Sara Murphy
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Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Today is Ken's birthday.  He should be 55.   I don't think I'll ever really be okay or heal beyond where I am today.  I'll always wonder what we would be doing if he were here.  On a lighter note, maybe…"
3 hours ago
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Steve.....I'm glad to hear you've been feeling ok while going through your radiation treatments.  I'm going to continue sending positive thoughts your way. "
Monday
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Mary Jane.....Yes, anger is one of the stages of grief.  I myself haven't felt anger towards Ken but I do feel it towards the people here who say stupid things.   I am however currently dealing with the same type of stress you…"
Monday
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Mary Jane....those journals are really a double edge sword--nice to re-read the pleasant memories but not so nice for the unpleasant ones.  I hope as you read through them you'll find more happy memories and smile."
Thursday
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Deb,Yes, that says it all.  In fact, I'm going to copy it and post it on Ken's Facebook page on the anniversary of his passing in January. Steve.....I also find your post to be so true.  One of my frustrations is with people…"
Thursday
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Deb......Yes, I too think the second year is hard.  For me, I feel like it's withdrawals...Ken has been gone long enough and I just need him back now.  It could be that the first year is a blur. "
Oct 9
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Deb.....It really would be wonderful if people would just do those things.  Unfortunately most people think saying "call me if you need anything" is sufficient and they only really mean it for the first few months after the…"
Oct 7
Sara Murphy left a comment for Susan
"Susan.....We could pick someplace in between Beverly and Wilmington to meet some time whenever you're ready.  I hope this upcoming week is a better one for you.  Sara"
Oct 7
Susan left a comment for Sara Murphy
"Hi Sara, I haven't been on line lately. Had a couple of very sad weeks. I would love to get together sometime. This is such a lonely journey. Would love to meet with someone's who actually understands. I live in Beverly. Susan"
Oct 6
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"My aversion to that new show isn't so much the suicide part but as Deb says, the spouse dying part.   I remember one of the commercials had one of the characters saying "what do you say to someone who just lost their…"
Oct 4
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Has anyone been brave enough to watch that new show, A Million Little Reasons (or something like that)?   Just the commercials is upsetting to me. "
Oct 3
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Mary Jane....I've had phrases pop into my head that Ken used to use.   And like you, it's out of nowhere.  I'm not sitting around thinking of cute or funny things he used to say but something comes up and I'll just…"
Sep 27
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Jeanette.......It's so nice when the happy memories flood our minds.  I try to push away all the sad, unpleasant memories surrounding Ken's illness and focus on the fun loving guy he was.  I'm glad you had a chance to sing…"
Sep 26
Susan and Sara Murphy are now friends
Sep 25
David R. Williams commented on Sara Murphy's blog post New to Legacy Connect
"Thank you so much. I will do that. He has been gone for about 7 weeks and it is so difficult for me. I have no blood relatives but Richard's nephew has been very supportive. I attend individual and group grief counseling because I need all the…"
Sep 21

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Posted on February 28, 2016 at 1:58pm 2 Comments

I lost my husband Ken in January after 26 1/2 yrs of marriage.  He was the love of my life, my everything.  Now I don't know what comes next.  It's a struggle to get through each day.  Only those that have lost their life partner can understand how excruciating it is.  I'm hoping this group can somehow help.

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At 8:17am on October 6, 2018, Susan said…

Hi Sara,

I haven't been on line lately. Had a couple of very sad weeks. I would love to get together sometime. This is such a lonely journey. Would love to meet with someone's who actually understands. I live in Beverly.

Susan

At 9:30am on March 14, 2018, Anthony Umphenour said…

Thank you Sara!  I'm still overwhelmed in sadness.  It's nice to know there is a safe place to chat with others.

At 7:44am on February 18, 2017, LARRY WALD said…

Thank you Sara

At 9:16am on October 13, 2016, virginia mckinney said…

Thank you Sara ,I am sorry is not good enough to say to you,there are no words ,Micah is my son, he was 32 when it happen, I am the daughter of a preacher and never doubted god , but living with my husband 53years ,saying ,it's a fantasy that people want to believe,and all the other of his beliefs it is hard for me to think which way is right (I am problem not making sense,idont these days)

At 2:21pm on July 21, 2016, Marsha H said…

Hi Sara ...  Nice to be your friend.  My honor!

Marsha

At 3:37pm on July 7, 2016, Reponsa Bias said…
Hi Sara
I'm truly sorry for your loss if I could I'd wish it all better for you. Hang in....one day at a time.
At 8:27pm on July 2, 2016, Karen said…

Oh, my Sara, I think I understand what you're saying - all this time - ugh.  Thank you - well, it's too late now bc Daddy's been gone 6 yrs so I'm doing much better - wow.  Thank you for the info!

At 7:57pm on June 24, 2016, Harold McKinstry said…

Hi Sara

My biggest struggle is I know Diane is gone and not coming back, but there is a small piece of my brain that won't accept that. The idea that I will never get another kiss, hug and I Love You More from her just doesn't seem possible or real. None of this seems real to me how could it makes no sense. I find I do best if I don't look too far ahead, when I do I get depressed and anxiety sets in. Then the reality sets in of being alone for the rest of my life without the love of my life. Maybe not looking to far ahead is my brains way of keeping that piece of my brain that can't accept happy. I try not to think of it to much. 

At 9:08pm on March 21, 2016, Joann Sueing said…

Hi Sara,

From reading the posts, you and I seems to be the only ones who have recently lost our spouses.  Have you returned to work yet?  I haven't.  I am looking for something new.  I can't go back to that place.  

The weekends seems the hardest to me.  Sunday just wouldn't end. I pray for strenght every day.  I haven't been able to go through his things.  I wear his pajamas, socks, t-shirts and anything else that I can.  I miss him so much.

If you ever want to talk one on one, just let me know.  I think I would find comfort in talking.

Joann

At 8:13pm on March 19, 2016, Joann Sueing said…

I'm having one of those moments and anxiety as I type.  I will ask my doctor for some meds.  I am 4 months from my 57th birthday.  He made them so special.  I, too, wish that I could be with him but yet know that my children need me.  I feel stuck.  My emotions are so out of control right now.  I just want my heart to stop aching.  

I hope to talk to you tomorrow.  Let me know what range of time would be good for you.  I plan to go to church for the first time since his funeral.  I am going to take something to help me sleep.

Talk to you soon.

Joann

 
 
 

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