Steve Cain
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  • Aurora, IL
  • United States

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Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Harold.......Thank you for asking.  Honestly, I really didn't enjoy myself in the way I thought I would.  It really had nothing to do with it being a 50th party, I guess I just wasn't in a "party"…"
3 hours ago
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Deb  I hope your weekend was tolerable and not too painful, was thinking of you."
4 hours ago
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Sara  How did your Party turn out for you? Hope it wasn't to painful."
4 hours ago
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Chuck Age difference doesn't matter, I would have never thought Diane would pass away at 64 it's still hard to believe. I'm sure you are glad you ignored the age difference between you and Larry. Thank You for mentioning the 29th will…"
4 hours ago
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Steve  I have to add my thanks for starting this page, it has really helped me. I was never much for social media, Diane was always on Facebook. When all this happened I was doing google search for support groups and after looking at a lot of…"
4 hours ago
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
" always write so eloquently.  I think you were right to ignore Larry's caution of being 17 years older.  Age really doesn't mean much.  Ken was only 2 years older than me and yet he's still gone so…"
10 hours ago
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Steve,  I echo Chuck's sentiments in thanking you for starting this page.  It really has been a place of healing for many people.  For you to start this group in the midst of your own grief is an amazing show of strength. Can you…"
10 hours ago
Steve Cain is now friends with carol and antonia valente
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Charles E. Nelson commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hello Harold, Thank you for your kind words. I got much from your introspective and heartfelt post delving into our common feelings in our grieving. You know I'm often incorrect about dates, but I believe that this week will bring two difficult…"
12 hours ago
Charles E. Nelson commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hello Steve Cain, I was glad to see your post - I thank you from the bottom of my heart every time I come here to find comfort, fellowship, and peace. You have given so many people a safe and supportive place to find relief from our crushing…"
14 hours ago
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Harold ...  you Psychology post was a great one and I understood everything you said.  I talk to Ernie every day as well and say goodnight to him as if he still were here (just some peace in that small action.)  I also started to keep…"
16 hours ago
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Cynthia ...  I'm happy you have met someone special and life is full of surprise; childhood sweetheart yet.  I wish I could find some single women or widowed women for a girl's night out, but where I live it's difficult…"
16 hours ago
Cynthia Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Harold. I'm so sorry you have to go through this hurt. A friend from junior high sent me a gift on day, a journal and a pen, to document my everyday life. I wasn't consistent with it but I did write. Now when I go back I can really see…"
19 hours ago
Steve Cain commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Harold, you speak a lot of truth in that statement. In our case, Kris' issues began after her back surgery. Although, sadly, I'll never be able to prove it, both of us knew that the doctor who performed her back surgery punctured her…"
21 hours ago
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Bear with me I seem to be dappling in Philosophy tonight.  I was sitting outside looking at Diane's Garden thinking of her and losing her. Some people say to journal write down your feelings, I find what I do is talk out loud as if Diane…"
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Cynthia Sorry to hear about your friends suicide attempt, she is lucky to have a friend like you to help her out. Just imagine what it would be like for her if she didn't have any friends to help her out. Nice to hear that you have found a…"

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Just a quick note to thank you all for supporting each other. When I started this I would have NEVER thought this group would grow this big and have the amount of activity that it does. It's great to see you all supporting and helping each other. With 3 jobs it is hard to spend as much time as I'd like but it's good to know I don't have to spend a lot of time here administering things. Just remember I'm around if you need me. When something gets posted I do get an email and I will respond as soon as I get that. Thank you all for taking care of each other and remembering your loved ones here.

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At 11:08am on June 18, 2015, Cynthia Murphy said…

It has been a while since I have been here. My husband died 19 months ago after 17years of suffering from diabetes related problems. I didn't think I would ever get better but I have. Eight months into a horrible grief a friend called and asked me to come over, her brother was there. I dated her brother in high school. He had lost one of his sons in 2001 and grieving as much as I was. We've had so many discussions about what we have been through and where we are now.. We are dating now and loving life again. We still talk about our loved ones we lost but we remember with smiles and happy memories. I don't know what the future holds for me but I have to trust that God is leading me in the direction that was meant to be for the second half of my life.

At 2:19pm on September 1, 2014, Karen W said…

Joyce, welcome to the site.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  I lost my husband Ed almost 9 months ago and I have found myself back at this site often looking for comfort, encouragement, understanding, or just to vent my feelings.  Everyone here has been where you and I are and understands what we are going through.   I wish you strength for each new day. 

At 10:45am on September 1, 2014, Joyce M said…

I too am new to this site...and am not sure how to post a comment...I have read so many comments by others and have found some small measure of comfort knowing that what I am going thru is so normal...I lost my husband just 3 weeks ago and every day is so hard right now....

At 9:44am on May 26, 2013, Jan said…
How do I talk to people on this site? I posted and did a blog and no one responded. Maybe I didn't do it correctly.
At 9:02pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
I just realized I posted
I have read others post and it seems no matter whether the loss of our loved one is recent or years ago What I am feeling is what others have posted
I feel a large piece of my heart died when he did I feel like I have to be another person at work and then go home to our home we shared for 45 years and feel so alone I just crawl in bed and zone out to movies or sleep When I think about how much I miss him and being there when he took his last breath it's like I have to put my feelings away because its too hard to deal with them. I get mad then sad and cry I just want to go to sleep and wake up and he is back home with me. The question I have is I feel bad when other family members call with problems they are having or if they are sick. I feel like I can't handle it or be sympathetic and say the wrong thing to them. I really don't want to talk to others I feel bad I can't listen to there problems Does anyone else feel this way. I have always been the strong one helped others and was able to fix my problems. This grieving I can't fix me. I know everyone says it takes time but this is the worst thing to go thru and I don't feel I will ever be me again. I married Mike when I was 18. Moved from my patents house to be Mikes wife then became a mother and now 45 yrs later alone. I was always a wife and a mother never a me I don't know how to be me. Mike and I were friends too and did everything together I really don't have friends Sorry my post is so long. Mikes birthday is coming up then Xmas. Thanks for listening
At 8:40pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
Hi. I am new here how do I post a question My husband of 45 years passed away 10 months ago tonight I don't feel it will ever be better I miss so much. GOD BLESS EVERYONE
At 2:35am on September 13, 2012, Marilyn kroge said…
I am facing the 1st anniversary of the loss of my beloved Jim and I still can't accept that I am alone for the first time since I was 18 years old, almost 50 years with the same man and my only love. I wake in the night to sounds that I realize are coming from my very soul. I find myself calling out to him, begging him to please come back to me, that I can't go on without him and I can't stop the tears that won't stop and I don't want to stop the pain I feel because that would make it real, it would mean that I finally know that I will never feel his arms around me, that I'll never kiss him goodbye when he left each morning. This man I met for the first time and we knew that first meeting that love at first sight really happened and we were together from that moment until I kissed him and felt his last breath, warm and so amazing that I felt his breath as he closed his eyes and so quietly left me forever . I know how maudlin my words sound but I so need to finally tell someone of my pain. I'm not allowed to say any of this to my sons or anyone in my family. Their grief became anger and so this has been my life, alone and terribly hurt that no one wants to hear what I've said here where I feel safe sharing my deepest thoughts. Thank you......."m"
At 9:13pm on September 12, 2012, Margie Thrash said…

I am coming up on my second month without my rock (Scott) it is hard but I do have good friends that check up on me every night if I dont contact them so I am fortunate that way.  Had to already go thru his birthday without him was very hard to do.  Then we always did a 100 mile horse ride week of labor day did it this year by myself with a few friends and was hard but I did it.  Not a day goes by I dont cry.  One of his last text to me was please dont get depressed like I am right now (he had 3 months to live from diagnosis made it 3 1/2).  So I try to think of that text everytime it gets too bad and I go outside or work around the house and listen to alot of music.

At 2:21am on January 10, 2012, Rowe said…

Welcome to all new members. I Lost my first husband 31 yrs ago at the age of 38. Remaried 6 yrs later and lost my Late husband after 10 yrs. He has been gone for 15 years. I am living proof that after the grief, Life will go on.  Not at first, but about 5 yrs later you will be living again.. even though you thought it would never happen. I Recommend that you do not try to avoid the grief.. you have to deal with it because if you dont it will be waiting for you to come back. I am here for you if you need to vent, or just want someone to give you an ear.

At 5:40am on December 15, 2011, dawn m long said…

hi steve only a few more days till christmas .. Im here for ya

 luv dawn


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