"It's heartbreaking to be facing the birthday of your darling spouse when s/he is no longer with us. All the milestones are tough, but perhaps birthdays are more so, because how can we "celebrate" when they are not here with us? But we…"
My deepest condolences on your loss. It is devastating to lose the love of your life, your lover and best friend. I, too, lost mine almost three years ago to cancer, and i still mourn and grieve for my darling husband Joseph. The loss of a…"
"Dear Mary Jane,
So sorry to hear of what you've been going through recently. As Steve so correctly says, all of us on this journey of grief have known/faced all that you are describing. My wonderful Joseph left this world almost three years ago…"
I am shocked beyond words to hear what your nephew said to you! Even though the younger generation is much more self-centered and narcissistic than people who are now over 50, his words were extremely hurtful and callous. Maybe he is…"
I just read your post on the 2nd anniversary of Larry's passing, and I can't stop the tears from flowing. Your letter to Larry voices so many of the things that I would tell Joseph if I were writing to him--how much I miss him…"
"Chuck, you so eloquently describe this time of year to be a time of renewal, rebirth, and reawakening, so may peace visit us all during this special time.
Steve, thank you for posting the beautiful poem, very touching.
Marsha, so glad to hear that…"
"Hello Steve, Harold, Mary Jane, and Sara,
Thanks for sharing your spiritual experiences with us. I strongly believe that our dearly departed loved ones (spouse/partner in this instance) are right next to us; we can't see them, but they see us…"
Thank you for your personal message and your understanding. It's so true what you say. No matter how loving our family members or friends may be, people who haven't walked in our shoes absolutely have no idea whatsoever what it…"
I was checking my mail one last time before bed, and here's a letter from you! You the kindest and sweetest person I know. You are the one who encourages us on on our darkest days with compassion and humor.
I am so very sorry to…"
"Jay and Chuck,
Sending you both healing thoughts and vibes as you guys face your anniversaries. Very glad that you think that you are stronger today than you had been until recently. Anniversaries are tough, to put it mildly. Joseph's 52nd…"
Just wanted to thank you for the posts made recently. I don't have the psychic strength to comment on all of them, but I wanted to let you know that reading your stories, comments, concerns, confessions, and words of hope and…"
"Dear Mary Clough,
It broke my heart to read your post. There's absolutely no need to apologize. Life without our spouse/partner is absolutely agonizing, and we on this site are all familiar with, and understand, the feelings of despair and…"
"Thank you so much, Chuck for offering the link to "Calling All Angels." Needless to say, the soulfully beautiful song brought tears to my eyes. The song verbalized the prayers of bereaved folks like us seeking comfort and guidance. Very…"
Since my "return" to this forum last week I have missed your posts. And since I am familiar with your delightful skill with words, I did think that you were preoccupied or away. So it's your computer. Hopefully, it will be…"
You are always so generous with your time, praise, encouragement, and goodwill. I, for one, have hugely benefitted from your generosity of spirit. Every time I post something, you immediately have something positive and affirming to…"
"Thank you, Marsha and Sara for reaching out to me and offering words of comfort. This site is wonderful: when one of us needs some words of kindness and empathy, we can come to this family of ours and find that comfort and support. Nowhere else have…"
I hear you Trina, these whole year has been surreal, I look at the place where Pablo used to sit & still can't believe he is no longer here with me, I miss him more & more everyday, I can't stop crying, I feel the same way, why couldn't I have left with him, I want to be with him again but then I think that it would be devastating for my sons & sister & now my first grandson, it would be too hard for my sons to also lose their mother after having lost their father, never in a million years did I envisioned my life without him, I always thought that we would grow old together & now that both my boys were married, we had started to enjoy going on vacations more often, now to never be again, I simply don't know how to live without him, I also feel guilty because too many things were left unsaid because I thought I had more time to tell him, I sure hope he can listen to my words & hear what my heart feels, sorry for my rambling on & on, having a pretty bad day & not looking forward to tomorrow or the next few months for the matter, I sure hope we can all find some peace at one point in our lives.
Sorry for your loss Trina, this was also my first Christmas without my husband, he's been gone for 10 months, my first holiday without him was just 5 days after his death, it was Valentine's day, I know exactly your feelings, we all here do, one way or another, sorry you had to come to this forum but it has helped me a lot knowing I am not crazy & that I still cry every single day since he died, I had to also go thru what would have been our 34th wedding anniversary in October, & next month, both our birthdays with his anniversary death on February 9th, I wish you some peace & send you some hugs, we all need them.