Victoria (Vicky) Owensby
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"Thanks Tami for reaching out. I lost my husband in 2010 and now my 26 yr old daughter has taken her own life. Most days I cry everyday, all day. I have a grief counselor a psychiatrist and a grief group. I'm on my third anti-depression mimed.…"
Nov 22, 2016
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May 4, 2016
Tami left a comment for Victoria (Vicky) Owensby
"Hi Vicky, I'm sorry you had to join our group "Loss of a child" but I'm glad you found us, I hope you can reach out and get some help, you can always email me privately Atonsgirl@aol.com Hugs Tami"
May 4, 2016
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Marsha H replied to Victoria (Vicky) Owensby's discussion Two years ago today... in the group Bereaved Spouses
"Victoria ... glad you are still here ... so am I!  I know how you feel as I have had quite the ride recently too.  Sometimes I am laughing along with others or I can make people laugh, but always in the back of my mind my Ernie is…"
May 12, 2012
heather replied to Victoria (Vicky) Owensby's discussion Two years ago today... in the group Bereaved Spouses
"march 26th, 2010 was the day my husband died, my world fell apart and the sadness everyday comes and goes now.  I will never forget him no matter what sometimes I just talk to him somehow I feel he is watching over me, I feel his presence and…"
May 10, 2012
janeo left a comment for Victoria (Vicky) Owensby
"Good, thank you for asking. Cyber hugs and enjoy your day. Ok"
May 6, 2012
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May 6, 2012
janeo replied to Victoria (Vicky) Owensby's discussion Two years ago today... in the group Bereaved Spouses
"Victoria, I just wanted to check in and see how your doing."
May 5, 2012
Victoria (Vicky) Owensby replied to Victoria (Vicky) Owensby's discussion Two years ago today... in the group Bereaved Spouses
"Thanks Dee and Jane for your kind remarks.  The support from people who share in the pain and sadness of losing one's partner is immeasurable.   Many times it's gotten me through a hard day. My loving thoughts go out to you."
May 4, 2012
janeo replied to Victoria (Vicky) Owensby's discussion Two years ago today... in the group Bereaved Spouses
May 4, 2012
janeo replied to Victoria (Vicky) Owensby's discussion Two years ago today... in the group Bereaved Spouses
"That's what were here for to express yourself. Even just for while you'll feel better. And you will have a better day for that. My prayers is always with you."
May 4, 2012
Dee W replied to Victoria (Vicky) Owensby's discussion Two years ago today... in the group Bereaved Spouses
"It is hard to go on by yourself but somehow we do it. I, too, have realized at times that I am trying to avoid the sadness and I think that's ok and part of healing but we can't avoid it for long before the pressure of what we are bottling…"
May 3, 2012
Victoria (Vicky) Owensby added a discussion to the group Bereaved Spouses
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Two years ago today...

Well I'm still here. There were many days when it felt as though I could never go on by myself.  The feelings though not as raw still permeate within me, an ever lasting reminder of the tragedy I live with daily.  Sometimes I feel as though I've been running away from the sadness.  I don't think this is what "moving on" really means but it is the best I can do.  I can smile now thinking of him but always through a mask of tears.  My yartzeit candle will burn out soon but my love for Martin will…See More
Apr 26, 2012
Victoria (Vicky) Owensby left a comment for Kim
"That is so awful Kim.  Like is so cruel.  I can't look at pictures without crying yet either even thinking about looking i can cry.  When will it ever end.  Please know I'm here if you ever need anything or just a…"
May 29, 2011
Victoria (Vicky) Owensby left a comment for Kim
"Hi Kim, Just checking in because it has been too long.  How are you?  One year of Martin's death came and went without much too much additional grief.  I still think about him everyday and miss him always though.  I'm…"
May 28, 2011

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A Widow Story

Posted on March 23, 2011 at 10:16am 0 Comments

I just finished reading this book by Joyce Carol Oates and recommend it to everyone.  She shares so many feelings that we do in beautiful detail.  It helped me some relating her story to mine and she lives in Princeton, NJ where I spent the first 17 years of my life.

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At 8:43am on November 22, 2016, Victoria (Vicky) Owensby said…
Thanks Tami for reaching out. I lost my husband in 2010 and now my 26 yr old daughter has taken her own life. Most days I cry everyday, all day. I have a grief counselor a psychiatrist and a grief group. I'm on my third anti-depression mimed. None have worked. I feel most of the time like I want to die now too but my only other child, my son would be left with no one so I'll wait for my turn to come. I wish I could see her one more time to tell her how much she meant to me. She was the joy of my life and now it's like I'm only a third of a human. Why is g-d punishing me.
At 12:05am on May 4, 2016, Tami said…
Hi Vicky, I'm sorry you had to join our group "Loss of a child" but I'm glad you found us, I hope you can reach out and get some help, you can always email me privately

Atonsgirl@aol.com

Hugs
Tami
At 8:41am on May 6, 2012, janeo said…
Good, thank you for asking.
Cyber hugs and enjoy your day. Ok
At 12:29pm on December 3, 2011, Kim said…

Hi Vicky,

Its been awhile since I last wrote to you. I'm sorry about that. I hope you are doing ok. Its very hard for me at times to come onto this site because it really makes me sad to hear everyone's story. It brings so much of my own pain to the surface and I am trying so hard to bury it the best I can. I am so dreading Xmas this year. Not only is my husband gone, but my son moved out about 5 months ago so waking up all alone on Christmas is going to be very hard. I'm still very lost without Jerry but am making the best of things. I hope things are getting better for you. Even though I do not write to you often I do think about you.

At 8:22pm on May 29, 2011, Kim said…

Vicky,

Things have not been so good lately. Not only is the 1 year anniversary of Jerry's death approaching, my friends 8 year old son passed away this morning. He stopped breathing sometime during the night. Life is so cruel. The death of his son brought out so much of my own pain.

I'm happy you are going back to school for your Master. For me, keeping busy helps with the grief process. I know what you mean when you say you are ready to leave your house. Part of me is ready to leave, but the other half isn't. Sometimes the memories can be too much to handle. I still can't get through a photo album without breaking down.

Take Care

At 7:56pm on March 14, 2011, Linda G. said…

Vicky, so glad you read my comment. I just have started getting dressed everyday. Neal passed away 5 months ago tomorrow. I have been so depressed and along with my grief, I did not think I could go on any longer. If it were not for my doctor changing me for the 3rd time to a different antidepressant I do not know what I would do. This last change seems to work some. At least now I can get dressed.

 

Neal and I were married for 40 years and I am just totally lost without him. There are not words to describe how much I miss him. I wish we could all wake up from this terrible nitemare. HUGS

At 2:03pm on March 14, 2011, david said…
vicky  i sent you messages trying my best to answer  the questions you had . i hope it helped . david
At 2:03pm on March 14, 2011, david said…
vicky  i sent you messages trying my best to answer  the questions you had . i hope it helped . david
At 9:21pm on March 13, 2011, david said…
hope things are better for you. david
At 8:34pm on March 10, 2011, Kim said…

Hey Vicky,

Just checking in with you to see how you are doing? February was a rough month for me. With Valentines Day and then Jerrys birthday 3 days later, I kind of fell apart. I wanted to die so bad just so I could be with him. I am doing better so far in March. Grieving is hard. One day I am ok the next I can cry at the drop of a hat. I still can't look at Jerrys pictures without breaking down. I can't believe he has been gone 9 months already. My life doesn't seem to have meaning without him. I hope things are getting a little better for you. (hugs)

 

 
 
 

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