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Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha.....Thinking of you on this 7th anniversary of Ernie's passing.   It's funny how time goes by so fast and crawls at the same time.  I hope you have a nice chat with Ernie and that somehow he lets you know he's…"
15 minutes ago
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Deb.....Please don't be concerned about posting.  What you call craziness I guarantee we all feel and understand so please use us as a source of comfort and strength.  I wouldn't have made it this far if not for my Legacy…"
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Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Sara ...  I am so very sorry about your father and I hope things improve and also your sister.  No one wants to be at a hospital or worry over a loved one, but it does show us how much stronger we have become.  I had to have a…"
6 hours ago
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Mary Jane ...  I have noticed this site has been very quiet as well and that's rather sad.  It appears some members feel Facebook is the best way to go.  I guess I'm a creature of habit because Legacy saved my life many…"
6 hours ago
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Deb ...  By no means do any of us think for a minute you are ever talking craziness.  Those who still check into Legacy are here for you and we do understand how you feel. April 27th will be the 7th Anniversary of Ernie's…"
6 hours ago
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Bereaved Spouses

A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
8 hours ago
deborah peck commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"I too check on here daily to see if anyone has posted anything, Ive been in a bad place with May coming up and I too don't want to upset anyone by posting my craziness, but I do like reading other post and trying to help. I looked into this on…"
11 hours ago
deborah peck commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Mary Jane, I think any little worry is turned totally out of control in our minds right now, I have to talk myself "down" from the crazy worries in my head sometimes, it just gets overwhelming sometimes."
11 hours ago
Charles E. Nelson commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Mary Jane, It is so understandable that disruptions to your routine would send you on an emotional spiral - I share that with you, and still don't like "surprises" of good or bad things that were unexpected. Maybe this is some…"
13 hours ago
Charles E. Nelson commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Sara, I am sorry to hear of your father's declining health. That, and taking your sister to the hospital can indeed create a huge amount of stress. I do hope your sister will be alright, and will pray for her and your father. i understand…"
13 hours ago
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Mary Jane....I too worry about all the house stuff that I never thought twice about.   It's not stupid for you to stress about your direct tv box dying.  For me, I don't have children so I have somewhat of a mental list…"
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Chuck...Good to hear from you.  Diane is right, your church story is inspirational.  I spend a lot of time these days wondering what I'm still doing here, what my purpose is.  Your story helps me have faith that God does have a…"
Mary. Jane commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"I also tend to worry when this ste is quiet. LOL. Especially if I am having a sad day, and it is quiet here..I figure others are having good days, and I don,t want to bum anyone out. Lol i have been quiet lately, but not from sadness..I have had a…"
Diane C commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Chuck, Nice to hear from you as always. Glad to hear you made it through the anniversary. That is always so hard, but you did it!!! Your church story was very inspirational. So glad you decided to go and what a nice surprise for the new gentleman…"
Diane C commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Good to hear from you Marsha, as always!! Good luck with all that spring cleaning. Weather is still cold and rainy here. We had one spring day in the last few weeks. I am in the middle of moving my uncle (81) and mom (84) into separate nursing…"
Charles E. Nelson commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Dianne C, and everyone, Someone once said "Be careful when you shake the tree... you never know what will fall out!" I guess you shook the tree for me, and I too am glad to hear from you. As officially now an older member I suppose (2…"

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Just a quick note to thank you all for supporting each other. When I started this I would have NEVER thought this group would grow this big and have the amount of activity that it does. It's great to see you all supporting and helping each other. With 3 jobs it is hard to spend as much time as I'd like but it's good to know I don't have to spend a lot of time here administering things. Just remember I'm around if you need me. When something gets posted I do get an email and I will respond as soon as I get that. Thank you all for taking care of each other and remembering your loved ones here.

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At 9:10am on August 12, 2017, Joanne Dobrow said…

My Jack was my world. It has been eight months since I lost him and yes somehow you go on but I will always be half of me. I have lost half of what made me me.

At 11:08am on June 18, 2015, Cynthia Murphy said…

It has been a while since I have been here. My husband died 19 months ago after 17years of suffering from diabetes related problems. I didn't think I would ever get better but I have. Eight months into a horrible grief a friend called and asked me to come over, her brother was there. I dated her brother in high school. He had lost one of his sons in 2001 and grieving as much as I was. We've had so many discussions about what we have been through and where we are now.. We are dating now and loving life again. We still talk about our loved ones we lost but we remember with smiles and happy memories. I don't know what the future holds for me but I have to trust that God is leading me in the direction that was meant to be for the second half of my life.

At 2:19pm on September 1, 2014, Karen W said…

Joyce, welcome to the site.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  I lost my husband Ed almost 9 months ago and I have found myself back at this site often looking for comfort, encouragement, understanding, or just to vent my feelings.  Everyone here has been where you and I are and understands what we are going through.   I wish you strength for each new day. 

At 10:45am on September 1, 2014, Joyce M said…

I too am new to this site...and am not sure how to post a comment...I have read so many comments by others and have found some small measure of comfort knowing that what I am going thru is so normal...I lost my husband just 3 weeks ago and every day is so hard right now....

At 9:44am on May 26, 2013, Jan said…
How do I talk to people on this site? I posted and did a blog and no one responded. Maybe I didn't do it correctly.
At 9:02pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
I just realized I posted
I have read others post and it seems no matter whether the loss of our loved one is recent or years ago What I am feeling is what others have posted
I feel a large piece of my heart died when he did I feel like I have to be another person at work and then go home to our home we shared for 45 years and feel so alone I just crawl in bed and zone out to movies or sleep When I think about how much I miss him and being there when he took his last breath it's like I have to put my feelings away because its too hard to deal with them. I get mad then sad and cry I just want to go to sleep and wake up and he is back home with me. The question I have is I feel bad when other family members call with problems they are having or if they are sick. I feel like I can't handle it or be sympathetic and say the wrong thing to them. I really don't want to talk to others I feel bad I can't listen to there problems Does anyone else feel this way. I have always been the strong one helped others and was able to fix my problems. This grieving I can't fix me. I know everyone says it takes time but this is the worst thing to go thru and I don't feel I will ever be me again. I married Mike when I was 18. Moved from my patents house to be Mikes wife then became a mother and now 45 yrs later alone. I was always a wife and a mother never a me I don't know how to be me. Mike and I were friends too and did everything together I really don't have friends Sorry my post is so long. Mikes birthday is coming up then Xmas. Thanks for listening
At 8:40pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
Hi. I am new here how do I post a question My husband of 45 years passed away 10 months ago tonight I don't feel it will ever be better I miss so much. GOD BLESS EVERYONE
At 2:35am on September 13, 2012, Marilyn kroge said…
I am facing the 1st anniversary of the loss of my beloved Jim and I still can't accept that I am alone for the first time since I was 18 years old, almost 50 years with the same man and my only love. I wake in the night to sounds that I realize are coming from my very soul. I find myself calling out to him, begging him to please come back to me, that I can't go on without him and I can't stop the tears that won't stop and I don't want to stop the pain I feel because that would make it real, it would mean that I finally know that I will never feel his arms around me, that I'll never kiss him goodbye when he left each morning. This man I met for the first time and we knew that first meeting that love at first sight really happened and we were together from that moment until I kissed him and felt his last breath, warm and so amazing that I felt his breath as he closed his eyes and so quietly left me forever . I know how maudlin my words sound but I so need to finally tell someone of my pain. I'm not allowed to say any of this to my sons or anyone in my family. Their grief became anger and so this has been my life, alone and terribly hurt that no one wants to hear what I've said here where I feel safe sharing my deepest thoughts. Thank you......."m"
At 9:13pm on September 12, 2012, Margie Thrash said…

I am coming up on my second month without my rock (Scott) it is hard but I do have good friends that check up on me every night if I dont contact them so I am fortunate that way.  Had to already go thru his birthday without him was very hard to do.  Then we always did a 100 mile horse ride week of labor day did it this year by myself with a few friends and was hard but I did it.  Not a day goes by I dont cry.  One of his last text to me was please dont get depressed like I am right now (he had 3 months to live from diagnosis made it 3 1/2).  So I try to think of that text everytime it gets too bad and I go outside or work around the house and listen to alot of music.

At 2:21am on January 10, 2012, Rowe said…

Welcome to all new members. I Lost my first husband 31 yrs ago at the age of 38. Remaried 6 yrs later and lost my Late husband after 10 yrs. He has been gone for 15 years. I am living proof that after the grief, Life will go on.  Not at first, but about 5 yrs later you will be living again.. even though you thought it would never happen. I Recommend that you do not try to avoid the grief.. you have to deal with it because if you dont it will be waiting for you to come back. I am here for you if you need to vent, or just want someone to give you an ear.


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