Hello Denise and thank you for including me here. I am feeling like I need some support and interaction with people who are going through this. When Alan passed 6 years ago, I coped in other ways. With Joe’s passing, I feel I need to reach out a little more. Yes, it’s a hard road to walk and never expected to have to walk it two times.
Denise,In response to your post,my one question would be"Why",though it may never be answered.Many a people are asking this and will the rest of their lives.Another question I would ask,is my brother in Heaven? I would have to think he is.I'm doing good deeds in his memory.
Denise,Thank you for your response.Most of all Sorry to hear of your loss of your brother also.I do have many cherished memories of my brother.Though I cannot stop thinking of how my brother passed and the many questions unanswered.I don't think will ever be answered,which leaves my mind at times anguished.
Hi Denise! I'm so sorry I couldn't get back to you sooner. I'm still learning about this sight. I'm glad they updated it like facebook. I'm glad that you do have a hope. Many do not because they don't have the knowledge that the Bible holds out for us promised by Jesus. I do hope that we can keep in touch! I am on the island of Oahu, which is near Maui. When are you coming? Write soon! Much aloha!
HI Trish...Thank you for adding me as your friend....My brothers birthday would be tomorrow...so sad he is not here...
I would think its normal to think of your brother that amount of time everyday....I do to....I guess it is what you are thinking about that matters...
I think of the pain that my brother was in to have shot himself like he did...I think of I should have done something..I should have gone to see him that day...On and On I could go..when Bobby started giving away things I went ot see him and said..do not think that I dont know what you are doing..Please I begged him do not kill yourserlf...please....and he said to me..Sis there are wrose things then death....oh how I wanted him to live..and how he wantded me to go on with my life after he died...guess neither of us got what we wanted..about moving on...how can we...no we will not ever be the same..but we can go on...
My cousnelor suggests I try EMDR...not sure..she thinks I have PTSD...not sure either..
I went once to a support group...there were people there from 20 years still stuck in this awful place...I did not go back..I do not want to be the person that is still grieving as I am now 20 years from now..
Thank you for your thoughts and time. It has been over 2 yrs. and I still find myself thinking of him daily for at least 5-10 minutes of my day.
I am starting to get worried because I am doing so. I feel maybe I should have moved on only I can't not yet. I don't know if I will ever.
I have been thinking of maybe going to meetings that are held for those left behind and are greiving. It might do me some good but then I feel if I go I might not move on but stay in the same situation.
Well again thanks for being there it means alot. You have wonderful day or evening.