"Jane, Thank you so much for everything. I can't begin too thank you enough. Your always there for me and if I had to write a list I'll be writing all night long. Your a special kind of person that I'm honored to call you my…"
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Janice F. commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Thank you Carol for thinking of me. Ive been having a really rough time. My bad back has gotten very bad, now I'm having very painful spasms, never had that before. I think I did something to it, don't know what.…"
janeo commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Marsha, Incredible story I would think I was going nuts and crazy. But now that Ernies friend called on-top that. WOW! double WOW ! But really happy that Ernies taking care of you. At the same time having a males voice in the house again.…"
Janice F. commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Changed to my full name of Janice, since there's another Jan now, to avoid any confusion. I hope you are all doing as well as you can. I do read when I can. My health has taken a downward turn, don't have strength of mind…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"To all: The strangest thing happened to me today. I've been feeling very low for a few days because I feel so lonely and forgotten as if I died instead of my husband. Forgotten! I know many on here can feel that…"
Helen Duncan Hutchinson commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Hi everyone. Have not posted recently because I have found these past weeks really tough. My bereavement counselor told me two weeks ago that she thought I was putting grieving for Morley off to the side because it was less painful to…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Stacey ... There is no need to apologize and you do return the favor to others when I know you have time. It's exhausting for some of us just to get on with our lives so sometimes there is little energy to extend to others. I…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Carol ... Thank you for the compliment. I do believe in what I said and saying goodbye to someone we love so much is the hardest thing we will ever have to do. I am still trying to figure out what work I have left to do as I have…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Janeo ... I'm so sorry to hear your hours at work have been cutback, but not surprised. British Columbia where I live we have been touted the 'part-time Province' for the past 10 years. They hire for part-time, then when…"
Jane P. commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Janeo, I am so sorry this has happened to you but this IS only the beginning of what is to come. A friend of mine also had their hours cut because of the Affordable Care Act (Obamacare) and was also told if they did not have health…"
Chicago Beard commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Wow Janeo
Talk about getting salt rubbed in the wounds. I am so sorry. Our government has done much the last 16 years to pretend the voters do not exist and to do whatever the special interests want them to do. It does not matter what the party…"
janeo commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Well, another downer I just found out our hours at my job been cut from 35 to 29 . Because of the Obama care act. They don't want to pay medical for us and we work 30 hours they would have too. I give up it's one thing after another.…"
stacey commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Marsha- I saw the counselor today and I feel a little relieved to talk to someone face to face. I think I needed it and I'm going to keep going and join the one group I'm on a waiting list for, for this fall I think its good for me to…"
janeo commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Thank you all for your prayers. Her husband and kids are really going too m eed them ."
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Just a quick note to thank you all for supporting each other. When I started this I would have NEVER thought this group would grow this big and have the amount of activity that it does. It's great to see you all supporting and helping each other. With 3 jobs it is hard to spend as much time as I'd like but it's good to know I don't have to spend a lot of time here administering things. Just remember I'm around if you need me. When something gets posted I do get an email and I will respond as soon as I get that. Thank you all for taking care of each other and remembering your loved ones here.
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- At 9:44am on May 26, 2013,
Jan said… - How do I talk to people on this site? I posted and did a blog and no one responded. Maybe I didn't do it correctly.
- At 9:02pm on December 7, 2012,
Babs said… - I just realized I posted
I have read others post and it seems no matter whether the loss of our loved one is recent or years ago What I am feeling is what others have posted
I feel a large piece of my heart died when he did I feel like I have to be another person at work and then go home to our home we shared for 45 years and feel so alone I just crawl in bed and zone out to movies or sleep When I think about how much I miss him and being there when he took his last breath it's like I have to put my feelings away because its too hard to deal with them. I get mad then sad and cry I just want to go to sleep and wake up and he is back home with me. The question I have is I feel bad when other family members call with problems they are having or if they are sick. I feel like I can't handle it or be sympathetic and say the wrong thing to them. I really don't want to talk to others I feel bad I can't listen to there problems Does anyone else feel this way. I have always been the strong one helped others and was able to fix my problems. This grieving I can't fix me. I know everyone says it takes time but this is the worst thing to go thru and I don't feel I will ever be me again. I married Mike when I was 18. Moved from my patents house to be Mikes wife then became a mother and now 45 yrs later alone. I was always a wife and a mother never a me I don't know how to be me. Mike and I were friends too and did everything together I really don't have friends Sorry my post is so long. Mikes birthday is coming up then Xmas. Thanks for listening
- At 8:40pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
- Hi. I am new here how do I post a question My husband of 45 years passed away 10 months ago tonight I don't feel it will ever be better I miss so much. GOD BLESS EVERYONE
- At 2:35am on September 13, 2012, Marilyn kroge said…
- I am facing the 1st anniversary of the loss of my beloved Jim and I still can't accept that I am alone for the first time since I was 18 years old, almost 50 years with the same man and my only love. I wake in the night to sounds that I realize are coming from my very soul. I find myself calling out to him, begging him to please come back to me, that I can't go on without him and I can't stop the tears that won't stop and I don't want to stop the pain I feel because that would make it real, it would mean that I finally know that I will never feel his arms around me, that I'll never kiss him goodbye when he left each morning. This man I met for the first time and we knew that first meeting that love at first sight really happened and we were together from that moment until I kissed him and felt his last breath, warm and so amazing that I felt his breath as he closed his eyes and so quietly left me forever . I know how maudlin my words sound but I so need to finally tell someone of my pain. I'm not allowed to say any of this to my sons or anyone in my family. Their grief became anger and so this has been my life, alone and terribly hurt that no one wants to hear what I've said here where I feel safe sharing my deepest thoughts. Thank you......."m"
- At 9:13pm on September 12, 2012,
Margie Thrash said… I am coming up on my second month without my rock (Scott) it is hard but I do have good friends that check up on me every night if I dont contact them so I am fortunate that way. Had to already go thru his birthday without him was very hard to do. Then we always did a 100 mile horse ride week of labor day did it this year by myself with a few friends and was hard but I did it. Not a day goes by I dont cry. One of his last text to me was please dont get depressed like I am right now (he had 3 months to live from diagnosis made it 3 1/2). So I try to think of that text everytime it gets too bad and I go outside or work around the house and listen to alot of music.
- At 2:21am on January 10, 2012,
Rowe said…
Welcome to all new members. I Lost my first husband 31 yrs ago at the age of 38. Remaried 6 yrs later and lost my Late husband after 10 yrs. He has been gone for 15 years. I am living proof that after the grief, Life will go on. Not at first, but about 5 yrs later you will be living again.. even though you thought it would never happen. I Recommend that you do not try to avoid the grief.. you have to deal with it because if you dont it will be waiting for you to come back. I am here for you if you need to vent, or just want someone to give you an ear.
- At 5:40am on December 15, 2011,
dawn m long said…
hi steve only a few more days till christmas .. Im here for ya
luv dawn
- At 5:40am on December 15, 2011,
hi steve only a few more days till christmas .. Im here for ya
luv dawn
- At 5:39am on December 15, 2011,
hi steve only a few more days till christmas .. Im here for ya
luv dawn
- At 5:39am on December 15, 2011,
hi steve only a few more days till christmas .. Im here for ya
luv dawn
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