Well, thank the Lord for this website! I have lost my only sibling, my older brother, to cancer on 4/22/06. And yeah, talk about being treated like a second class mourner--you may as well say I was invisible at my own brother's funeral and all the events leading up to the funeral. I prayed for the Lord God to grant me a double portion of his grace to get me through all of that. On top of that, I was so busy comforting my grieving parents, that I couldn't grieve because I had to be the strong one, but I take no credit for that. It was only by the grace of God that I made it through that difficult time. And it's been over three years, but the pain of losing my brother is still very raw, but I also know that he's at eternal rest with Jesus Christ, but sometimes even that doesn't quite negate the fact that my brother is physically gone. But I know I will see my loved one again, and that trouble doesn't last always. I encourage each person who has ever lost a sibling, especially if you lost them in your adult years, please seek a grief support group either in your local church or somewhere in your community because you don't have to go through this by yourself. I've tried to be independent about this, but truth is, other than having Christ in my life, I am sooooooo sooooooo lonely and depressed right now. I know of a church in the area where I live that's going to start a 10 week class on grief starting in September, and Lord willing, I plan on attending because the burden has gotten too much for me to bear. Thanks, whoever you are, for listening to me ramble on. God bless.