"Steve, I remember your post when Bella died..and have thought of it often. I found it very comforting..that somehow our beloved pets stay with us, hopefully to join us in our next lives. (Yes, I believe in reincarnation…the short time we are…"
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"Dear Mary Jane,
Wow, that was awesome. My dreams of Mark usually have us interacting with my grandparents who raised me. Sounds almost like an alternate universe story. However, it really lifts my spirits and to see my grandparents differently,…"
"Dear Mary Jane,
Oh my goodness, what a wonderful experience for you to have! I have never had such a visit, though I believe I would welcome one from Larry and would hopefully feel the same calm accepting of his presence. The closest I have come is…"
"Hi everyone. Something WONDEFUL happened late last night when I was in bed asleep..each night, I sleep on my side, on the LEFT side. The right side was always Bobs..for 7 years, I have NEVER slept in “his place”. RUDY my cat sleeps next…"
"It is great to see so many of the gang checking in. It's been an especially long time that you've bee silent Pete. I'm glad I do get the email notifications. All is well in my neck of the woods. The kids keep me busy with…"
"OMG, I see a post from DJ on August 4th about Joseph's anniversary. You have such a phenomenal memory, DJ! Thank you so very much for remembering and for posting. Your thoughtfulness and kindness mean a lot to me.
How have you been? Okay, I…"
"Dearest Marsha,
I see you sent me a message for Joseph's anniversary on August 4th (and yes, it was the nine year anniversary), but I didn't receive the notification. I am so sorry!
You are such a wonderful and thoughtful friend, you…"
"I am scrolling down the posts and see that this forum is active. For some reason, I don't get the notifications anymore. Only Steve's post from yesterday was in my email Inbox. I am so glad that Steve's post came through, otherwise, I…"
"Hello You All Wonderful People!
It was incredibly comforting to see the post by Steve yesterday (for the first time in more than year?), followed by Sara, Chuck, Marsha, Pete, Chicago, and Mary Jane. Just the other day, I was thinking of this forum…"
"Mary Jane....I'm glad they figured out what was wrong and that it's treatable. Unknown medical situations are so scary and our minds fill in the blanks with worse case scenarios.. Good luck with your surgery. Be sure to…"
"Steve....what you posted was on the mark about grief being about absorption. There is no finish line, grief will never end but it is absorbed into our lives as we move forward and start writing the next chapter. I will mourn Ken until…"
"Thanks, Steve G…actually this year, starting in March, has been a very SCARY one..to start with, I don,t feel Bob around like he was after he died..i used to talk to him all day long…his absence made meI figure maybe he has been…"
"Stev G
Love what you posted about grief. I always say that grief is not something you get over but something you get through."
"If I was sure of anything about my life, IT would have to be finding this place of safety and full of wonderful people/friends who feel more like family.
Thank you one and all for being here."
"Hi Mary Jane,
Been awhile since your last post, you were worried about the fires in CA. Hope you and your family was spared any loss.
I too get teared up watching old movies and listening to music that I know Mark loved. Our loved ones…"
"Sara,
Good to hear from you, wish you could have had a better year. Life tends to go on as we make our way from our own losses. Maybe we are a little more prepared for these events than we realize because of our own grief.
I am now 9…"
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Just a quick note to thank you all for supporting each other. When I started this I would have NEVER thought this group would grow this big and have the amount of activity that it does. It's great to see you all supporting and helping each other. With 3 jobs it is hard to spend as much time as I'd like but it's good to know I don't have to spend a lot of time here administering things. Just remember I'm around if you need me. When something gets posted I do get an email and I will respond as soon as I get that. Thank you all for taking care of each other and remembering your loved ones here.
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- At 9:10am on August 12, 2017,
Joanne Dobrow said…
My Jack was my world. It has been eight months since I lost him and yes somehow you go on but I will always be half of me. I have lost half of what made me me.
- At 11:08am on June 18, 2015,
It has been a while since I have been here. My husband died 19 months ago after 17years of suffering from diabetes related problems. I didn't think I would ever get better but I have. Eight months into a horrible grief a friend called and asked me to come over, her brother was there. I dated her brother in high school. He had lost one of his sons in 2001 and grieving as much as I was. We've had so many discussions about what we have been through and where we are now.. We are dating now and loving life again. We still talk about our loved ones we lost but we remember with smiles and happy memories. I don't know what the future holds for me but I have to trust that God is leading me in the direction that was meant to be for the second half of my life.
- At 2:19pm on September 1, 2014,
Karen W said…
Joyce, welcome to the site. I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband Ed almost 9 months ago and I have found myself back at this site often looking for comfort, encouragement, understanding, or just to vent my feelings. Everyone here has been where you and I are and understands what we are going through. I wish you strength for each new day.
- At 10:45am on September 1, 2014,
I too am new to this site...and am not sure how to post a comment...I have read so many comments by others and have found some small measure of comfort knowing that what I am going thru is so normal...I lost my husband just 3 weeks ago and every day is so hard right now....
- At 9:44am on May 26, 2013,
Jan said…
- How do I talk to people on this site? I posted and did a blog and no one responded. Maybe I didn't do it correctly.
- At 9:02pm on December 7, 2012,
Babs said…
- I just realized I posted
I have read others post and it seems no matter whether the loss of our loved one is recent or years ago What I am feeling is what others have posted
I feel a large piece of my heart died when he did I feel like I have to be another person at work and then go home to our home we shared for 45 years and feel so alone I just crawl in bed and zone out to movies or sleep When I think about how much I miss him and being there when he took his last breath it's like I have to put my feelings away because its too hard to deal with them. I get mad then sad and cry I just want to go to sleep and wake up and he is back home with me. The question I have is I feel bad when other family members call with problems they are having or if they are sick. I feel like I can't handle it or be sympathetic and say the wrong thing to them. I really don't want to talk to others I feel bad I can't listen to there problems Does anyone else feel this way. I have always been the strong one helped others and was able to fix my problems. This grieving I can't fix me. I know everyone says it takes time but this is the worst thing to go thru and I don't feel I will ever be me again. I married Mike when I was 18. Moved from my patents house to be Mikes wife then became a mother and now 45 yrs later alone. I was always a wife and a mother never a me I don't know how to be me. Mike and I were friends too and did everything together I really don't have friends Sorry my post is so long. Mikes birthday is coming up then Xmas. Thanks for listening
- At 8:40pm on December 7, 2012,
- Hi. I am new here how do I post a question My husband of 45 years passed away 10 months ago tonight I don't feel it will ever be better I miss so much. GOD BLESS EVERYONE
- At 2:35am on September 13, 2012,
- I am facing the 1st anniversary of the loss of my beloved Jim and I still can't accept that I am alone for the first time since I was 18 years old, almost 50 years with the same man and my only love. I wake in the night to sounds that I realize are coming from my very soul. I find myself calling out to him, begging him to please come back to me, that I can't go on without him and I can't stop the tears that won't stop and I don't want to stop the pain I feel because that would make it real, it would mean that I finally know that I will never feel his arms around me, that I'll never kiss him goodbye when he left each morning. This man I met for the first time and we knew that first meeting that love at first sight really happened and we were together from that moment until I kissed him and felt his last breath, warm and so amazing that I felt his breath as he closed his eyes and so quietly left me forever . I know how maudlin my words sound but I so need to finally tell someone of my pain. I'm not allowed to say any of this to my sons or anyone in my family. Their grief became anger and so this has been my life, alone and terribly hurt that no one wants to hear what I've said here where I feel safe sharing my deepest thoughts. Thank you......."m"
- At 9:13pm on September 12, 2012,
Margie Thrash said…
I am coming up on my second month without my rock (Scott) it is hard but I do have good friends that check up on me every night if I dont contact them so I am fortunate that way. Had to already go thru his birthday without him was very hard to do. Then we always did a 100 mile horse ride week of labor day did it this year by myself with a few friends and was hard but I did it. Not a day goes by I dont cry. One of his last text to me was please dont get depressed like I am right now (he had 3 months to live from diagnosis made it 3 1/2). So I try to think of that text everytime it gets too bad and I go outside or work around the house and listen to alot of music.
- At 2:21am on January 10, 2012,
Rowe said…
Welcome to all new members. I Lost my first husband 31 yrs ago at the age of 38. Remaried 6 yrs later and lost my Late husband after 10 yrs. He has been gone for 15 years. I am living proof that after the grief, Life will go on. Not at first, but about 5 yrs later you will be living again.. even though you thought it would never happen. I Recommend that you do not try to avoid the grief.. you have to deal with it because if you dont it will be waiting for you to come back. I am here for you if you need to vent, or just want someone to give you an ear.
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