Your post about the nature of grief is so very apt! It is stated simply, but it is so very true. There is no closure to grief; you just deal with the loss as best as you can for the rest of your life.
Hope you and Charles are doing…"
"Mary Jane, Charles, Sara, Todd, Marsha, and Steve and Everybody Else Who is reading This,
I wish you well and hope that Valentine's Day was not too sad for you. It was a hard day for me, but after reading the encouraging posts here, I found the…"
"Steve, what an amazing story! You must have been over the moon at coming upon this unexpected gift from Mark! You gave Mark your camera, and what a gift he left for you! And for you to just come across the precious memories and hear Mark's…"
"Sara, your message made me laugh. Even though we are talking about something solemn and serious, your comment about the upside of not throwing things away is very funny. I am also a pack rat--it would seem like you--and Joseph would tease me about…"
The tattoos look beautiful! Very artistic. I am impressed to learn how you actually got Ken's own handwriting from a fax for the tattoo. Ken will now live forever with you in a very creative way. Your niece's birthday tattoo in…"
Thank you so very much for your affectionate message for Joseph's seventh anniversary of death. You are such a kind and thoughtful friend! Marsha emailed me separately on the day. DJ also very kindly inquired after me on August 4th.…"
"DJ, thank you so very much for remembering me on Joseph's anniversary of death. It really means a great deal to me! I looked at our happy photos from over the years with friends and family, and it helped to fight the sadness some. Doesn't…"
"Dear Trina ,,, I'm akways around and we have so much in common so if you would like to email and keep in touch this is my email address: Maday1@shaw.ca If you are uncomfortable about it I will understand. …"
Many thanks to Steve, Deborah, Mary Jane, Marsha, DJ, Chuck, and Diane for reviving the conversations we used to have on this forum.
Like so many of you, after the pandemic hit, I couldn't reach out here anymore. The grief of losing…"
Glad to see you on this forum again. Hope you're doing well and keeping safe.
What you say is so true! Our beloved spouses are embedded in our heart, and no matter how many years go by, they will forever remain there.
I, too, talk to my darling Joseph every single day even though it will be 6 and a half years ago on February 4th that he passed. Like Marsha says, it doesn't matter how long ago our soulmate left us physically, they will forever live…"
The anniversaries are the hardest to face. Five years, and yet it seems like it was the other day. My heart goes out to you. I hope that it was not too brutal yesterday living through the day you lost your precious Ken. Sending you…"
Dear Trina ,,, I'm akways around and we have so much in common so if you would like to email and keep in touch this is my email address: Maday1@shaw.ca If you are uncomfortable about it I will understand. Sometimes when Legacy is slow it's good to email someone off the board.
How nice to receive your friend request! I'm still getting used to the fact that we can do that with other members - I'm just not well-versed in "cyber-communication" I guess! My email address is : firstname.lastname@example.org
I tend to be like you and only check Legacy when I see certain names, but I check my email much more regularly. You are one of the people I always read because so much of our communication has been so healing for me, and I hope it has been also for you.
Dear Trina ... My email address is: Maday1@shaw.ca
No pressure if you don't want to email me, but hope to hear from you. I do care how your life is going and I am so very proud of how you are taking charge of your life as best you can. Joseph is watching over you.
I hear you Trina, these whole year has been surreal, I look at the place where Pablo used to sit & still can't believe he is no longer here with me, I miss him more & more everyday, I can't stop crying, I feel the same way, why couldn't I have left with him, I want to be with him again but then I think that it would be devastating for my sons & sister & now my first grandson, it would be too hard for my sons to also lose their mother after having lost their father, never in a million years did I envisioned my life without him, I always thought that we would grow old together & now that both my boys were married, we had started to enjoy going on vacations more often, now to never be again, I simply don't know how to live without him, I also feel guilty because too many things were left unsaid because I thought I had more time to tell him, I sure hope he can listen to my words & hear what my heart feels, sorry for my rambling on & on, having a pretty bad day & not looking forward to tomorrow or the next few months for the matter, I sure hope we can all find some peace at one point in our lives.
Sorry for your loss Trina, this was also my first Christmas without my husband, he's been gone for 10 months, my first holiday without him was just 5 days after his death, it was Valentine's day, I know exactly your feelings, we all here do, one way or another, sorry you had to come to this forum but it has helped me a lot knowing I am not crazy & that I still cry every single day since he died, I had to also go thru what would have been our 34th wedding anniversary in October, & next month, both our birthdays with his anniversary death on February 9th, I wish you some peace & send you some hugs, we all need them.