:32pm on March 12, 2016, Charles E. Nelson said…
Thank you, Sara - I'm not very familiar with computers, not on facebook, and generally Larry and I were viewed as dinosaurs by friends and family alike. I was always a bit suspicious of this form of meeting people - how do you know they are who they present to you? I threw that out the window and posted here the first time unsure what, if any, response would come. I cried when the first post welcomed me and offered sympathy on the loss of my husband - suddenly I felt safe and accepted, which unfortunately is not, nor has it always been the case for either Larry or myself. As a couple we felt the "safety in numbers" and knew we had each other's backs. Now here I am, with gay friends far away, and feeling exposed and vulnerable, an old habbit formed over 62 years or rejection and sometimes abject hatered. Finding myself mourning my beautiful Larry and feeling afraid to trust anyone, this little piece of heaven is magical for my soul - and you are very much a part of that - again, thank you - I don't "invite friends" beacuse I never want to put anyone on the spot as it were, having to accept for fear of offending me, so I stay back until someone like you, my friend, offers a hand. Hello, friend - let's walk this walk together...
Love, Chuck

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