I always told my grandpa after learning about how CRUEL my husband's family is-------------that my mom & I will never see the rest of her family after he dies and he always told me--"Nah--your wrong!!"
well......I WAS RIGHT!!
We haven't seen ANYONE since his funeral a year ago----except for my mom's brother who is like 4 yrs. younger than her, and his wife--we've seen once!!
My Husband also died from cancer, he only knew for 4 days that he even had it and I wasn't told till a day after he died and in a voicemail at that!!
Here's my story so you know what I'm talking about------
I find out 28 years later how cruel his family is!!!!-----------
I don't know where to start-- my husband of 28 yrs. died of cancer Jan. 22, 2010-- He was my soul mate, my rock, my life, my everything!! He was in another state helping his dad when he died, I found out by voice-mail!! I drove up there by myself, (Never did that before--my husband always drove!!) and get there and was told I came for no reason, to go home, I wasn't allowed to see him before he was cremated, I was told if I showed up to the funeral, and burial of his ashes, I would be arrested, I wasn't even mentioned in the obituary!!
we NEVER went a day in 28 yrs, without talking on the phone, e-mailing when he wasn't here, or being with each other in person!! Every day I would check my e-mail and have at least 10 e-mails from him, when he was out of town, wishing me a great day and how much he loves & misses me--now-----NOTHING!!
Since I was his wife--I requested a copy of his death certificate and it' lists---- Esophageal cancer, he only knew he had it for 4 days then he got cardiogenic shock for 12 hrs and died, his family won't talk to me so I don't know if anyone was with him when he died, or did he die alone, did he suffer, (GOD I PRAY he didn't!!) But these are things I NEED to know!! My Brother & Mom tell me I need to just move on and "Suck It Up" that they understand why I feel this way but that I can't live the rest of my life like this!! I want to be with him sooooooooooo BAD!!
I so feel your pain, I Lost my Love, My Life & My Soul of 28 wonderful years on Jan. 22, 2010, so it's coming up on the 1 year anniversary and it still feels like yesterday-----My Life is gone with him I Miss & Love him so much it drives me crazy sometimes, and it's sooooo HARD to get through each day not talking to him, we never went more than 5 minutes without talking to each other now------it's been 12 months, 50 weeks, 350 days, 8,423 hours,
505,430 minutes, 30,325,832 seconds, and counting since he's been gone!!
I'm here if you need to talk, I don't have anyone to talk to since my baby's gone, my brother and mom just keep telling me to "Suck-It-Up!!" They just don't understand, and it leaves me in a very lonely place!!
I think that the first four months after my husband,Robert, died, that I was in SHOCK. Then the REALITY hit me with a force I've never known. I feel like I am in "someone else's" body living that "someone else's" life!! And I don't have a clue what is going on!!! I want to do what Robert wanted me to do. He told me that I could do this! That I had to do this!! I knew I could not do anything without him!! I want to live in a way that he would want and be proud of me. I don't have the energy no wisdom to do this. Family and friends can