Hi Donna, I think part of the reason we freeze and don't speak about our children is that we feel the pressure from others to "be better". But I believe that in order to "heal" and to be able to live without guilt is the ability to speak of our children. They should never be the elephant in the room. Easier said than done I know.But we owe it them to keep them alive and if others are uncomfortable, that's on them.

Hi Donna.....very sorry you are having a rough time.  Christmas has come and gone.  Always glad it is over.  6 years on Christmas day since our Donny left.   We do have joy back in our lives.  His girls are growing up and having babies of their own.  I am now a great grand mother to two babies.  A boy and a girl.  We miss our Donny every day and we talk about him all the time.  I so wish he was here enjoying his grand children.   Take care and I am wishing you a peaceful 2016

Susan   Donny's Mom

Happy Birthday to your dear Deanna.   The years just seem to zoom by  now.   Donny will be gone 6 years this xmas.  Two of his daughters have children now.  So I am a great grandmother twice over.  A girl and a boy.  Just darling babies.  Makes me so sad Donny is not here to be a grandpa.  He would have been so good at it.  Fun loving and a great big smile for them.   Hugs for you my friend.     I hardly ever go on this site anymore.  But your posts come on my email that's how I knew.....

Hugs coming your way

Sue Donny's Mom

Dear Donna,

My thoughts are with you today on this 5th year anniversary date.  I too hit that mark this year at Christmas time.  Man what a brutal effect this loss has had on our lives.  We miss our Donny just as much as we did 5 years ago.   I am sure you feel the same about Deanna.   Big hugs today for you.  I will light a candle for you and Deanna today.

Susan      Donny's Mom

Donna, so sorry for your friends recent loss of her grandson.  Another sudden terrible tragedy.  Hugs and prayers going out to that family.

We know how shocking this all can be.   Hugs to you also.....

Susan  Donny's Mom

Dear Donna.....Happy Belated Birthday.  All of our birthdays are important so wishing a late birthday wish.

Sorry you are feeling down....I know the years are at 5 for each of us now.   One of Donny's girls has a baby girl now (Lylah 4 mos) and another is due in May with a boy.  Life does go on.  I know I am fortunate to be involved in their lives and see them starting their own families now.  It's a mixed bag for sure, happy for them but tears at my heart that Donny isn't here to enjoy his grand babies.  

Know I am thinking of you and hope you can get out and walk or talk to someone in your family.  It's always good to talk it out.

Hugs Donna

Susan

Hello Donna, wishing that your holidays were somewhat peaceful.  You re right there with me at 5 years.  We both lost our children in 2009.....life never the same.

Pretty much the holidays are over till next year.....such a big empty spot left open in our family.

Hugs to you and your family

Susan

Yes Donna so many new members.  But at least they have an outlet.  This site sure helped me thru the years and still does  I don't go on it much, like you I don't know how to make them feel better, new member help each other now and that is good.  I am coming into 5 years this Christmas and Tami just did her 5th year with her Joey.  Christmas day is just so hard to do anything in his memory, we try to stay positive and happy that day for all the kids so if we do anything in his memory we all get emotional.  We usually try to just make it through that day with a "toast" at the table and do a memory day on March 4th for his birthday.  Very sorry about your Mom.....we both lost our parents over 10 years ago.... that was so sad for us because both of us were very close to our parents.  Well good to hear from you and hugs from me.

Susan