I figured nobody here judges. Just happened to be browsing my local newspaper trying to print out my moms obituary, and across this site I came. I didnt come across as a site that would judge, but rather to vent, help others, and share a common thread in a time of darkness and lonliness.
Thats very sad about your mom, my mom was almost the same way. She would flinch if I moved a little too quickly. Its that same way around here. Its a "Good ole boy" kind of town. The police are untouchable.
As a child, I watched my mom get beaten up by my dad. She up and left my sister and I alone with this man. After she left, all the abuse went to me. I have overcome this and forgiven him for what he did. My mother's funeral seemed to have brought us closer with is pearls of wisdom. What he had said, made sense and made me feel a little better. My mother joined God on May 1st, 2010. I figure she is watching "All My Children" or "One life to Live" with my grandma. Have to find some kind of humor.
good morning Liz, Just so u also know, no one here judges in any shape or form and this is the beauty of coming here! Some will let us vent.. others will reply.. I also was brought up in a very hostile, abusive environment. But my parents divorced when i was 19.. which however later.. i cared for my mom when she was sick, and frail at age 87. All those years i couldn't touch my mom.. she was still afraid of being hit!!! She was a scared shell of a little lady from all the abuse! I sought out an attorney (before my mom left) because for the first time ever, i saw her original divorce papers... OMG... father having been a police serg... really intimidated and took all from her. She was forced to live in a government subsidized housing. They (he remarried) on the other hand have lived very rich and well... none makes sense to me. All i can say is THEY will meet their maker later and it wont be pretty~ Im sorry u suffered such abuse by the hands of your stepdad. Seems when there's alcohol and drugs in the pic.. nothing good comes from that picture :( May i ask, when did your dear mom pass?
i just read your words.. im so very sorry.. but first things first.. i would certainly report your stepdads part in this to the police immediately! Hopefully charges can be brought up on him...he could possibly be charged with negligent homocide! If u click on my name.. we can converse on our personal pages. Hang tight.. u will be ok in time dear...