I finally came back to this site, needing to connect with people who understand what it feels like to lose the most important person in our lives. I hope you are doing well.....as well as you can. Time does not heal all wounds; this one will never heal. I have been alone almost 5 years and memories bring much-needed comfort.
I finally came back to this site, needing to connect with people who understand what it feels like to lose the most important person in our lives. I hope you are doing well.....as well as you can. Time does not heal all wounds; this one will never heal. I have been alone almost 5 years and memories bring much-needed comfort.
I know what you mean. At times the effort to keep going on is overwhelming. I have often thought how much I'd like to be with him again, rather than struggling. If it wasn't for my daughter.......
Shortly after midnight On Dec. 13th, (date my hubby died) I held our 19 year old cat as she died. My daughter had this sweet calico almost as many years as she had her daddy. That tough loss really has brought my husband's death back right in my face. I cried and cried....we have been in "survival" mode since his death. The death of this sweet loyal companion broke the ice and I am finally grieving my beloved husband.
I don't know what comes next.....the pain will never end, only get more bearable. Happy memories help....but I know my heart will always ache. I guess that's part of the price we pay for loving someone so dearly. I wouldn't have changed anything; I was so blessed to have had this awesome man in my life. I truly take one day at a time....and when that's too hard, I take it one hour at a time.
I hope we both find the way to continue on. For me, it's my daughter. I hope you have a good friend or someone you can talk to about what you are feeling and going through.
I'm so sorry for your loss, and totally understand. I too seem to be stuck.....and life has been a finacial nightmare as well. I haven't yet discovered how to become unstuck. I just exist, going to work and sitting at home the rest of the time.
I know I need help and not sure where to go. I found this site not long ago and it helps to see others going through the same things and having the same feelings. I know that I have to continue having faith that things will get better even if they will never be close to life as I used to know it.
Take care, my friend. My email is estoyestupida@yahoo.com. Hang in there, and maybe we can help each other figure out what comes next.
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Shortly after midnight On Dec. 13th, (date my hubby died) I held our 19 year old cat as she died. My daughter had this sweet calico almost as many years as she had her daddy. That tough loss really has brought my husband's death back right in my face. I cried and cried....we have been in "survival" mode since his death. The death of this sweet loyal companion broke the ice and I am finally grieving my beloved husband.
I don't know what comes next.....the pain will never end, only get more bearable. Happy memories help....but I know my heart will always ache. I guess that's part of the price we pay for loving someone so dearly. I wouldn't have changed anything; I was so blessed to have had this awesome man in my life. I truly take one day at a time....and when that's too hard, I take it one hour at a time.
I hope we both find the way to continue on. For me, it's my daughter. I hope you have a good friend or someone you can talk to about what you are feeling and going through.
I know I need help and not sure where to go. I found this site not long ago and it helps to see others going through the same things and having the same feelings. I know that I have to continue having faith that things will get better even if they will never be close to life as I used to know it.
Take care, my friend. My email is estoyestupida@yahoo.com. Hang in there, and maybe we can help each other figure out what comes next.
Doreen