Steve Cain
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Trina Mamoon commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hello Marsha and Rolland, Thank you so much for your kind words and show of support. It does really help when  others who are on this same journey as me reach out and say words of sympathy and encouragement. As I have said before, this site was…"
6 hours ago
georgia commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Nate, how beautiful, Your Maria is proud to have such a wonderful husband. Well done."
8 hours ago
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"For those who believe: I wish I could tell you of all that God has planned But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand But one thing is for certain through my life on earth is o're I am closer to you now than I ever was before And…"
11 hours ago
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Trina ...  I can sympathize with how you feel about your trip and coming home to an empty house.  I keep a radio on or even the TV at times just to hear a human voice.  I also have 2 small dogs that are loving and caring and seem to…"
11 hours ago
Rolland Wood commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Trina, I understand that 'Empty House' syndrome, it feels like empty house and empty life. The one good and living reminder I have of Janice is the Amazon Parrot which I gave her on her birthday back in 1988. Janice loved Oz the parrot,…"
18 hours ago
Trina Mamoon commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"It's been a very hard day today as I am about to take a long trip to my country of origin, Bangladesh. I go there every year because of family responsibilities. In the past, a week or so before my departure, Joseph and I would start getting…"
23 hours ago
Barbara Sullivan commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Thank you to Carol and Marsha for your words of help and comfort.  It means so much to have people in my life who know and care.  Hard to explain it to friends and family who have not experienced the loss of a partner,"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Bill ...  You chose the right words, 'we adjust.'  When my husband Ernie passed in 2011 I walked around in a fog and there are a lot of things I can't remember in that first year.  The second year was less foggy…"
BILL Plunkett commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"It is going on 6 years since my love has left. Everyday it seems maybe getting but when my thoughts turn to us it is very hard. I do not when it gets easier do not think it does. We just adjust to life without them but will always grieve"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Nate ...  Thank you for that beautiful poem you wrote to your Maria and then shared it with us.  My husband Ernie passed in April 2011 and I feel he took a part of my heart which I will never get back, but true as Barbara says, 'we go…"
Rolland Wood commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Your're right Nate...this is my 2nd year without my wife Janice...and there is a hole in my life you could drive a truck through...a truly hard pain to define or deal with...good poem by the way. Best wishes....Rolland"
nate eustis commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"I wrote this for MyMaria's 63 Memorial BD dinner. My 3rd W/O her. But I offer it for all of us who as Barbara stated, " go on". We go on with a hole in our heart and will never have a whole heart is only us who know…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Jane P and Carol ...  I am glad you enjoyed the poem.  I have no idea who wrote it, but it pretty much says what we feel and I thought for some of the new members if they were having problems with family or friends trying to…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Barbara ...  I am so sorry you are suddenly aware that the grief is still deeply hidden in your heart.  I believe it always will be for us, but as time goes on it becomes further apart and a little less intense, but still there and…"
Barbara Sullivan commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"For the first time in many months, I woke in the middle of the night, my face wet with tears, crying for my love.  Chris has been gone from me for two years, one month and 13 days.  I thought I was doing 'okay' -- oh, I shed a…"
Jane P. commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha, They are words well spoken for those who don't understand our pain.  Thank you for sharing!   Hugs, Jane P."

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Just a quick note to thank you all for supporting each other. When I started this I would have NEVER thought this group would grow this big and have the amount of activity that it does. It's great to see you all supporting and helping each other. With 3 jobs it is hard to spend as much time as I'd like but it's good to know I don't have to spend a lot of time here administering things. Just remember I'm around if you need me. When something gets posted I do get an email and I will respond as soon as I get that. Thank you all for taking care of each other and remembering your loved ones here.

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At 2:19pm on September 1, 2014, Karen W said…

Joyce, welcome to the site.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  I lost my husband Ed almost 9 months ago and I have found myself back at this site often looking for comfort, encouragement, understanding, or just to vent my feelings.  Everyone here has been where you and I are and understands what we are going through.   I wish you strength for each new day. 

At 10:45am on September 1, 2014, Joyce M said…

I too am new to this site...and am not sure how to post a comment...I have read so many comments by others and have found some small measure of comfort knowing that what I am going thru is so normal...I lost my husband just 3 weeks ago and every day is so hard right now....

At 9:44am on May 26, 2013, Jan said…
How do I talk to people on this site? I posted and did a blog and no one responded. Maybe I didn't do it correctly.
At 9:02pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
I just realized I posted
I have read others post and it seems no matter whether the loss of our loved one is recent or years ago What I am feeling is what others have posted
I feel a large piece of my heart died when he did I feel like I have to be another person at work and then go home to our home we shared for 45 years and feel so alone I just crawl in bed and zone out to movies or sleep When I think about how much I miss him and being there when he took his last breath it's like I have to put my feelings away because its too hard to deal with them. I get mad then sad and cry I just want to go to sleep and wake up and he is back home with me. The question I have is I feel bad when other family members call with problems they are having or if they are sick. I feel like I can't handle it or be sympathetic and say the wrong thing to them. I really don't want to talk to others I feel bad I can't listen to there problems Does anyone else feel this way. I have always been the strong one helped others and was able to fix my problems. This grieving I can't fix me. I know everyone says it takes time but this is the worst thing to go thru and I don't feel I will ever be me again. I married Mike when I was 18. Moved from my patents house to be Mikes wife then became a mother and now 45 yrs later alone. I was always a wife and a mother never a me I don't know how to be me. Mike and I were friends too and did everything together I really don't have friends Sorry my post is so long. Mikes birthday is coming up then Xmas. Thanks for listening
At 8:40pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
Hi. I am new here how do I post a question My husband of 45 years passed away 10 months ago tonight I don't feel it will ever be better I miss so much. GOD BLESS EVERYONE
At 2:35am on September 13, 2012, Marilyn kroge said…
I am facing the 1st anniversary of the loss of my beloved Jim and I still can't accept that I am alone for the first time since I was 18 years old, almost 50 years with the same man and my only love. I wake in the night to sounds that I realize are coming from my very soul. I find myself calling out to him, begging him to please come back to me, that I can't go on without him and I can't stop the tears that won't stop and I don't want to stop the pain I feel because that would make it real, it would mean that I finally know that I will never feel his arms around me, that I'll never kiss him goodbye when he left each morning. This man I met for the first time and we knew that first meeting that love at first sight really happened and we were together from that moment until I kissed him and felt his last breath, warm and so amazing that I felt his breath as he closed his eyes and so quietly left me forever . I know how maudlin my words sound but I so need to finally tell someone of my pain. I'm not allowed to say any of this to my sons or anyone in my family. Their grief became anger and so this has been my life, alone and terribly hurt that no one wants to hear what I've said here where I feel safe sharing my deepest thoughts. Thank you......."m"
At 9:13pm on September 12, 2012, Margie Thrash said…

I am coming up on my second month without my rock (Scott) it is hard but I do have good friends that check up on me every night if I dont contact them so I am fortunate that way.  Had to already go thru his birthday without him was very hard to do.  Then we always did a 100 mile horse ride week of labor day did it this year by myself with a few friends and was hard but I did it.  Not a day goes by I dont cry.  One of his last text to me was please dont get depressed like I am right now (he had 3 months to live from diagnosis made it 3 1/2).  So I try to think of that text everytime it gets too bad and I go outside or work around the house and listen to alot of music.

At 2:21am on January 10, 2012, Rowe said…

Welcome to all new members. I Lost my first husband 31 yrs ago at the age of 38. Remaried 6 yrs later and lost my Late husband after 10 yrs. He has been gone for 15 years. I am living proof that after the grief, Life will go on.  Not at first, but about 5 yrs later you will be living again.. even though you thought it would never happen. I Recommend that you do not try to avoid the grief.. you have to deal with it because if you dont it will be waiting for you to come back. I am here for you if you need to vent, or just want someone to give you an ear.

At 5:40am on December 15, 2011, dawn m long said…

hi steve only a few more days till christmas .. Im here for ya

 luv dawn

At 5:40am on December 15, 2011, dawn m long said…

hi steve only a few more days till christmas .. Im here for ya

 luv dawn


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