Hi Ingrid,this is Elaine Phillips,well the problem is my youngest grandson Kory,Kris youngest son needs plan B and C. The last time on July 3,2008 you ask for the young men ages. He Kory is now 5 years of age,where he was 2 years of age when his Dad was killed in the car accident. Would you believe that after three years my grandson cried and told me that he missed his Dad so much and wanted to know when his Dad was returning home from work. This really broke my heart so bad not knowing that my grandson was still waiting for his Dad to return home from work. All Kory knew was that his Dad had passed. At 2 years of age what do he know about passing. Just what he thought That his Dad had passed by the house after work and he missed him and went back to work the next morning. He would say that his Dad was in heaven,but he thought that heaven was at work. He was use of hearing when Kris was at work they would say oh Kris is in heaven now. A FireFighter was Kris dream since he was attending daycare. My words to him was that yes your Dad is in heaven,but not at work and that your Dad was killed in a fatal care accident and that will not be returning home from work ever again because your Dad is dead. This took so much out of me to tell this 5 year old that his Dad will not be returning back home. I felt like crying but it was his turn to get it all out. I didnot cry at my son funeral,because I had so many to hold up for. My daughter was 5 month pregnant,his fiance,two grandsons and his brother. Many nepews,2 nieces and cousins who looked up to Kris as a role model in the family. Kris was so well respected by many,friends and family members. They would say call Kris he knows what to do. So someone and somebody had to be strong. But I really think this is where my sickness fell in. Holding in everything trying to be strong. So Ingrid I really need plan B and C or maybe E and F."Smile" Elaine

I just figured out that there is a Lodi NJ, as well as a Lodi ca. I am in California, although my huisband is from Chicago and eventually we will be moving there. Right now we are taking care of my mom who's health is failing. Thanks, and God bless

Thank you Ingrid,I am ok... just a little lonely sometimes. Thanks for taking the time to leave me a message. Thanks for the kind words.

Thanks for your kind words Ingrid. Sorry for not responding sooner.

Thanks Ingrid,, its me Daisy. your words are very true and I do believe it will be okay.... thank you for reading my heartfelt words

Hi Ingrid you are so right. I have been talking to the boys,bringing them to church and they have so much to remember they dad with. Now their Mom is great with them and do let them know what a great dad they had. Kris do remember good times with his dad that he speaks of now. I think he was most angry about is that he never had a chance to say good-bye. Their Mom is now a New Orleans Police Officer. I hear Kris all the time stating my dad was a hero and now so is my mom. So I created a coloring book with there mom the police officer and their dad the firefighter. Also a picture of the two together stating my mom & dad our heroes.