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Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Debbie ...  My condolences and although this isn't the forum all of us would like to be on it has saved my life.  The people here are experiencing grief in different time frames so never be afraid to come on and post.  We think…"
Feb 17
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Debbie....I'm so sorry for your loss but glad you found our group.  Finding Legacy for me saved my sanity.  These angels are the only people who can understand this pain.  Please don't hesitate to post because you're…"
Feb 17
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Pete....I feel similar to you in both how alone I feel and how I feel about my possessions.  It also took me until this past July, 2 1/2 years after Ken passed, to name someone as an emergency contact and I only did so because I ended up…"
Feb 17
Trina Mamoon commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Chuck, I have missed seeing your posts here. I am so glad that your wrote. Thanks for writing and also for writing so beautifully. Your prose brings the pleasure of reading and therefore is yet more therapeutic. Your analogy of our journey of…"
Feb 17
Charles E. Nelson commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Pete, I just wanted to say that I can relate very well to your words, and remember being asked when I was in the hospital being informed that Larry had passed many questions about his wishes, my wishes, etc. For weeks this seemed to be the…"
Feb 16
Charles E. Nelson commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Debbie R I am sorry for the loss that brought you here, and truly feel that the caring people I have met through this family has saved my sanity and my life. I haven't posted for awhile, but your words compelled me to pop in again letting…"
Feb 16
Debbie R commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Thank you all so much for your warm replies.  They made me smile but it's funny, I hesitated to post because after reading how many of you have been dealing with your own personal nightmare for years, I felt that by chiming in I'd be…"
Feb 16
DJ commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Debbie, so sorry for your loss.  I lost my wife to brain cancer five years ago.  I stumbled onto this group when my heartache seemed unbearable. As much as none of us want to be here because of the price of admission, it was immediately…"
Feb 15
Pete Bronson commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"I hope everyone was able to get through today OK. Valentine's Day was kind of a special day for Rose and I. It was the first holiday together for us after we started living together as a couple being 6 days after we moved in together. She was 7…"
Feb 14
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Valentine's Day was only special to Ernie and I because I would cook a fancy meal, make him a heart-shaped cake and we'd give each other cards.  I would get flowers (of course not always roses) but we used Valentine's Day just to…"
Feb 14
Mary. Jane commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hello and welcome, Debbie. you have come to a wonderful place...everyone here is going through what you are experiencing, some recently, some a few years in. So we know what to say, we know exactly how you are feeling, cuz we are experiencing the…"
Feb 14
Trina Mamoon commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Debbie, I am so very sorry to hear about your loss. It’s been four and a half years since I lost my beloved husband Joseph. I empathize with you fully and pray that your solo journey ahead is becomes bearable over the years. This is a good…"
Feb 14
Debbie R commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"This is my first post and I just want to say I hope everyone here is having as good a day as possible with all you've all been through.  I never thought I'd join a group like this but I lost my Tommy on May 31st after 26 years…"
Feb 14
Trina Mamoon commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Same here. Valentine’s Day was not a big day for Joseph and me. If it happened to fall on a weekend or if it were convenient, we would celebrate on that day. We didn’t feel like we had to show each other our love and devotion on a…"
Feb 14
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Valentine's of those holidays that feels like a punch in the gut. Ken and I never lived by the calendar so we were never big on Valentine's Day. Just because the calendar says Feb 14 is the day to express your love, doesn't…"
Feb 14
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Bereaved Spouses

A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
Feb 11

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Just a quick note to thank you all for supporting each other. When I started this I would have NEVER thought this group would grow this big and have the amount of activity that it does. It's great to see you all supporting and helping each other. With 3 jobs it is hard to spend as much time as I'd like but it's good to know I don't have to spend a lot of time here administering things. Just remember I'm around if you need me. When something gets posted I do get an email and I will respond as soon as I get that. Thank you all for taking care of each other and remembering your loved ones here.

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At 9:10am on August 12, 2017, Joanne Dobrow said…

My Jack was my world. It has been eight months since I lost him and yes somehow you go on but I will always be half of me. I have lost half of what made me me.

At 11:08am on June 18, 2015, Cynthia Murphy said…

It has been a while since I have been here. My husband died 19 months ago after 17years of suffering from diabetes related problems. I didn't think I would ever get better but I have. Eight months into a horrible grief a friend called and asked me to come over, her brother was there. I dated her brother in high school. He had lost one of his sons in 2001 and grieving as much as I was. We've had so many discussions about what we have been through and where we are now.. We are dating now and loving life again. We still talk about our loved ones we lost but we remember with smiles and happy memories. I don't know what the future holds for me but I have to trust that God is leading me in the direction that was meant to be for the second half of my life.

At 2:19pm on September 1, 2014, Karen W said…

Joyce, welcome to the site.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  I lost my husband Ed almost 9 months ago and I have found myself back at this site often looking for comfort, encouragement, understanding, or just to vent my feelings.  Everyone here has been where you and I are and understands what we are going through.   I wish you strength for each new day. 

At 10:45am on September 1, 2014, Joyce M said…

I too am new to this site...and am not sure how to post a comment...I have read so many comments by others and have found some small measure of comfort knowing that what I am going thru is so normal...I lost my husband just 3 weeks ago and every day is so hard right now....

At 9:44am on May 26, 2013, Jan said…
How do I talk to people on this site? I posted and did a blog and no one responded. Maybe I didn't do it correctly.
At 9:02pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
I just realized I posted
I have read others post and it seems no matter whether the loss of our loved one is recent or years ago What I am feeling is what others have posted
I feel a large piece of my heart died when he did I feel like I have to be another person at work and then go home to our home we shared for 45 years and feel so alone I just crawl in bed and zone out to movies or sleep When I think about how much I miss him and being there when he took his last breath it's like I have to put my feelings away because its too hard to deal with them. I get mad then sad and cry I just want to go to sleep and wake up and he is back home with me. The question I have is I feel bad when other family members call with problems they are having or if they are sick. I feel like I can't handle it or be sympathetic and say the wrong thing to them. I really don't want to talk to others I feel bad I can't listen to there problems Does anyone else feel this way. I have always been the strong one helped others and was able to fix my problems. This grieving I can't fix me. I know everyone says it takes time but this is the worst thing to go thru and I don't feel I will ever be me again. I married Mike when I was 18. Moved from my patents house to be Mikes wife then became a mother and now 45 yrs later alone. I was always a wife and a mother never a me I don't know how to be me. Mike and I were friends too and did everything together I really don't have friends Sorry my post is so long. Mikes birthday is coming up then Xmas. Thanks for listening
At 8:40pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
Hi. I am new here how do I post a question My husband of 45 years passed away 10 months ago tonight I don't feel it will ever be better I miss so much. GOD BLESS EVERYONE
At 2:35am on September 13, 2012, Marilyn kroge said…
I am facing the 1st anniversary of the loss of my beloved Jim and I still can't accept that I am alone for the first time since I was 18 years old, almost 50 years with the same man and my only love. I wake in the night to sounds that I realize are coming from my very soul. I find myself calling out to him, begging him to please come back to me, that I can't go on without him and I can't stop the tears that won't stop and I don't want to stop the pain I feel because that would make it real, it would mean that I finally know that I will never feel his arms around me, that I'll never kiss him goodbye when he left each morning. This man I met for the first time and we knew that first meeting that love at first sight really happened and we were together from that moment until I kissed him and felt his last breath, warm and so amazing that I felt his breath as he closed his eyes and so quietly left me forever . I know how maudlin my words sound but I so need to finally tell someone of my pain. I'm not allowed to say any of this to my sons or anyone in my family. Their grief became anger and so this has been my life, alone and terribly hurt that no one wants to hear what I've said here where I feel safe sharing my deepest thoughts. Thank you......."m"
At 9:13pm on September 12, 2012, Margie Thrash said…

I am coming up on my second month without my rock (Scott) it is hard but I do have good friends that check up on me every night if I dont contact them so I am fortunate that way.  Had to already go thru his birthday without him was very hard to do.  Then we always did a 100 mile horse ride week of labor day did it this year by myself with a few friends and was hard but I did it.  Not a day goes by I dont cry.  One of his last text to me was please dont get depressed like I am right now (he had 3 months to live from diagnosis made it 3 1/2).  So I try to think of that text everytime it gets too bad and I go outside or work around the house and listen to alot of music.

At 2:21am on January 10, 2012, Rowe said…

Welcome to all new members. I Lost my first husband 31 yrs ago at the age of 38. Remaried 6 yrs later and lost my Late husband after 10 yrs. He has been gone for 15 years. I am living proof that after the grief, Life will go on.  Not at first, but about 5 yrs later you will be living again.. even though you thought it would never happen. I Recommend that you do not try to avoid the grief.. you have to deal with it because if you dont it will be waiting for you to come back. I am here for you if you need to vent, or just want someone to give you an ear.


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