Sadly Erica yes there are people who get on our site and try and take advantage of us here. The latest one is Vivian. She wants peoples personal emails. Usually when they get that information they go into your "friends" and send them either virus's or advertising junk or even worse, terrible messages with swearing in them to all of your friends.
So just communicate on this site, it is safe and until you get to know a person don't give them any personal information like email or your home address. If a person bothers you or you have a bad feeling about them, on the very bottom of your "page" here there is a area that says, "Report and Issue" and if you click on that you can send a message to the people who watch over this site, tell them who is bothering you and they will remove and block that person from getting on this site. We have had to remove about 4 of these people so far. So this new person Vivian is the latest one.
If something doesn't feel right then don't respond to that person. 99% of us on here want to help you through your new grief journey but there is a 1% that wants to take advantage. So just beware.
Hugs to you and I just love that picture of your darling little guy.
Erica, what a beautiful little boy. Although my son was 31 when I lost him on August 20, he was my buddy at the age of your son and was still my buddy when he had his accident. It doesn't matter how old they are, they're always our babies. It's even difficult for me when I see little boys playing or to be happy about the birth of a baby because it reminds me that I lost my first baby. My heart aches for you and I'm so sorry you have to make this journey, but know that we're all here for the same reason. We all understand each other and support each other. This site has really helped me to know that my feelings are normal and it has also helped me to see my blessings. I pray for peace for you and strength to face each day.
Cathy ~ Charlie's mom
P.S. this is his web site: http://www.333technologies.com; he had just returned from a mission trip to Ecuador and he was able to update it just before his accident. He worked behind the scenes videotaping everything on this trip. His wife, Holly, had just lost her dad and grandmother right before they left to go; everything was against them, but they chose to follow God's call anyway and I'm so glad they did. The last time I saw him as himself was on my birthday and I had just called and talked with him the night of his accident on August 18 - it was about an hour later that we received the call. All I can say about this is I don't understand God's plan but trusting in him is the only thing that's getting me through this and He will see you through too.
Erica and family, What a beautiful child. I am so sorry for your loss. As you know, we all on this site have lost a child of different ages and we all know the pain. We all in some way try to place blame on ourselves, God, the person who was with them, their friends, other family members, society in some cases with age appropiate deaths, anything. But in the end, we cant bring them back, not in the flesh. As you go thru this grief we all know too well, you will go thru stages. Come here as often as you need to vent or talk of how you feel, and mostly tell us about your child. Talking helps a lot. I even tell my family or friends about this site and how it helps me and that whatever stages I am going thru, its normal. Most do not understand our pain unless they join this club that noone would want to join if they had a choice.
I dont want to ramble anymore, just please know we are here for you as the others have said.
God bless you, hugs and prayers to you and your Angel, Caden.
I am so sorry for your loss,he is a beautiful boy..The worse thing a mother to go through is to lose a child but we feel worse when we feel like we could have stopped it..I cant tell u not to blame urself because i blame myself for my 2yr old caden's death..We will never understand why but god needed them more then we do,it's not fair and it is cruel but we cant change his plans..my caden has been gone for 2yrs,my ex killed him while i was out. the only way i have gotton through it was with my other kids and knowing 1 day im gonna see him..If u dont believe in god there's nothin wrong with that b/c sometimes i blame him for my son being gone
Erica, please know you are not alone. I am so sorry for this to have happened, I lost my daughter too. Your suffering and sadness is so clear through your words and if I could say the right words to ease your grief I would, there are no words. Just know that you are not alone and can reach out. We are here
I am so sorry for your loss. I, like Tammy, was unable to read the end of the message you sent. We are all walking similar paths (unfortunately). Know that you can always find help here. He was a beautiful boy!