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Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Sheri.......I still have the bags I brought home from the hospital untouched.  I'll also never go through his closet and discard his clothing.  I know many people prefer to donate the clothing since our spouse won't be needing…"
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Brenda  I still miss and think of Diane everyday probably always will. Don't worry about moving on so soon, Dale was your Life you don't put that aside so easy. I would suggest you allow yourself to grieve, it hurts like hell but…"
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Brenda........You're only 2 weeks into your grief journey.  It's way too soon for you to put pressure on yourself to move on.  I just had my one year anniversary without Ken and still have no intentions of ever moving on. …"
Sheri Dettman commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Brenda, I talk to my Bill all day, every day. I just spent half an hour with unstoppable tears as I was folding laundry that had been piling up for 2 weeks. I had washed some of Bill's shirts that had been in his suitcase from the hospital that…"
brenda may commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha,Thank you so much for your kind words.I hope today finds you happy and healthy.Yesterday was a small milestone in my journey here on earth without my sweet Dale.I continue to talk too him daily.Good morning honey,are you ready to have lunch…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Brenda ...  Answered your other message (glitch on the forum made me late replying.) I am so proud of you for going to the church and doing what you and Dale did together and I know it was no easy feat.  I also believe he was…"
brenda may commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hello hoping to find everyone as healthy and happy as you can be today,I was able to leave my home for the first day since my sweat heart Dales funeral.I felt compelled to do what Dale loved doing on Fridays which was volunteering at our community…"
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Bereaved Spouses

A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Corey ...  Just wanted to let you know that it's been almost 6 years since my beloved Ernie passed.  I was in shock for the first year and sometimes even today can't believe he is gone.  The anger you are going through is…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Sara ...  I appreciate your commends so much as I know you encourage all of us even though you are going through your own heartaches.  I do search out a few young friends because they still have that energy.  I am not bouncing…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Sara ...  My heart and spirit are with you on your Anniversary and if we could only wish for one second we could see our spouses one more time.  I too feel that each year that goes by is one year closer to being with Ernie.  The…"
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Todd......It's good to hear from you.  Thank you for the support.  Hope you're doing relatively well."
Todd B. Goodrich commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Sara, Sending you great love, support and prayers to you today! Hugs for you, Todd"
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha......I hope these new "young" friends will help fill the void in your life.   Age is just a number, it's really how you feel that matters.  You're probably more compatible with 50 yr olds than 70 yr…"
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Thank you all for your kind thoughts.   The outpouring of support is what does make the day tolerable.  I'm actually at work today because I have too much going on here to take the day off.  I'll go to dinner tonight…"
Diane C commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Sara and Gretchen, I know how very difficult this day is for both of you. I got through my 1 year anniversary 4 years ago on Aug.1, it was also our 26th wedding anniversary. Such a sad bittersweet day. Rich died on our 25th wedding anniversary.…"

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Just a quick note to thank you all for supporting each other. When I started this I would have NEVER thought this group would grow this big and have the amount of activity that it does. It's great to see you all supporting and helping each other. With 3 jobs it is hard to spend as much time as I'd like but it's good to know I don't have to spend a lot of time here administering things. Just remember I'm around if you need me. When something gets posted I do get an email and I will respond as soon as I get that. Thank you all for taking care of each other and remembering your loved ones here.

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At 11:08am on June 18, 2015, Cynthia Murphy said…

It has been a while since I have been here. My husband died 19 months ago after 17years of suffering from diabetes related problems. I didn't think I would ever get better but I have. Eight months into a horrible grief a friend called and asked me to come over, her brother was there. I dated her brother in high school. He had lost one of his sons in 2001 and grieving as much as I was. We've had so many discussions about what we have been through and where we are now.. We are dating now and loving life again. We still talk about our loved ones we lost but we remember with smiles and happy memories. I don't know what the future holds for me but I have to trust that God is leading me in the direction that was meant to be for the second half of my life.

At 2:19pm on September 1, 2014, Karen W said…

Joyce, welcome to the site.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  I lost my husband Ed almost 9 months ago and I have found myself back at this site often looking for comfort, encouragement, understanding, or just to vent my feelings.  Everyone here has been where you and I are and understands what we are going through.   I wish you strength for each new day. 

At 10:45am on September 1, 2014, Joyce M said…

I too am new to this site...and am not sure how to post a comment...I have read so many comments by others and have found some small measure of comfort knowing that what I am going thru is so normal...I lost my husband just 3 weeks ago and every day is so hard right now....

At 9:44am on May 26, 2013, Jan said…
How do I talk to people on this site? I posted and did a blog and no one responded. Maybe I didn't do it correctly.
At 9:02pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
I just realized I posted
I have read others post and it seems no matter whether the loss of our loved one is recent or years ago What I am feeling is what others have posted
I feel a large piece of my heart died when he did I feel like I have to be another person at work and then go home to our home we shared for 45 years and feel so alone I just crawl in bed and zone out to movies or sleep When I think about how much I miss him and being there when he took his last breath it's like I have to put my feelings away because its too hard to deal with them. I get mad then sad and cry I just want to go to sleep and wake up and he is back home with me. The question I have is I feel bad when other family members call with problems they are having or if they are sick. I feel like I can't handle it or be sympathetic and say the wrong thing to them. I really don't want to talk to others I feel bad I can't listen to there problems Does anyone else feel this way. I have always been the strong one helped others and was able to fix my problems. This grieving I can't fix me. I know everyone says it takes time but this is the worst thing to go thru and I don't feel I will ever be me again. I married Mike when I was 18. Moved from my patents house to be Mikes wife then became a mother and now 45 yrs later alone. I was always a wife and a mother never a me I don't know how to be me. Mike and I were friends too and did everything together I really don't have friends Sorry my post is so long. Mikes birthday is coming up then Xmas. Thanks for listening
At 8:40pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
Hi. I am new here how do I post a question My husband of 45 years passed away 10 months ago tonight I don't feel it will ever be better I miss so much. GOD BLESS EVERYONE
At 2:35am on September 13, 2012, Marilyn kroge said…
I am facing the 1st anniversary of the loss of my beloved Jim and I still can't accept that I am alone for the first time since I was 18 years old, almost 50 years with the same man and my only love. I wake in the night to sounds that I realize are coming from my very soul. I find myself calling out to him, begging him to please come back to me, that I can't go on without him and I can't stop the tears that won't stop and I don't want to stop the pain I feel because that would make it real, it would mean that I finally know that I will never feel his arms around me, that I'll never kiss him goodbye when he left each morning. This man I met for the first time and we knew that first meeting that love at first sight really happened and we were together from that moment until I kissed him and felt his last breath, warm and so amazing that I felt his breath as he closed his eyes and so quietly left me forever . I know how maudlin my words sound but I so need to finally tell someone of my pain. I'm not allowed to say any of this to my sons or anyone in my family. Their grief became anger and so this has been my life, alone and terribly hurt that no one wants to hear what I've said here where I feel safe sharing my deepest thoughts. Thank you......."m"
At 9:13pm on September 12, 2012, Margie Thrash said…

I am coming up on my second month without my rock (Scott) it is hard but I do have good friends that check up on me every night if I dont contact them so I am fortunate that way.  Had to already go thru his birthday without him was very hard to do.  Then we always did a 100 mile horse ride week of labor day did it this year by myself with a few friends and was hard but I did it.  Not a day goes by I dont cry.  One of his last text to me was please dont get depressed like I am right now (he had 3 months to live from diagnosis made it 3 1/2).  So I try to think of that text everytime it gets too bad and I go outside or work around the house and listen to alot of music.

At 2:21am on January 10, 2012, Rowe said…

Welcome to all new members. I Lost my first husband 31 yrs ago at the age of 38. Remaried 6 yrs later and lost my Late husband after 10 yrs. He has been gone for 15 years. I am living proof that after the grief, Life will go on.  Not at first, but about 5 yrs later you will be living again.. even though you thought it would never happen. I Recommend that you do not try to avoid the grief.. you have to deal with it because if you dont it will be waiting for you to come back. I am here for you if you need to vent, or just want someone to give you an ear.

At 5:40am on December 15, 2011, dawn m long said…

hi steve only a few more days till christmas .. Im here for ya

 luv dawn


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