"A belated Merry Christmas to all on this site. Hope that Christmas was at least bearable and everyone had some respite from our usual state of sadness.
Mary Jane, your secret Christmas Eve ritual is so touching, thanks for sharing it with us. How…"
Very glad to hear that your surgery went well and that you are not feeling too much discomfort. Hope your heeling goes better as each day goes by. Sending prayers so that your pathology report comes out negative, clean. "
"I don't post as much because there is nothing new to add, but I read your posts and empathize with the pain and suffering. It's been three years since my wonderful Joseph left this world. I have now learned how to function on a day to day…"
"Dear Sara Murphy,
Yes, everyday hurts, but the marker days, like birthdays and anniversaries hurt even more. It must have been tough for you today on Ken's birthday. Sending you comforting thoughts and big hugs. -- Trina "
What a wonderful and caring person you are! You made my day by dropping a personal note to me. I am okay--for my context. I don't post as often anymore because I would be saying over and over again the same things: how still every…"
" I just finished reading all the recent posts and there is so much to unpack. Several different themes and threads, but one that jumps out is our (bereaved spouses’/lovers’/partners’) right to be able to grieve on our terms…"
How often have I shed tears reading your posts, and I did it again. You have a way with words; they are always moving, wise, and poetic. I had been away from Legacy and didn't realize that you are going through some challenging…"
Thank you for reaffirming for me that signs are significant. I, too, believe in signs, and believe firmly that our departed loved ones find ways of communicating with us through signs. So yes, indeed, it was Joseph who helped Chuck find…"
I am very sorry that you are now a member of Legacy, but at least, it's a very compassionate site to be a part of. It wasn't me who left you that message, maybe Marsha.
To retrieve a message one good way is to find the…"
"Dear Marsha and Chuck,
This response has been exactly a month in coming. On 4th August the two of you reached out to me with empathy and words of encouragement as I was observing the third anniversary of Joseph's passing. While my pain and…"
Keeping you and your fellow Houstonians in my thoughts and prayers. Hurricane Harvey has brought destruction and devastation to countless many, but glad for your resilience and courage.
I hear you Trina, these whole year has been surreal, I look at the place where Pablo used to sit & still can't believe he is no longer here with me, I miss him more & more everyday, I can't stop crying, I feel the same way, why couldn't I have left with him, I want to be with him again but then I think that it would be devastating for my sons & sister & now my first grandson, it would be too hard for my sons to also lose their mother after having lost their father, never in a million years did I envisioned my life without him, I always thought that we would grow old together & now that both my boys were married, we had started to enjoy going on vacations more often, now to never be again, I simply don't know how to live without him, I also feel guilty because too many things were left unsaid because I thought I had more time to tell him, I sure hope he can listen to my words & hear what my heart feels, sorry for my rambling on & on, having a pretty bad day & not looking forward to tomorrow or the next few months for the matter, I sure hope we can all find some peace at one point in our lives.
Sorry for your loss Trina, this was also my first Christmas without my husband, he's been gone for 10 months, my first holiday without him was just 5 days after his death, it was Valentine's day, I know exactly your feelings, we all here do, one way or another, sorry you had to come to this forum but it has helped me a lot knowing I am not crazy & that I still cry every single day since he died, I had to also go thru what would have been our 34th wedding anniversary in October, & next month, both our birthdays with his anniversary death on February 9th, I wish you some peace & send you some hugs, we all need them.