Sara Murphy
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Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Steve......that's a good analogy that your friend posted.  I'm glad that he's doing well and I hope that your carpal tunnel and trigger finger can heal without needing surgery.  I also agree with you about not fixing what…"
Aug 13
Sara Murphy and Joanne Dobrow are now friends
Aug 13
Sara Murphy left a comment for Joanne Dobrow
"Joanne........I'm sorry for the loss of your husband.  There's never a good time for such a loss but right before Christmas just adds an extra layer to the hurt.  I hope you've joined the Bereaved Spouses group as…"
Aug 10
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Trina.....I wish I could give you a big hug.  I also wish I could say something helpful but since I feel as you do, I can't say anything that I don't believe in for myself.   In fact, it helps me to see you post this as it…"
Aug 3
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Mary Jane....I accepted your friend invite.  You can message me with your book suggestions. "
Jul 25
Sara Murphy and Mary. Jane are now friends
Jul 24
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Debbie........It seems like Bob and Ken died of a similar reason, infection.  Ken had a kidney transplant.  The kidney was working fine but somehow he contracted Klebsiella, an antibiotic resistant bacteria.  It took the doctors 2…"
Jul 21
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Debbie....I'm sorry you've been having an extra hard time lately. It's so hard for those of us who watched our spouses suffer with illness.  Those moments keep flashing and we relive them over and over.  I too still relive…"
Jul 21
Sara Murphy commented on Ashley Payne's blog post It was my darling Clive's funeral today.
"Ashley......I'm so sorry for your loss.  I'm also glad you found this site.  It was a lifesaver for me, to be able to talk to people who understand this grief.  My husband also had many health issues beginning in 2008 but…"
Jul 21
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Mary Jane.....Yes, that sounds like the right commercial. I also believe in reincarnation.  I've been reading a book about life on the other side written by Medium Sylvia Brown.  Some of what she says I don't agree with but much…"
Jul 20
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Mary Jane......Music is one of the ways our loved ones communicate with us.  I have no doubt your heard that song because Bob wanted you to hear those lyrics.  A few months ago I posted about a particular bad time while driving.  I…"
Jul 19
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Chuck....As usual, well written.  I can feel the anguish of having to go through yours and Larry's possessions and give you much credit for finding the strength.  It's certainly gut wrenching and not easy but luckily you have…"
Jul 16
Sara Murphy commented on MicheleRedman's blog post Dealing with loss
"Michele.....I'm so sorry for your loss.  I'm glad you found the Legacy site.  It's been a lifesaver for me.  If you haven't done so already, you should join the Bereaved Spouses group.  That's where we…"
Jul 16
Sara Murphy replied to Andrew Berenyi Jr.'s discussion On the last day of our vacation my husband died. in the group Bereaved Spouses
"Andrew.......I'm running into a meeting now but want to share that I too have become obsessed with life on the other side.  I'm currently reading a book by Sylvia Browne who was a famous Medium and she details every step of life on…"
Jul 13
Sara Murphy replied to Andrew Berenyi Jr.'s discussion On the last day of our vacation my husband died. in the group Bereaved Spouses
"Andrew.....I'm glad yesterday was a good day for you.  I'm also glad that your Grief Share moderator is a therapist.  When I went, it was just a woman from the church who volunteered.  She was very nice but despite her being…"
Jul 13
Sara Murphy replied to Andrew Berenyi Jr.'s discussion On the last day of our vacation my husband died. in the group Bereaved Spouses
"Andrew.....Even though I cry for Ken everyday, it's not all day like it was in the beginning or for as long.  I talk to Ken all the time and tell him that I don't know how much longer I can do this.  I'm not going to pretend…"
Jul 12

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Posted on February 28, 2016 at 1:58pm 1 Comment

I lost my husband Ken in January after 26 1/2 yrs of marriage.  He was the love of my life, my everything.  Now I don't know what comes next.  It's a struggle to get through each day.  Only those that have lost their life partner can understand how excruciating it is.  I'm hoping this group can somehow help.

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At 7:44am on February 18, 2017, LARRY WALD said…

Thank you Sara

At 9:16am on October 13, 2016, virginia mckinney said…

Thank you Sara ,I am sorry is not good enough to say to you,there are no words ,Micah is my son, he was 32 when it happen, I am the daughter of a preacher and never doubted god , but living with my husband 53years ,saying ,it's a fantasy that people want to believe,and all the other of his beliefs it is hard for me to think which way is right (I am problem not making sense,idont these days)

At 2:21pm on July 21, 2016, Marsha H said…

Hi Sara ...  Nice to be your friend.  My honor!


At 3:37pm on July 7, 2016, Reponsa Bias said…
Hi Sara
I'm truly sorry for your loss if I could I'd wish it all better for you. Hang day at a time.
At 8:27pm on July 2, 2016, Karen said…

Oh, my Sara, I think I understand what you're saying - all this time - ugh.  Thank you - well, it's too late now bc Daddy's been gone 6 yrs so I'm doing much better - wow.  Thank you for the info!

At 7:57pm on June 24, 2016, Harold McKinstry said…

Hi Sara

My biggest struggle is I know Diane is gone and not coming back, but there is a small piece of my brain that won't accept that. The idea that I will never get another kiss, hug and I Love You More from her just doesn't seem possible or real. None of this seems real to me how could it makes no sense. I find I do best if I don't look too far ahead, when I do I get depressed and anxiety sets in. Then the reality sets in of being alone for the rest of my life without the love of my life. Maybe not looking to far ahead is my brains way of keeping that piece of my brain that can't accept happy. I try not to think of it to much. 

At 9:08pm on March 21, 2016, Joann Sueing said…

Hi Sara,

From reading the posts, you and I seems to be the only ones who have recently lost our spouses.  Have you returned to work yet?  I haven't.  I am looking for something new.  I can't go back to that place.  

The weekends seems the hardest to me.  Sunday just wouldn't end. I pray for strenght every day.  I haven't been able to go through his things.  I wear his pajamas, socks, t-shirts and anything else that I can.  I miss him so much.

If you ever want to talk one on one, just let me know.  I think I would find comfort in talking.


At 8:13pm on March 19, 2016, Joann Sueing said…

I'm having one of those moments and anxiety as I type.  I will ask my doctor for some meds.  I am 4 months from my 57th birthday.  He made them so special.  I, too, wish that I could be with him but yet know that my children need me.  I feel stuck.  My emotions are so out of control right now.  I just want my heart to stop aching.  

I hope to talk to you tomorrow.  Let me know what range of time would be good for you.  I plan to go to church for the first time since his funeral.  I am going to take something to help me sleep.

Talk to you soon.


At 7:38pm on March 19, 2016, Joann Sueing said…

It's been recent for both our losses Sarah.  I feel so restless and just don't know where to turn.  My husband and I had only been been married for less than three years.  He was the love of my life, and it is so surreal speaking of him in the past.  I am so lonely.  My adult daughter and son has both moved in with me for a while.  I could not imageing living here in this house alone.  I know we will get through this, but I just can't imagine my life without him now.  God help us all.


At 12:32pm on March 12, 2016, Charles E. Nelson said…
Thank you, Sara - I'm not very familiar with computers, not on facebook, and generally Larry and I were viewed as dinosaurs by friends and family alike. I was always a bit suspicious of this form of meeting people - how do you know they are who they present to you? I threw that out the window and posted here the first time unsure what, if any, response would come. I cried when the first post welcomed me and offered sympathy on the loss of my husband - suddenly I felt safe and accepted, which unfortunately is not, nor has it always been the case for either Larry or myself. As a couple we felt the "safety in numbers" and knew we had each other's backs. Now here I am, with gay friends far away, and feeling exposed and vulnerable, an old habbit formed over 62 years or rejection and sometimes abject hatered. Finding myself mourning my beautiful Larry and feeling afraid to trust anyone, this little piece of heaven is magical for my soul - and you are very much a part of that - again, thank you - I don't "invite friends" beacuse I never want to put anyone on the spot as it were, having to accept for fear of offending me, so I stay back until someone like you, my friend, offers a hand. Hello, friend - let's walk this walk together...
Love, Chuck

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