I lost my husband of 22 years. It has been 11 years since he left. I did not believe I would survive but I did. I remarried an abuser now I am getting divorced. There is nothing you can do for the pain. Don't be rushed by anyone to move on. It does take a long time to heal. Cry as much as you need to. I read books on healing but they never worked. I still speak to my husband everyday. He will never leave my side. Speak to him, tell him you miss him and you love him. As long as he is next to you there is nothing to fear. Fear is the greatest cause of loneliness. What will you do, who will be there for you, and why? These are the biggest reason for the sadness. Believe me it will take a long time. Join a group and listen to others. Speak in the group and cry as much as you need to. Crying helped me the most. I still miss him because he was my forever best friend. Give yourself at least a year. Take it hour by hour at first. Then day by day.
Learn to be independant. When you lean on someone make sure it is yourself. Don't give up! You will want to at first but don't. God is with you and by your side. It is because of God I survivied. Pray for strength and courage. It will come. I use to sit by the water and cry while talking to my husband Dennis. Remember he was a borrowed angel and he has been called back to heaven. Thank God you were one of the lucky ones because you were truly loved and you truly loved an angel. don't try to go back in time. It only hurts you more. I know how much it hurts but I have survived and you will also. My heart is here for you. It takes time to heal.