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Charles E. Nelson commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Jan, I am so sorry for your loss of Ron, and welcome you to our "family" as I call us. I lost my husband Larry in 2015 to cancer, and was getting more and more lost in grief until I found this site. Much has changed in my life, but…"
deborah peck commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"When my Greg passed away or minutes before he did I told him if he was around he would send a blue jay as he said he had never seen one in the wild. Since then Ive caught glimpses of one in my yard but never actually sure if it actually was one. 2…"
deborah peck commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"hi Janet and welcome to our group, sorry for the reason but happy to have you. this is a great group of people that really care, its only been 2 years for me but seems like forever, there is a suicide group on this site too that you might be…"
Janet McDaniel commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Thank you, Diane. I wish none of us had to be here, but I'm glad this place exists. I'm sorry that you lost Rich. Twenty-five years is a long time. Certain times of year are harder for me. May is when Ron died, the day after his birthday.…"
Diane C commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Janet, Welcome to our site. Although no one wants to be here, it is a really nice group of people. We are all here for the same reason. Some of us much longer than others. My journey began 7 years ago, on August 1st. It was our 25th wedding…"
Janet McDaniel commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hello, It's wonderful to read about these feathers and how you are staying connected to the ones you lost. I'm new to this group but not new to losing a precious spouse. It's been twelve years now, and that is almost…"
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Bereaved Spouses

A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
Mary. Jane commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"The last feather I received was while standing in line at the county fair. It was a tiny one, but I picked it up and put it in my purse, then in a tiny jar at home. i am in Northern CA now..and they r having a HORRIBLE heat wave. Today it was 100…"
Aug 14
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Everyone....Sorry I haven't posted in a while. I do check in and read your posts but I've been behind lately and by the time I'm reading them, the conversations have moved on so I don't post. Mary Jane....I'm glad…"
Aug 14
Diane C commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Chuck, That is an awesome idea for the "feather tree". I would love to make one myself, if you don't mind me borrowing your idea. I like the idea of it keeping us busy and off the streets for a while too.  ; )  It is such…"
Aug 9
Charles E. Nelson commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Diane C, I agree it is nice to see some of our friends sharing again here! I just wanted to tell you what I plan to do with the bag of feathers Stteve ad I have collected from Mark and Larry over the last few years. There are quite a few, still…"
Aug 8
Diane C commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Here's another NUT from the tree... So glad to see some of you posting again. Funny how we all sit back and wait for someone to make the posting move, as we all wonder how everyone is and hoping everyone is ok. So glad to hear Steve talking…"
Aug 8
Mary. Jane commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Gilroy is very close to my new home. The garlic festival has been  yearly event for decades.and I had been watching the festival LIVE on TV, as a local news lady interviewed  happy fair goers, etc BEFORE the shootings, enjoying the day.…"
Aug 8
Mary. Jane commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"OMG...I am so happy to hear from everyone! I have been living in a sort of Twilight Zone the last month...and not hearing anything from my Legacy family..was scary. Chuck, I didn,t get your email..but no surprise, EVERYTHING and I mean EVERYTHING;…"
Aug 8
deborah peck commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Mary Jane, I don't get on much anymore, sometimes it seems like a painful reminder, other times it makes me not feel alone. I just got back from a vacation up north to Canada and north and south Dakota, saw mount Rushmore and many wondeful…"
Aug 8
Steve G. commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Mary Jane and everyone else in our Legacy family; Monday of this week I found a blue jay feather in the front yard.  I was adding height to two sprinkler heads and filling in the soil that had washed away on that side of the drive, there is…"
Aug 8

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Just a quick note to thank you all for supporting each other. When I started this I would have NEVER thought this group would grow this big and have the amount of activity that it does. It's great to see you all supporting and helping each other. With 3 jobs it is hard to spend as much time as I'd like but it's good to know I don't have to spend a lot of time here administering things. Just remember I'm around if you need me. When something gets posted I do get an email and I will respond as soon as I get that. Thank you all for taking care of each other and remembering your loved ones here.

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At 9:10am on August 12, 2017, Joanne Dobrow said…

My Jack was my world. It has been eight months since I lost him and yes somehow you go on but I will always be half of me. I have lost half of what made me me.

At 11:08am on June 18, 2015, Cynthia Murphy said…

It has been a while since I have been here. My husband died 19 months ago after 17years of suffering from diabetes related problems. I didn't think I would ever get better but I have. Eight months into a horrible grief a friend called and asked me to come over, her brother was there. I dated her brother in high school. He had lost one of his sons in 2001 and grieving as much as I was. We've had so many discussions about what we have been through and where we are now.. We are dating now and loving life again. We still talk about our loved ones we lost but we remember with smiles and happy memories. I don't know what the future holds for me but I have to trust that God is leading me in the direction that was meant to be for the second half of my life.

At 2:19pm on September 1, 2014, Karen W said…

Joyce, welcome to the site.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  I lost my husband Ed almost 9 months ago and I have found myself back at this site often looking for comfort, encouragement, understanding, or just to vent my feelings.  Everyone here has been where you and I are and understands what we are going through.   I wish you strength for each new day. 

At 10:45am on September 1, 2014, Joyce M said…

I too am new to this site...and am not sure how to post a comment...I have read so many comments by others and have found some small measure of comfort knowing that what I am going thru is so normal...I lost my husband just 3 weeks ago and every day is so hard right now....

At 9:44am on May 26, 2013, Jan said…
How do I talk to people on this site? I posted and did a blog and no one responded. Maybe I didn't do it correctly.
At 9:02pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
I just realized I posted
I have read others post and it seems no matter whether the loss of our loved one is recent or years ago What I am feeling is what others have posted
I feel a large piece of my heart died when he did I feel like I have to be another person at work and then go home to our home we shared for 45 years and feel so alone I just crawl in bed and zone out to movies or sleep When I think about how much I miss him and being there when he took his last breath it's like I have to put my feelings away because its too hard to deal with them. I get mad then sad and cry I just want to go to sleep and wake up and he is back home with me. The question I have is I feel bad when other family members call with problems they are having or if they are sick. I feel like I can't handle it or be sympathetic and say the wrong thing to them. I really don't want to talk to others I feel bad I can't listen to there problems Does anyone else feel this way. I have always been the strong one helped others and was able to fix my problems. This grieving I can't fix me. I know everyone says it takes time but this is the worst thing to go thru and I don't feel I will ever be me again. I married Mike when I was 18. Moved from my patents house to be Mikes wife then became a mother and now 45 yrs later alone. I was always a wife and a mother never a me I don't know how to be me. Mike and I were friends too and did everything together I really don't have friends Sorry my post is so long. Mikes birthday is coming up then Xmas. Thanks for listening
At 8:40pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
Hi. I am new here how do I post a question My husband of 45 years passed away 10 months ago tonight I don't feel it will ever be better I miss so much. GOD BLESS EVERYONE
At 2:35am on September 13, 2012, Marilyn kroge said…
I am facing the 1st anniversary of the loss of my beloved Jim and I still can't accept that I am alone for the first time since I was 18 years old, almost 50 years with the same man and my only love. I wake in the night to sounds that I realize are coming from my very soul. I find myself calling out to him, begging him to please come back to me, that I can't go on without him and I can't stop the tears that won't stop and I don't want to stop the pain I feel because that would make it real, it would mean that I finally know that I will never feel his arms around me, that I'll never kiss him goodbye when he left each morning. This man I met for the first time and we knew that first meeting that love at first sight really happened and we were together from that moment until I kissed him and felt his last breath, warm and so amazing that I felt his breath as he closed his eyes and so quietly left me forever . I know how maudlin my words sound but I so need to finally tell someone of my pain. I'm not allowed to say any of this to my sons or anyone in my family. Their grief became anger and so this has been my life, alone and terribly hurt that no one wants to hear what I've said here where I feel safe sharing my deepest thoughts. Thank you......."m"
At 9:13pm on September 12, 2012, Margie Thrash said…

I am coming up on my second month without my rock (Scott) it is hard but I do have good friends that check up on me every night if I dont contact them so I am fortunate that way.  Had to already go thru his birthday without him was very hard to do.  Then we always did a 100 mile horse ride week of labor day did it this year by myself with a few friends and was hard but I did it.  Not a day goes by I dont cry.  One of his last text to me was please dont get depressed like I am right now (he had 3 months to live from diagnosis made it 3 1/2).  So I try to think of that text everytime it gets too bad and I go outside or work around the house and listen to alot of music.

At 2:21am on January 10, 2012, Rowe said…

Welcome to all new members. I Lost my first husband 31 yrs ago at the age of 38. Remaried 6 yrs later and lost my Late husband after 10 yrs. He has been gone for 15 years. I am living proof that after the grief, Life will go on.  Not at first, but about 5 yrs later you will be living again.. even though you thought it would never happen. I Recommend that you do not try to avoid the grief.. you have to deal with it because if you dont it will be waiting for you to come back. I am here for you if you need to vent, or just want someone to give you an ear.


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