Eileen, I lost my husband, Waymon, on Aug. 23rd 2010. I am so sorry for your loss and sorry that you haven't found comfort in this site. I too have a hard time navigating because I don't quite understand how you get to see everyone's comments, but I know there are some very good people here who listen and give support and encouragement. I would be glad to listen anytime you need to share. I will keep you in my prayers.

Thanks for your kind words Eileen. You tend to forget that others are going through the same pain as you. It is sad to think that a loss like ours is what brings us as together. But it is nice to know that others who are experiencing the same pain, are there to help comfort us.

Eileen, I feel your pain and am so sorry you too are having to go through the inner turmoil of losing your husband. I lost my husband on Sept. 29, 2010. We didn't even know he was sick with a life threatening anything. He was 55 yrs. young and our journey was just getting started. This is one horrible weekend for me...the holidays and yesterday would have been our 12th Wedding Anniversary. Doug was my only real family. I try to stay in the moment but stumble a bunch and cry and bellow loudly. Thank goodness for support sites like this and for face to face grief groups. I hope we can all grow a bit stronger together . Please share anytime you need to. That is what it is all about. HUGS and Prayers. Ellen~

Hi Eileen,

I understand only too well what you are faced with, I lost my Rose just 1 month ago after being together as a couple for almost 31 years. We would have been married 30 years this coming May and had been living together since 8 days after my 18th birthday. I will be 49 on January 31st, Rose would have been 56 on January 6th. Rose was diagnosed with Stage 4 Lung and Abdominal Cancer on Sept. 8, 2010 and passed on November 27, 2010. I know it is very difficult for you having 2 adolescent children, I will keep you in my prayers and hope that things get better for you and your sons. I have 2 adult step-daughters from my wife's first marriage and a son from my marriage to Rose but all are thousands of miles away and are of little support. A very small group of friends has been my safety net but you can only expect so much from them. Someday we will be reunited with our lost partners, until then we need to find ways to maintain our sanity and live for that day.

Eileen, I saw on the news that the east coast is getting pounded with snow, I'm so sorry about that. I live north of Chicago, so I know about rotten winters. Being stuck in the house because of weather doesn't help us does it? Not having a good time of it myself, my Mom passed away Dec.22, 2months and 1 day after losing Jim. Tonite is the visitation, tomorrow the funeral. I hope 2011 will be better for us. One of the ladies at this site, her name is Ellen Brant, is a big comfort to me. She has the ability to know the right things to say at the right time. Everyone here has helped alot, give us a chance. I know what it's like not to want the kids see that you're upset. My kids think I'm doing okay, if they only knew. Take care Eileen, my thoughts and prayers are with you.