Terry Kent
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  • Marlton, NJ
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Terry Kent replied to Chris Sky's discussion My love is gone... in the group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Chris. I'm so sorry for your loss. You've found a good place to express your thoughts here. There's so many people who have also experienced this raw and unbearable pain and grief. I too lost the love of my life--my husband was…"
May 13
Tom Mennin left a comment for Terry Kent
"That was just what I needed to read, Terry. So, so sorry. I can relate to feeling like a robot. It's expected of us to function. One day at a time has changed to one minute at a time. If it weren't for my friends, I don't know what…"
Mar 26, 2016
Terry Kent left a comment for Tom Mennin
"Hi Tom: Welcome to a place no one really wants to be.  I am so sorry for your loss.  I'm not going to tell you its easy but it is possible to go one without that someone who was your everything.  Two years ago my husband got…"
Mar 25, 2016
Terry Kent replied to colleen kingeter's discussion I am new and lost in the group Bereaved Spouses
"Just don't try to do anything before you feel ready.  I remember after my husband first died feeling like everyone was staring and pointing at me just in the supermarket even though they probably weren't.  But then I went to back…"
Aug 6, 2015
Terry Kent replied to colleen kingeter's discussion I am new and lost in the group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Colleen.  My name is Terry and I am so sorry for your loss.  I lost my husband a year and a half ago in an industrial accident.  It was very sudden and tragic and the shock of seeing someone leave for work and not come home was…"
Aug 4, 2015
Marsha H and Terry Kent are now friends
Mar 16, 2015
Tracy left a comment for Terry Kent
"I really feel for you, Terry. Jonathon passed suddenly on Jan 19th, so it's just been a month for me. I don't know how you've made it two months, just like I'm sure you can't see how others have made it three. Everybody…"
Feb 22, 2015
Tracy left a comment for Terry Kent
"I really appreciate what you said because that's all I've been thinking. Why and How. It still just doesn't seem real. And I still don't understand why and how. It just doesn't make any sense. How do you go your whole life…"
Feb 22, 2015
Terry Kent left a comment for Tracy
"Sorry Tracy...my babble was so long it got cut off!  Even if it's just letting someone go to the store for you, or come sit and talk for a short time, or take a walk---you will find that accepting the right help will feel ok.  Please…"
Feb 1, 2015
Terry Kent left a comment for Tracy
"Hi Tracy:  I am so sorry for your loss.  You have every right to questioning everything.  I think the biggest little word in the world is "WHY".  There is nothing anyone can say that will make your hurt any…"
Feb 1, 2015
Terry Kent commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Thank you Wilela and Janeo.  Its wonderful to have this place to come and share with those who understand so well."
Oct 29, 2014
Terry Kent commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Everyone:  I continually read all the posts and still try to come to grips every day with how my Gus was just taken away one day at work and never came home.  It's been 10 months and it still feels like yesterday.  I just made…"
Oct 29, 2014
Michelle replied to Terry Kent's discussion Faking in the group Bereaved Spouses
"You are so right. I dread waking up because the roller coaster starts all over again. I wish we were all guaranteed a full good life with our soul mates :(( The sad part is watching everyone else live their life normally and seeing all of the happy…"
Oct 22, 2014
Terry Kent replied to Terry Kent's discussion Faking in the group Bereaved Spouses
"I know what you mean. It's been 10 months and I re live it every day. There's a hollow emptiness that you can't explain. It's just you chose the person that completed you and you knew where your life was going and now it's…"
Oct 22, 2014
Michelle replied to Terry Kent's discussion Faking in the group Bereaved Spouses
"I am so sorry for your loss. That robot example is true. You live your life but you are in a daze. It is hard to feel any other emotion :( I did not realize the soul deep pain until I lost my husband."
Oct 22, 2014
Terry Kent added a discussion to the group Bereaved Spouses
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Hi Michelle. I'm Terry. I am so sorry for your loss. I know exactly what you mean. I think the biggest problem is people who say these things really don't know how we feel inside and they think they are helping, even though if they were actually in our shoes they would know it doesn't help at all. I lost my husband this year in a horrible work accident. He was 51. I think every day how I'm only living half a life and my future has been taken from me and him. I feel like a robot going thru the…See More
Oct 21, 2014

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lost my husband and best friend

Posted on March 4, 2014 at 12:57pm 2 Comments

Hi. Never imagined I'd be doing this. Just 2 months ago I lost my husband, business partner, confidante, and best friend. Got a phone call from my son about 15 minutes before he and my husband would have been done work. The most dreaded sound I ever heard--my son screaming and not able to speak in the phone--trying to tell his mom that his dad was dead!  My husband went to work one day and never came home.  He was 51, in perfect health, extremely happy in life and very hard working.  With…

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At 6:49am on March 26, 2016, Tom Mennin said…

That was just what I needed to read, Terry. So, so sorry. I can relate to feeling like a robot. It's expected of us to function. One day at a time has changed to one minute at a time. If it weren't for my friends, I don't know what I'd be capable of. I hang on because I don't want my friends to ever feel this kind of grief. I feel responsible for their lives, so I force myself to put my feelings aside. I thank you and hope I can keep your message in mind. Be well. I hope we all heal but never forget.

At 3:22am on February 22, 2015, Tracy said…

I really feel for you, Terry. Jonathon passed suddenly on Jan 19th, so it's just been a month for me. I don't know how you've made it two months, just like I'm sure you can't see how others have made it three. Everybody keeps saying to take it one day at a time. I sincerely hope they are right. And thank you so much for reaching out to me when you're loss is so great. Everybody on this forum has been so nice. I appreciate it. Thanks, Tracy

At 3:09am on February 22, 2015, Tracy said…

I really appreciate what you said because that's all I've been thinking. Why and How. It still just doesn't seem real. And I still don't understand why and how. It just doesn't make any sense. How do you go your whole life waiting for that someone special, only to finally find him and then lose him so suddenly? I feel like my time with him was so damn brief. My only consolation was hearing his family telling me over and over again how happy he was. But of course they also said how much he wanted children and that he would've made a good father. Which is just gut wrenching. I started wishing I was pregnant just so part of Jonathon would still be here. But sadly, it was not to be. I feel like I failed him. I feel like, somehow, I should've been able to save him. If I had just been there or if he had been home at the time, etc. I'm sure you've thought the same thing. I need to go to his mom's house, but I've been putting it off because it's the last place I saw him alive. It just feels too soon. And the bed feels too big and the house feels too empty. I still cry everyday. And I keep thinking "what's the point of any of this." I just want to feel like there is some hope. Thanks, Tracy

At 8:45pm on August 25, 2014, Elvira Castellanos said…

HeyTerry, just checking up on you, haven't seen any recent posts from you, although I haven't been on legacy much lately, feel what's the sense of repeating my self again & again, I will be going on vacation with my sister on Sept 13th for 2 weeks to Florida, w definitely need to make a date to get together & meet, hoping you are somewhat better, everyone tells me I am doing fine but I think that's because I now try to cry when nobody can see me.

keep in touch, sending prayers,

Elvira

At 9:48pm on June 23, 2014, Elvira Castellanos said…

Thanks Terry, I am trying very hard but this weekend & today have not been good days, I keep replaying from the moment he was diagnosed to his death over & over thinking of what I could have done & regretting what I did not say to him before he passed thinking that we still had sometime together so I could tell him all my feelings & just plain tell him what he meant to me & how much I love him, I feel I needed to say it more often & I didn't, so much regret, I know I need to muster the courage not to cry to much at my son's wedding, I will try to do my best to make his day a happy event & represent my husband the way he would want me to. I am glad you were able to celebrate your daughter's birthday & you were able not to cry, thanks for responding, I have been so lost these past few days, it was good to hear from you.

Talk soon, keep in touch.

Elvira

At 9:18pm on June 19, 2014, Elvira Castellanos said…

Hey Terry, check in every once a awhile, let us know how you are doing, although I should not even ask that question, I know, because for me is still exactly the same as day one.

Prayers & hugs your way.

Elvira

At 7:21am on June 5, 2014, Elvira Castellanos said…

Hi Terry, just checking in, haven't heard from you in awhile, how are you? although I shouldn't ask, because I know the answer.

Sending hugs & prayers,

Elvira

At 8:43pm on May 8, 2014, Elvira Castellanos said…

Believe me Terry, this past few weeks have been hell, today was horrendous, haven't stopped crying, I know exactly what you mean, our lives have changed tremendously for us & it is not a good change, even though I kept busy with the bridal shower that was on April 27th & my son's 31st Birthday this past Friday & making the announcement to all the family that he is going to be a daddy & I am going to be a grandma, it was extremely hard just thinking my husband would have been so happy, he wanted to be a grandpa so bad & now starting to get rehearsal dinner preparations plus I need a new roof, today I hired a contractor, was so hard to do this by myself, I keep asking why God took him away & at the same time took away my future.

I would certainly love to get together & share our memories, I am sure will cry but we will understand each other so well, there is another lady from Jersey also who just lost her husband, she is from Parsippany, her name is Barbara & like us is going thru hell, I also keep in touch with her & Marie, just keep me posted on the dates you can drive up & we will settle on a place to meet.

Thanks for responding,

Hugs to you,

Elvira

At 3:22pm on May 8, 2014, Elvira Castellanos said…

Hi Terry, haven't heard from you in awhile, just checking, I am not doing good at all, practically can say I have been crying the past 2 weeks, hope you are a little better, please check in & let us know.

Sending hugs & peace.

Elvira

 
 
 

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