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Chicago Beard commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"So sorry to hear of your speech issues Wilela. I can only imagine how frustrating that must be. It is like you had a stroke, as this is an issue stroke sufferers often go through. My Rose had that problem after her stroke. I hope that your medical…"
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Wilela Trip commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"When my husband died in June 2011, I developed a speech problem.  They've just taken my 4th MRI over 3 1/2 years and all is fine - the same as the other three times.  It has gotten worse over the years; now I feel like I'm…"
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Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Renae ..  Your post brought tears to my eyes.  I am so sorry you ended up in hospital (not uncommon for some grievers) and we get all sorts of maladies and some of it is due from stress.  It is so sweet of your grandson and I agree…"
nate eustis commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Renae, seven weeks, so short & so long. My sincere condolence. At some point the sharp edges of grief, dispare, intense sadness will dull. I compliment you for coming here. When I was where you are this group was my salvation. I was fortunate to…"
Renae McKee commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Nate, Your Poem is so beautiful and expressed so much love!! As you have me crying may I say I am so sorry for your loss as well as my own. Almost 7 weeks ago I lost my husband and he too was the love of my life!! Spoke with the Social Security…"
nate eustis commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hello everyone, it's been two years for me and it still is unbelievable. This is for the Love of my Life: Two years have passed 731 days and nights, Unbelievable and you It still is Not Right Life continues A slow and fast pace, As these two…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Michelle ... We do understand and there are others on here that often find they have no words of comfort to give, but, please feel free to express your thoughts about what you are going through so we can band together to help you get through the…"
Michelle commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"I have been reading your posts to this page over the last few weeks, everyone. I am sorry for not replying. That is a fault of mine, I struggle to find words of comfort :( my thoughts and prayers are with all of you though. I am so so sorry for your…"
Barbara Sullivan commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Renae -- What a precious treasure you have in that little grandson -- let his love help you heal.  Yes, 7 weeks is still so raw, but, of course, our grief cannot be measured in days and weeks.  As we all know, time does not heal our…"
Renae McKee commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"I am still in the what I call the raw stages of grief. I spent 6 days in the hspital for an infection in my lower left leg & upon returning home night before last, a visual reality hit me again, that he is not here. This friday marks 7 weeks…"
Elvira Castellanos commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"It has been over 9 months since Pablo died & I can't stop the crying, not one day goes by that I can contain my tears, our wedding anniversary was Oct 26 & it had to be one of the worst days of my life without him, it would have been…"
Sarah Bryant commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"My heart has been so heavy today and I have not been able to stop the tears.  I think it's the anticipation of tomorrow.  Tomorrow is my birthday, the first one without my husband, who passed away on Sept. 11.  It was also the…"
Pam Wetzel commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha H. The doctor has me on lorazepam for the anxiety and panic attacks. I am also on buspar and an antidepressant called Zoloft. My former doctor had me over medicated with Xanax and lorazepam at high doses. I've been getting slowly…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Kristen ...  I am so sorry to hear that your birthday is on the same day and I know it's going to be hard for you, but you, like many of us don't always believe how strong we really are.  Try keeping that same tradition and bring…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hey there Pam ...  You are most welcome and we're glad to help in any way possible.  Know you are not along in your grief or anxiety issues.  Firstly, the shock of a spouse passing away whether suddenly or from a long-term…"
Pam Wetzel commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha H. And Georgia, thanks for your kind words and for answering my blog. When my anxiety gets really bad I get very scared and think negative thoughts. In therapy we are told to go back to the present moment and let the negative thoughts go. It…"

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Just a quick note to thank you all for supporting each other. When I started this I would have NEVER thought this group would grow this big and have the amount of activity that it does. It's great to see you all supporting and helping each other. With 3 jobs it is hard to spend as much time as I'd like but it's good to know I don't have to spend a lot of time here administering things. Just remember I'm around if you need me. When something gets posted I do get an email and I will respond as soon as I get that. Thank you all for taking care of each other and remembering your loved ones here.

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At 2:19pm on September 1, 2014, Karen W said…

Joyce, welcome to the site.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  I lost my husband Ed almost 9 months ago and I have found myself back at this site often looking for comfort, encouragement, understanding, or just to vent my feelings.  Everyone here has been where you and I are and understands what we are going through.   I wish you strength for each new day. 

At 10:45am on September 1, 2014, Joyce M said…

I too am new to this site...and am not sure how to post a comment...I have read so many comments by others and have found some small measure of comfort knowing that what I am going thru is so normal...I lost my husband just 3 weeks ago and every day is so hard right now....

At 9:44am on May 26, 2013, Jan said…
How do I talk to people on this site? I posted and did a blog and no one responded. Maybe I didn't do it correctly.
At 9:02pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
I just realized I posted
I have read others post and it seems no matter whether the loss of our loved one is recent or years ago What I am feeling is what others have posted
I feel a large piece of my heart died when he did I feel like I have to be another person at work and then go home to our home we shared for 45 years and feel so alone I just crawl in bed and zone out to movies or sleep When I think about how much I miss him and being there when he took his last breath it's like I have to put my feelings away because its too hard to deal with them. I get mad then sad and cry I just want to go to sleep and wake up and he is back home with me. The question I have is I feel bad when other family members call with problems they are having or if they are sick. I feel like I can't handle it or be sympathetic and say the wrong thing to them. I really don't want to talk to others I feel bad I can't listen to there problems Does anyone else feel this way. I have always been the strong one helped others and was able to fix my problems. This grieving I can't fix me. I know everyone says it takes time but this is the worst thing to go thru and I don't feel I will ever be me again. I married Mike when I was 18. Moved from my patents house to be Mikes wife then became a mother and now 45 yrs later alone. I was always a wife and a mother never a me I don't know how to be me. Mike and I were friends too and did everything together I really don't have friends Sorry my post is so long. Mikes birthday is coming up then Xmas. Thanks for listening
At 8:40pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
Hi. I am new here how do I post a question My husband of 45 years passed away 10 months ago tonight I don't feel it will ever be better I miss so much. GOD BLESS EVERYONE
At 2:35am on September 13, 2012, Marilyn kroge said…
I am facing the 1st anniversary of the loss of my beloved Jim and I still can't accept that I am alone for the first time since I was 18 years old, almost 50 years with the same man and my only love. I wake in the night to sounds that I realize are coming from my very soul. I find myself calling out to him, begging him to please come back to me, that I can't go on without him and I can't stop the tears that won't stop and I don't want to stop the pain I feel because that would make it real, it would mean that I finally know that I will never feel his arms around me, that I'll never kiss him goodbye when he left each morning. This man I met for the first time and we knew that first meeting that love at first sight really happened and we were together from that moment until I kissed him and felt his last breath, warm and so amazing that I felt his breath as he closed his eyes and so quietly left me forever . I know how maudlin my words sound but I so need to finally tell someone of my pain. I'm not allowed to say any of this to my sons or anyone in my family. Their grief became anger and so this has been my life, alone and terribly hurt that no one wants to hear what I've said here where I feel safe sharing my deepest thoughts. Thank you......."m"
At 9:13pm on September 12, 2012, Margie Thrash said…

I am coming up on my second month without my rock (Scott) it is hard but I do have good friends that check up on me every night if I dont contact them so I am fortunate that way.  Had to already go thru his birthday without him was very hard to do.  Then we always did a 100 mile horse ride week of labor day did it this year by myself with a few friends and was hard but I did it.  Not a day goes by I dont cry.  One of his last text to me was please dont get depressed like I am right now (he had 3 months to live from diagnosis made it 3 1/2).  So I try to think of that text everytime it gets too bad and I go outside or work around the house and listen to alot of music.

At 2:21am on January 10, 2012, Rowe said…

Welcome to all new members. I Lost my first husband 31 yrs ago at the age of 38. Remaried 6 yrs later and lost my Late husband after 10 yrs. He has been gone for 15 years. I am living proof that after the grief, Life will go on.  Not at first, but about 5 yrs later you will be living again.. even though you thought it would never happen. I Recommend that you do not try to avoid the grief.. you have to deal with it because if you dont it will be waiting for you to come back. I am here for you if you need to vent, or just want someone to give you an ear.

At 5:40am on December 15, 2011, dawn m long said…

hi steve only a few more days till christmas .. Im here for ya

 luv dawn

At 5:40am on December 15, 2011, dawn m long said…

hi steve only a few more days till christmas .. Im here for ya

 luv dawn


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