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grave stone

Posted on May 18, 2012 at 3:38pm 0 Comments 0 Likes

I go to visit my husband's grave site often. It has been 17 months and his family members are expressing concern as to why I haven't put a stone on him. I don't know if I am ready to visit and see his name on it. That just seems that it will make it even more final. Am I being selfish ? I know his mom is hurting to. I just don't know what to do. If I decide to do it what is the process ?

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no more tears

Posted on March 7, 2012 at 7:47pm 1 Comment 0 Likes

I noticed for the first time since my Peter left that I know longer wake up crying. My heart still feels like it's being yanked out of my body. I no longer cry but I still cannot get up in the morning. I'm late for work everyday. Thank God I have a compassionate employer. Each day I put on a happy face so my children won't worry but it isn't getting any better. My life consist of work and home. I'll be retiring from work in a few months. I just can't do it anymore. I don't return…

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At 10:49pm on February 15, 2012, Ellen Brant said…: Nona, Some days are rougher than others but together with the support of each other we somehow learn to stay in the moment and hold on to the treasured memories. My prayers are always with you. Hugs. Ellen

At 9:06pm on February 13, 2012, Ellen Brant said…: Nona, THANK YOU ever so much for posting prayers on my page a few days ago. You are truly an Angelic messenger of support and I am here for you with prayers too. Hugs, Ellen

At 3:47am on February 12, 2012, Jane P. said…: Nona, I have journaled the 'why' question so many times, I was taught you are not to ask why, so my question became why not. The why is all part of God's plan and the answers will be in salvation. What gets me through the why is knowing he is in a better place with no more pain and he is preparing for my arrival.

I too look at others and it seems for some their normal is arguing with each other with no form of outward emotions. After 23 years of marriage my husband and I still held hands, would hug each other publicly and every day said I love you. For us, everyday was Valentines Day. We did not need one day to say I love you, besides Dan always said that Valentines day is a Hallmark holiday and I would say oh come on admit it you're just too cheep to buy me a card! And we would always laugh. And that is what made our relationship so special.

So why all this came to a screeching halt with one dieing breath is beyond me. So for now I believe we will again be together again and that helps me believe in tomorrow. Hugs, Jane P.

At 3:28am on February 11, 2012, Jane P. said…: Nona, I do believe they are still with us and they communicate with us in the way they can. Sometimes when I am so depressed and don't know how I am ever going to make it through the day a note, a song, a card or a smell will suddenly appear. I believe we need to open our hearts to this and when we least expect it let the unexpected happen! I also believe the card you saw falling was his way of saying I love you too! Hugs Jane