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Charles E. Nelson commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Marsha, Thank you for that wonderful link! I don't know how you  it, but ever since I joined this family you have said or shared something that goes straight to my innermost feelings, and always at times I find myself needing to hear…"
17 hours ago
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Mary.Jane ...  You are lucky you are having dream and some of Bob.  I've only had a couple of Ernie.  The searching dream I believe is that you are searching for her you use to be before you met Bob and that's where we have…"
18 hours ago
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"TO ALL YOU ANGELS ... I thought this youtube would explain many things to each of us.  You've more than likely read this one before, but it's so beautifully done 'Seasons.'  It helps to understand why sometimes we lose…"
19 hours ago
Mary. Jane commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Well, I know that if no one had answered when I first posted, I would have been crushed! Ok, I have a question. I've started remembering my dreams when I wake up. They all seem to have 2 similar themes...the first one is I spend the entire…"
22 hours ago
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Mary.Jane ...  You are as always a sweetheart for answering Joanne's post.  I copied it and added it on here so all members could see it.  Our posts will go into her 'in box' and she can click on the link and it will…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Joanne ...  We all understand how you feel as some are going through it now while others like myself have had a few years pass since our spouses passed away.  My Ernie passed in 2011 and even though I have gotten somewhat use to him not…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Permalink Reply by Joanne Dobrow 22 hours ago Life goes on around you. Yet you seem to stand still. Most people in my life say you're doing great. It's all a facade. I don't want anyone to feel uncomfortable around me and not fit in.…"
Mary. Jane commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hey kids...there is a new person here..she commented on Chris Sky's I tried to steal her here, but I don,t think I was very good at it. Her name is Joanne, and am pretty sure she is new here...and I don,t want her to think we ignored…"
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Steve......that's a good analogy that your friend posted.  I'm glad that he's doing well and I hope that your carpal tunnel and trigger finger can heal without needing surgery.  I also agree with you about not fixing what…"
Steve commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"A few days ago a friend of mine in Dallas posted the below on Facebook along with a video of his willow tree moving with the currents of a gentle breeze; he was diagnosed with throat cancer a few months back and was told that if chemo didn’t…"
Mary. Jane commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Steve, I have a good feeling that your hand will be ok. I dunno why, but I don,t think God will let anything else bad happen to you. I wish you well, and please keep us posted. I have read your post about the tornadoes over and over and find it very…"
Mary. Jane commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Steve that was a lovely post...Marsha thank you too..and BEard...usually I am - ANAL about homonyms, but that one slipped by me. This is a quick post, as I am having a bad Epstein Barr episode...BOB sister has colon cancer, and between that tornado,…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Steve ... I know exactly how you feel about waiting.  Shortly after Ernie passed away I had to go for tests for a health issue and then did have surgery shortly after.  It is certainly the waiting that makes one a train wreck, but…"
Steve commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Always happy to hear from my sis Marsha, The nerve test will determine my fate as far as surgery goes, it's the waiting that is almost as painful as everything else.  No matter what the outcome, I am certain that I will get through…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear brother Steve ... I hope I'm not interrupting your post to Mary.  What you said about the storms is so true.  Faith and knowing our loving spouses are with us gets us through it as both faith and our spouses have gotten us…"
Steve commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Mary Jane, Tornado’s are scary, I had such an encounter in Jacksonville, Florida and they are nothing to take lightly.  Living in Dallas Mark and I faced a lot of scary evenings, we lived close to downtown Dallas and when the storm sirens…"

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Just a quick note to thank you all for supporting each other. When I started this I would have NEVER thought this group would grow this big and have the amount of activity that it does. It's great to see you all supporting and helping each other. With 3 jobs it is hard to spend as much time as I'd like but it's good to know I don't have to spend a lot of time here administering things. Just remember I'm around if you need me. When something gets posted I do get an email and I will respond as soon as I get that. Thank you all for taking care of each other and remembering your loved ones here.

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At 9:10am on August 12, 2017, Joanne Dobrow said…

My Jack was my world. It has been eight months since I lost him and yes somehow you go on but I will always be half of me. I have lost half of what made me me.

At 11:08am on June 18, 2015, Cynthia Murphy said…

It has been a while since I have been here. My husband died 19 months ago after 17years of suffering from diabetes related problems. I didn't think I would ever get better but I have. Eight months into a horrible grief a friend called and asked me to come over, her brother was there. I dated her brother in high school. He had lost one of his sons in 2001 and grieving as much as I was. We've had so many discussions about what we have been through and where we are now.. We are dating now and loving life again. We still talk about our loved ones we lost but we remember with smiles and happy memories. I don't know what the future holds for me but I have to trust that God is leading me in the direction that was meant to be for the second half of my life.

At 2:19pm on September 1, 2014, Karen W said…

Joyce, welcome to the site.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  I lost my husband Ed almost 9 months ago and I have found myself back at this site often looking for comfort, encouragement, understanding, or just to vent my feelings.  Everyone here has been where you and I are and understands what we are going through.   I wish you strength for each new day. 

At 10:45am on September 1, 2014, Joyce M said…

I too am new to this site...and am not sure how to post a comment...I have read so many comments by others and have found some small measure of comfort knowing that what I am going thru is so normal...I lost my husband just 3 weeks ago and every day is so hard right now....

At 9:44am on May 26, 2013, Jan said…
How do I talk to people on this site? I posted and did a blog and no one responded. Maybe I didn't do it correctly.
At 9:02pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
I just realized I posted
I have read others post and it seems no matter whether the loss of our loved one is recent or years ago What I am feeling is what others have posted
I feel a large piece of my heart died when he did I feel like I have to be another person at work and then go home to our home we shared for 45 years and feel so alone I just crawl in bed and zone out to movies or sleep When I think about how much I miss him and being there when he took his last breath it's like I have to put my feelings away because its too hard to deal with them. I get mad then sad and cry I just want to go to sleep and wake up and he is back home with me. The question I have is I feel bad when other family members call with problems they are having or if they are sick. I feel like I can't handle it or be sympathetic and say the wrong thing to them. I really don't want to talk to others I feel bad I can't listen to there problems Does anyone else feel this way. I have always been the strong one helped others and was able to fix my problems. This grieving I can't fix me. I know everyone says it takes time but this is the worst thing to go thru and I don't feel I will ever be me again. I married Mike when I was 18. Moved from my patents house to be Mikes wife then became a mother and now 45 yrs later alone. I was always a wife and a mother never a me I don't know how to be me. Mike and I were friends too and did everything together I really don't have friends Sorry my post is so long. Mikes birthday is coming up then Xmas. Thanks for listening
At 8:40pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
Hi. I am new here how do I post a question My husband of 45 years passed away 10 months ago tonight I don't feel it will ever be better I miss so much. GOD BLESS EVERYONE
At 2:35am on September 13, 2012, Marilyn kroge said…
I am facing the 1st anniversary of the loss of my beloved Jim and I still can't accept that I am alone for the first time since I was 18 years old, almost 50 years with the same man and my only love. I wake in the night to sounds that I realize are coming from my very soul. I find myself calling out to him, begging him to please come back to me, that I can't go on without him and I can't stop the tears that won't stop and I don't want to stop the pain I feel because that would make it real, it would mean that I finally know that I will never feel his arms around me, that I'll never kiss him goodbye when he left each morning. This man I met for the first time and we knew that first meeting that love at first sight really happened and we were together from that moment until I kissed him and felt his last breath, warm and so amazing that I felt his breath as he closed his eyes and so quietly left me forever . I know how maudlin my words sound but I so need to finally tell someone of my pain. I'm not allowed to say any of this to my sons or anyone in my family. Their grief became anger and so this has been my life, alone and terribly hurt that no one wants to hear what I've said here where I feel safe sharing my deepest thoughts. Thank you......."m"
At 9:13pm on September 12, 2012, Margie Thrash said…

I am coming up on my second month without my rock (Scott) it is hard but I do have good friends that check up on me every night if I dont contact them so I am fortunate that way.  Had to already go thru his birthday without him was very hard to do.  Then we always did a 100 mile horse ride week of labor day did it this year by myself with a few friends and was hard but I did it.  Not a day goes by I dont cry.  One of his last text to me was please dont get depressed like I am right now (he had 3 months to live from diagnosis made it 3 1/2).  So I try to think of that text everytime it gets too bad and I go outside or work around the house and listen to alot of music.

At 2:21am on January 10, 2012, Rowe said…

Welcome to all new members. I Lost my first husband 31 yrs ago at the age of 38. Remaried 6 yrs later and lost my Late husband after 10 yrs. He has been gone for 15 years. I am living proof that after the grief, Life will go on.  Not at first, but about 5 yrs later you will be living again.. even though you thought it would never happen. I Recommend that you do not try to avoid the grief.. you have to deal with it because if you dont it will be waiting for you to come back. I am here for you if you need to vent, or just want someone to give you an ear.


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