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Husband of 40 + years died October 2, 2009 from bacterial infection contracted in hospital. He had just started treatment for lung cancer. We were so hopeful as it was still contained to lung area. He got pneumonia soon after 1st chemo treatment and it all went downhill from there. Walking all over Baltic Sea nations while on a cruise in May, diagnosed in July, and gone in October. I'm still reeling from the shock and devastated by the loss.

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At 3:36pm on August 2, 2012, Marsha H said…: Hey there girl ...

Haven't been on the forum that much as trying to keep busy. Jane (the sweetie) left me a message last night and I realized it was time to come onto the forum and check out my dear friends (counting my chicks LOL) to see how everyone was doing. As you know lots to do with a house and I've been gardening like crazy as well as seeing my family and friends. Things are a bit better, but I still haven't put on the weight. Going into surgery on August 10th. Will be glad when it is over.

Hope things are going much better for you.

Hugs

Marcy

At 12:17am on July 26, 2011, Marsha H said…: Hi Becky

I sure hope soon I will be where you are and can introduce more exercise into my life other than walking the dogs, but I am going through a knot in my stomach when I even eat a sandwich and soup and I'm also taking Gastrolyte at this point in time to try and balance out my body. I am just too weak right now and going to the doctors tomorrow so hope he can help me. I know there is no quick fix for grief, but I can't go on like this forever. You are so lucky to have children that keep in touch. My husband Ernie and I were never blessed with children so I have to count on a my brother and his wife; friends and neighbors which scares me at times. I do have two dogs and a cat and thank heavens for them. I am really down about my stomach and it's kicking up a major storm tonight on me. It takes me forever to shower and do my hair (just the simplest of things.)

At 6:55pm on July 25, 2011, Marsha H said…: Hi b mohere

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your husband and of course all of us can relate to your feelings. Lost my husband at 64 from pancreatic/liver cancer on April 27, 2011. I still can't believe it. 6' 6" healthy and strong man all his life until 4 years ago. I still expect to see him coming through the door.

Thanks for sharing that information on exercise and I am so happy that has worked for you. I am just coming out of my weak spell from not eating (I'm crossing my fingers) and I do walk the dogs a lot when I can. I may consider taking up additional exercises like you a little later on, but don't have the energy right now. Going to see the doc on Tuesday, but feel it's futile as most jam meds at you and although I have been on Xanax for some time I am only on that med and refuse to mask this grieving no matter how hard it is. If I thought I was truly losing it then I would have no choice, but am fearful of antidepressants. I am not saying anyone else on here should not take antidepressants, but for me they just mix with my chemistry and I live alone; no children so it makes me nervous to try new meds.

Big hugs and keep up the good work

Marcy