Sara Murphy
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  • Tewksbury, MA
  • United States

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Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Steve.....thank you for sharing your journey with us.  So many changes in such a short time.  In reading your post, I can envision Mark being the catalyst to these changes such as the homeless man at the dumpster and the timing of your…"
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Trina....So much of what you say strikes a chord with me.   First, I'm glad to see you post again.  You really have had a lot of major changes in such a short time.   I have what I call "the guilt of…"
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha....Thank you for posting Mary Jane's post.  I hadn't seen it. Mary Jane....I'm so sorry for your loss.  I'm glad you finally found us here and I hope your "lurking" helped you feel less alone.  I…"
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Tiffany......It's so hard when our friends and family get back to their own lives, a little at a time.  They have no choice but at the same time, we can't understand how the world is still turning when our worlds have stopped. …"
Mar 15
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Chuck.....Yes, we got a little more than a foot of snow with this latest storm.  2 blizzards in 1 season so I'm ready for spring now.  I have to say I don't get the comparison your friend was trying to make between Legacy and…"
Mar 15
Sara Murphy replied to Belle Belden's discussion Trouble making food my brother used to like... in the group LOSS OF A SIBLING SUPPORT GROUP
"Belle.......I haven't lost a sibling yet but I did lose my beloved husband a year ago.  He is my heart and soul.  To answer your question.....Yes, I experience this same feeling.  There are things I will NEVER make again. …"
Mar 10
Sara Murphy joined Lisa W's group


A place for people who are going through loss to support one another .
Mar 10
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha........Good luck with the dating site.  I hope you're able to find someone looking for the same thing you are, companionship.  I think Ernie would be okay with you wanting someone to go to dinner with and pass the time with…"
Mar 7
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha.......I'm so happy this doctor took the time to read your history and make a decision based on you specifically.  I have to imagine it's just as stressful for the doctors in your area to have to abide by such strict rules that…"
Mar 4
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Corey......Take your time with your husbands' clothes.  There's no rush to put them away.  I still have all of my husbands clothes although they are in drawers but his other "stuff" is still throughout the house…"
Mar 2
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Harold........It's good to hear from you.  I'm glad working with the personal trainer is working out for you.   It's a nice reality check with other people are talking about their health issues and you realize…"
Mar 2
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha.....the next time I hear someone around here complain about our health care system and say they wish we had a system like Canada, I'll tell them your story.  The company I work for also has locations throughout Canada and I've…"
Mar 2
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha....I'm sorry about all this stress that your new clinic doctor is giving you.  I'm a firm believer that we all have to advocate for our own health and that means asking questions when we don't understand…"
Mar 1
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Debbie,  I pretty much do what you do.....occupy myself with random stuff and daydreaming about what should have been.  I have a motorhome that I have to work on selling this summer.  Ken and I had so many good times with it so…"
Feb 28
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha......I'm glad you've been busy with friends.  I hope the snow is easing up so you can out more.  It's hard to be cooped up for long stretches.  Like Deb, I hope it's more ups than downs.   I just…"
Feb 28

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Posted on February 28, 2016 at 1:58pm 1 Comment

I lost my husband Ken in January after 26 1/2 yrs of marriage.  He was the love of my life, my everything.  Now I don't know what comes next.  It's a struggle to get through each day.  Only those that have lost their life partner can understand how excruciating it is.  I'm hoping this group can somehow help.

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At 7:44am on February 18, 2017, LARRY WALD said…

Thank you Sara

At 9:16am on October 13, 2016, virginia mckinney said…

Thank you Sara ,I am sorry is not good enough to say to you,there are no words ,Micah is my son, he was 32 when it happen, I am the daughter of a preacher and never doubted god , but living with my husband 53years ,saying ,it's a fantasy that people want to believe,and all the other of his beliefs it is hard for me to think which way is right (I am problem not making sense,idont these days)

At 2:21pm on July 21, 2016, Marsha H said…

Hi Sara ...  Nice to be your friend.  My honor!


At 3:37pm on July 7, 2016, Reponsa Bias said…
Hi Sara
I'm truly sorry for your loss if I could I'd wish it all better for you. Hang day at a time.
At 8:27pm on July 2, 2016, Karen said…

Oh, my Sara, I think I understand what you're saying - all this time - ugh.  Thank you - well, it's too late now bc Daddy's been gone 6 yrs so I'm doing much better - wow.  Thank you for the info!

At 7:57pm on June 24, 2016, Harold McKinstry said…

Hi Sara

My biggest struggle is I know Diane is gone and not coming back, but there is a small piece of my brain that won't accept that. The idea that I will never get another kiss, hug and I Love You More from her just doesn't seem possible or real. None of this seems real to me how could it makes no sense. I find I do best if I don't look too far ahead, when I do I get depressed and anxiety sets in. Then the reality sets in of being alone for the rest of my life without the love of my life. Maybe not looking to far ahead is my brains way of keeping that piece of my brain that can't accept happy. I try not to think of it to much. 

At 9:08pm on March 21, 2016, Joann Sueing said…

Hi Sara,

From reading the posts, you and I seems to be the only ones who have recently lost our spouses.  Have you returned to work yet?  I haven't.  I am looking for something new.  I can't go back to that place.  

The weekends seems the hardest to me.  Sunday just wouldn't end. I pray for strenght every day.  I haven't been able to go through his things.  I wear his pajamas, socks, t-shirts and anything else that I can.  I miss him so much.

If you ever want to talk one on one, just let me know.  I think I would find comfort in talking.


At 8:13pm on March 19, 2016, Joann Sueing said…

I'm having one of those moments and anxiety as I type.  I will ask my doctor for some meds.  I am 4 months from my 57th birthday.  He made them so special.  I, too, wish that I could be with him but yet know that my children need me.  I feel stuck.  My emotions are so out of control right now.  I just want my heart to stop aching.  

I hope to talk to you tomorrow.  Let me know what range of time would be good for you.  I plan to go to church for the first time since his funeral.  I am going to take something to help me sleep.

Talk to you soon.


At 7:38pm on March 19, 2016, Joann Sueing said…

It's been recent for both our losses Sarah.  I feel so restless and just don't know where to turn.  My husband and I had only been been married for less than three years.  He was the love of my life, and it is so surreal speaking of him in the past.  I am so lonely.  My adult daughter and son has both moved in with me for a while.  I could not imageing living here in this house alone.  I know we will get through this, but I just can't imagine my life without him now.  God help us all.


At 12:32pm on March 12, 2016, Charles E. Nelson said…
Thank you, Sara - I'm not very familiar with computers, not on facebook, and generally Larry and I were viewed as dinosaurs by friends and family alike. I was always a bit suspicious of this form of meeting people - how do you know they are who they present to you? I threw that out the window and posted here the first time unsure what, if any, response would come. I cried when the first post welcomed me and offered sympathy on the loss of my husband - suddenly I felt safe and accepted, which unfortunately is not, nor has it always been the case for either Larry or myself. As a couple we felt the "safety in numbers" and knew we had each other's backs. Now here I am, with gay friends far away, and feeling exposed and vulnerable, an old habbit formed over 62 years or rejection and sometimes abject hatered. Finding myself mourning my beautiful Larry and feeling afraid to trust anyone, this little piece of heaven is magical for my soul - and you are very much a part of that - again, thank you - I don't "invite friends" beacuse I never want to put anyone on the spot as it were, having to accept for fear of offending me, so I stay back until someone like you, my friend, offers a hand. Hello, friend - let's walk this walk together...
Love, Chuck

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