Steve Cain
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deborah peck commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"The funeral home actually asked me if I wanted a lock of Gregs hair so my girls and I each got one, I love the idea of putting his hair in a necklace, I just finished ordering one to go on the chain I wear with his fingerprint, the funral home gave…"
Mary. Jane commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Sara...that was an excellent idea about your dads hair. I did the same thing before Bob died..the idea just popped into my I asked the nurse for a pair of scissors, (he was in the hospital at the time) and clipped some, and put it away when…"
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"I want to thank you all again for your support and kind words.  We were at the funeral home for several hours on Friday making arrangements and then my mother changed her mind on Saturday (glad she did).  Her initial gut reaction was to…"
Mary. Jane commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"OMG! Steve...ILOVE Meatloaf!!!  I own both his albums, and actually saw him in person. (That is saying ALOT, as I can name on one hand the concerts I have actually PAID money to see...him, Neil Diamond, David Byrne, Paul Simon.. and free…"
Steve commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Mary.Jane ABBA, one of my all time favorite groups, only preceedef by The Mamas and Pappas...thank you. Music was one of the first things I banned from my life when Mark died, listening and hearing "our" favorites was too painful. …"
DJ commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Sara; sorry for your loss.  It's good that Ken has been with you all week.  Your Dad will be joining him to be by your side now"
Mary. Jane commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Theses last few days have been very weird..apparently for a few of US! they started slowly, but last night and a few days b4, I would be going about my day, when suddenly I would get the feeling of the huge sharp KNIFE of pain, and desolation…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Todd ...  It's wonderful to see you post again and thank you so much for the picture of that sculpture and I know we can all relate to that.  In fact, just the other day I was sitting outside on the deck in the same position feeling…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Sarah ...  I am so sorry to hear about your father.  Losing a spouse is bad enough, but I can understand your feelings of losing your father and yes, you are right, we expect our spouses to be there when one or both of our parents…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Deborah ...  Like you, I always kiss my husband's picture on the mantle each morning and before I go to bed.  There is some peace in doing this and it's all normal.  Grief is an odd adventure in people's lives and there…"
deborah peck commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Most of you know that I have been having a hard time lately, yesterday two things happened, I always tell my husbands ashes good morning and my plans for the day, yesterday I told him I cant believe its been a year already and I went into a complete…"
deborah peck commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Sara, I am so sorry to hear about uour dad, we are all here to help anyway we can, take care of yourself"
Mary. Jane commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Todd, I don,t know you, but I have to comment on the picture of the sculpture you shared . Omg...I have felt exactly like that more days than not....and still do, tho it is getting better in the 2 years and 5 months since Bob died, after 49 years of…"
Steve commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Thank you Todd for the picture, very powerful.  Nice to hear from you sir, gives me an opportunity to say thanks to you for your support when I found this wonderful site of caring souls. Thank You Steve"
Steve commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Sara, My heart and spirit grieves with you today dear sister.  Words alone are not sufficient enough to console this loss.  I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.  Be kind to yourself and stay connected, we are…"
Charles E. Nelson commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Todd, It is so good to hear from you - I so often think of the friends who have made such a difference for me in this family, and hope they are well and finding their way. The sculpture is spot-on, and thank you for sharing it. Be well and…"

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Just a quick note to thank you all for supporting each other. When I started this I would have NEVER thought this group would grow this big and have the amount of activity that it does. It's great to see you all supporting and helping each other. With 3 jobs it is hard to spend as much time as I'd like but it's good to know I don't have to spend a lot of time here administering things. Just remember I'm around if you need me. When something gets posted I do get an email and I will respond as soon as I get that. Thank you all for taking care of each other and remembering your loved ones here.

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At 9:10am on August 12, 2017, Joanne Dobrow said…

My Jack was my world. It has been eight months since I lost him and yes somehow you go on but I will always be half of me. I have lost half of what made me me.

At 11:08am on June 18, 2015, Cynthia Murphy said…

It has been a while since I have been here. My husband died 19 months ago after 17years of suffering from diabetes related problems. I didn't think I would ever get better but I have. Eight months into a horrible grief a friend called and asked me to come over, her brother was there. I dated her brother in high school. He had lost one of his sons in 2001 and grieving as much as I was. We've had so many discussions about what we have been through and where we are now.. We are dating now and loving life again. We still talk about our loved ones we lost but we remember with smiles and happy memories. I don't know what the future holds for me but I have to trust that God is leading me in the direction that was meant to be for the second half of my life.

At 2:19pm on September 1, 2014, Karen W said…

Joyce, welcome to the site.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  I lost my husband Ed almost 9 months ago and I have found myself back at this site often looking for comfort, encouragement, understanding, or just to vent my feelings.  Everyone here has been where you and I are and understands what we are going through.   I wish you strength for each new day. 

At 10:45am on September 1, 2014, Joyce M said…

I too am new to this site...and am not sure how to post a comment...I have read so many comments by others and have found some small measure of comfort knowing that what I am going thru is so normal...I lost my husband just 3 weeks ago and every day is so hard right now....

At 9:44am on May 26, 2013, Jan said…
How do I talk to people on this site? I posted and did a blog and no one responded. Maybe I didn't do it correctly.
At 9:02pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
I just realized I posted
I have read others post and it seems no matter whether the loss of our loved one is recent or years ago What I am feeling is what others have posted
I feel a large piece of my heart died when he did I feel like I have to be another person at work and then go home to our home we shared for 45 years and feel so alone I just crawl in bed and zone out to movies or sleep When I think about how much I miss him and being there when he took his last breath it's like I have to put my feelings away because its too hard to deal with them. I get mad then sad and cry I just want to go to sleep and wake up and he is back home with me. The question I have is I feel bad when other family members call with problems they are having or if they are sick. I feel like I can't handle it or be sympathetic and say the wrong thing to them. I really don't want to talk to others I feel bad I can't listen to there problems Does anyone else feel this way. I have always been the strong one helped others and was able to fix my problems. This grieving I can't fix me. I know everyone says it takes time but this is the worst thing to go thru and I don't feel I will ever be me again. I married Mike when I was 18. Moved from my patents house to be Mikes wife then became a mother and now 45 yrs later alone. I was always a wife and a mother never a me I don't know how to be me. Mike and I were friends too and did everything together I really don't have friends Sorry my post is so long. Mikes birthday is coming up then Xmas. Thanks for listening
At 8:40pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
Hi. I am new here how do I post a question My husband of 45 years passed away 10 months ago tonight I don't feel it will ever be better I miss so much. GOD BLESS EVERYONE
At 2:35am on September 13, 2012, Marilyn kroge said…
I am facing the 1st anniversary of the loss of my beloved Jim and I still can't accept that I am alone for the first time since I was 18 years old, almost 50 years with the same man and my only love. I wake in the night to sounds that I realize are coming from my very soul. I find myself calling out to him, begging him to please come back to me, that I can't go on without him and I can't stop the tears that won't stop and I don't want to stop the pain I feel because that would make it real, it would mean that I finally know that I will never feel his arms around me, that I'll never kiss him goodbye when he left each morning. This man I met for the first time and we knew that first meeting that love at first sight really happened and we were together from that moment until I kissed him and felt his last breath, warm and so amazing that I felt his breath as he closed his eyes and so quietly left me forever . I know how maudlin my words sound but I so need to finally tell someone of my pain. I'm not allowed to say any of this to my sons or anyone in my family. Their grief became anger and so this has been my life, alone and terribly hurt that no one wants to hear what I've said here where I feel safe sharing my deepest thoughts. Thank you......."m"
At 9:13pm on September 12, 2012, Margie Thrash said…

I am coming up on my second month without my rock (Scott) it is hard but I do have good friends that check up on me every night if I dont contact them so I am fortunate that way.  Had to already go thru his birthday without him was very hard to do.  Then we always did a 100 mile horse ride week of labor day did it this year by myself with a few friends and was hard but I did it.  Not a day goes by I dont cry.  One of his last text to me was please dont get depressed like I am right now (he had 3 months to live from diagnosis made it 3 1/2).  So I try to think of that text everytime it gets too bad and I go outside or work around the house and listen to alot of music.

At 2:21am on January 10, 2012, Rowe said…

Welcome to all new members. I Lost my first husband 31 yrs ago at the age of 38. Remaried 6 yrs later and lost my Late husband after 10 yrs. He has been gone for 15 years. I am living proof that after the grief, Life will go on.  Not at first, but about 5 yrs later you will be living again.. even though you thought it would never happen. I Recommend that you do not try to avoid the grief.. you have to deal with it because if you dont it will be waiting for you to come back. I am here for you if you need to vent, or just want someone to give you an ear.


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