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Trina Mamoon commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"I don't post as much because there is nothing new to add, but I read your posts and empathize with the pain and suffering. It's been three years since my wonderful Joseph left this world. I have now learned how to function on a day to day…"
3 hours ago
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear  Christine ...  You have had incredible sorrow in your past life and I'm so proud that you managed to stand up for yourself because so few women do.  It must have been difficult to be caregiver to your abuser, but you have a…"
13 hours ago
David Heggi commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Christine, Not only do you have this indescribable grief to bear, you have a lot of baggage from a lifetime of abuse and hurt.  Give yourself a break. I also lost the love of my life recently and am feeling the same way you are right now -…"
16 hours ago
Christine Blaire commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"I am crying all the time and lost 35 lbs since Aug. 25 when he was diagnosed. I think I've gone thru more tissues this month than my whole life. I see the therapist on Monday morning but don't feel it will help. The reason I said that I…"
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Bereaved Spouses

A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Christine ...  I am so thrilled you are not only seeing a therapist, but intend on staying on this website.  There generally is someone on to answer your post even if it's the wee hours of the morning.  I live just outside…"
Kaela Roster Federle commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Christine, I am so glad you came here. It has helped me so much over these past 7 months. I have been where you a fog, wanting to die, feeling like you will die. But I promise you you will heal with time and with support. I am so glad…"
Christine Blaire commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Thank you Debbie and Marsha. I intend to be on this site because it seems you all can understand these awful emotions. I did start to see a therapist so will see how that works out. It's hard to explain the pain you feel to people who have…"
Mary. Jane commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Christine: DON’T DO IT!! I MEAN THAT!! Are you saying he’s only been gone for a little over TWO WEEKS??? Oh did the right thing in coming here. Of COURSE you feel like your life is over, and you want to die! You are…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Christine ...  My deepest condolences to you on the loss of your husband.  I too was married to an abusive man and eventually met my 'soul mate' and we were married almost 40 years.  He passed April 27, 2011 from…"
deborah peck commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"dear Christine, I'm sorry your in so much pain, I know exactly how you feel, on not wanting to be here, ita very hard to go on after losing a spouse, I too lost 2 husbands, one when I was 32 and then my husband Greg who passed in May, its very…"
Christine Blaire commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"My husband and I met late in life...he widowed . He was a very abusive man and by time he passed I had no feelings left for him. Four years later I met my soul mate, the love of my life. In the five and a half years we were together we…"
Christine Blaire joined Steve Cain's group

Bereaved Spouses

A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
Steve commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Good morning Legacy family, got my latest test results yesterday on my right hand and arm.  My neurologist has agreed with the first neurologist, I do not have carpal tunnel, he believes that I have some form of rheumatoid arthritis, however,…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Kaela ..  I hope you are doing better and I do think of you.  I can still have the odd nightmare if I'm under a lot of stress, but thankfully they generally go away.  Remember, it's your body's way of coping with…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Deborah P ...  I'm pray for you!  I am so happy you don't chemo!  What a blessing.  I had surgery shortly after Ernie passed away (non cancerous) and I was a basket case before I went in for the surgery, but oddly…"

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Just a quick note to thank you all for supporting each other. When I started this I would have NEVER thought this group would grow this big and have the amount of activity that it does. It's great to see you all supporting and helping each other. With 3 jobs it is hard to spend as much time as I'd like but it's good to know I don't have to spend a lot of time here administering things. Just remember I'm around if you need me. When something gets posted I do get an email and I will respond as soon as I get that. Thank you all for taking care of each other and remembering your loved ones here.

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At 9:10am on August 12, 2017, Joanne Dobrow said…

My Jack was my world. It has been eight months since I lost him and yes somehow you go on but I will always be half of me. I have lost half of what made me me.

At 11:08am on June 18, 2015, Cynthia Murphy said…

It has been a while since I have been here. My husband died 19 months ago after 17years of suffering from diabetes related problems. I didn't think I would ever get better but I have. Eight months into a horrible grief a friend called and asked me to come over, her brother was there. I dated her brother in high school. He had lost one of his sons in 2001 and grieving as much as I was. We've had so many discussions about what we have been through and where we are now.. We are dating now and loving life again. We still talk about our loved ones we lost but we remember with smiles and happy memories. I don't know what the future holds for me but I have to trust that God is leading me in the direction that was meant to be for the second half of my life.

At 2:19pm on September 1, 2014, Karen W said…

Joyce, welcome to the site.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  I lost my husband Ed almost 9 months ago and I have found myself back at this site often looking for comfort, encouragement, understanding, or just to vent my feelings.  Everyone here has been where you and I are and understands what we are going through.   I wish you strength for each new day. 

At 10:45am on September 1, 2014, Joyce M said…

I too am new to this site...and am not sure how to post a comment...I have read so many comments by others and have found some small measure of comfort knowing that what I am going thru is so normal...I lost my husband just 3 weeks ago and every day is so hard right now....

At 9:44am on May 26, 2013, Jan said…
How do I talk to people on this site? I posted and did a blog and no one responded. Maybe I didn't do it correctly.
At 9:02pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
I just realized I posted
I have read others post and it seems no matter whether the loss of our loved one is recent or years ago What I am feeling is what others have posted
I feel a large piece of my heart died when he did I feel like I have to be another person at work and then go home to our home we shared for 45 years and feel so alone I just crawl in bed and zone out to movies or sleep When I think about how much I miss him and being there when he took his last breath it's like I have to put my feelings away because its too hard to deal with them. I get mad then sad and cry I just want to go to sleep and wake up and he is back home with me. The question I have is I feel bad when other family members call with problems they are having or if they are sick. I feel like I can't handle it or be sympathetic and say the wrong thing to them. I really don't want to talk to others I feel bad I can't listen to there problems Does anyone else feel this way. I have always been the strong one helped others and was able to fix my problems. This grieving I can't fix me. I know everyone says it takes time but this is the worst thing to go thru and I don't feel I will ever be me again. I married Mike when I was 18. Moved from my patents house to be Mikes wife then became a mother and now 45 yrs later alone. I was always a wife and a mother never a me I don't know how to be me. Mike and I were friends too and did everything together I really don't have friends Sorry my post is so long. Mikes birthday is coming up then Xmas. Thanks for listening
At 8:40pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
Hi. I am new here how do I post a question My husband of 45 years passed away 10 months ago tonight I don't feel it will ever be better I miss so much. GOD BLESS EVERYONE
At 2:35am on September 13, 2012, Marilyn kroge said…
I am facing the 1st anniversary of the loss of my beloved Jim and I still can't accept that I am alone for the first time since I was 18 years old, almost 50 years with the same man and my only love. I wake in the night to sounds that I realize are coming from my very soul. I find myself calling out to him, begging him to please come back to me, that I can't go on without him and I can't stop the tears that won't stop and I don't want to stop the pain I feel because that would make it real, it would mean that I finally know that I will never feel his arms around me, that I'll never kiss him goodbye when he left each morning. This man I met for the first time and we knew that first meeting that love at first sight really happened and we were together from that moment until I kissed him and felt his last breath, warm and so amazing that I felt his breath as he closed his eyes and so quietly left me forever . I know how maudlin my words sound but I so need to finally tell someone of my pain. I'm not allowed to say any of this to my sons or anyone in my family. Their grief became anger and so this has been my life, alone and terribly hurt that no one wants to hear what I've said here where I feel safe sharing my deepest thoughts. Thank you......."m"
At 9:13pm on September 12, 2012, Margie Thrash said…

I am coming up on my second month without my rock (Scott) it is hard but I do have good friends that check up on me every night if I dont contact them so I am fortunate that way.  Had to already go thru his birthday without him was very hard to do.  Then we always did a 100 mile horse ride week of labor day did it this year by myself with a few friends and was hard but I did it.  Not a day goes by I dont cry.  One of his last text to me was please dont get depressed like I am right now (he had 3 months to live from diagnosis made it 3 1/2).  So I try to think of that text everytime it gets too bad and I go outside or work around the house and listen to alot of music.

At 2:21am on January 10, 2012, Rowe said…

Welcome to all new members. I Lost my first husband 31 yrs ago at the age of 38. Remaried 6 yrs later and lost my Late husband after 10 yrs. He has been gone for 15 years. I am living proof that after the grief, Life will go on.  Not at first, but about 5 yrs later you will be living again.. even though you thought it would never happen. I Recommend that you do not try to avoid the grief.. you have to deal with it because if you dont it will be waiting for you to come back. I am here for you if you need to vent, or just want someone to give you an ear.


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