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At 1:06pm on October 29, 2012, Cindy said…
Janice, I'm so very sorry for your loss! No, I don't see this grief thing getting any better, I will NEVER be "right" anymore. I know that ! I'm only going on 12 weeks, I'm so empty,lost and just SO SAD always. I hope we can stay in touch. Please let me know u received this message. I keep thinking I am joining in on conversations, and I don't know where my comments are going? I just wind up reading everyone elces posts. Oh wella, it helps me anyway. I hope u get this. Hug. Cindy
At 11:37pm on July 1, 2012, Faith J. said…

janice, so glad book is helping you. my copy hasn't made it to the bookstore yet. may rhe peace of God rule in ur heart.

At 8:30pm on June 13, 2012, Jacky said…

Was your home area really that bad? Had you lived there long? So now you live with your son? Alot of changes.  Tell me about your loss, if you want. I do not know your story.

I too have that memorial service, coming up. I dread it. .I thought without a doubt, I was going to bring my husbands ashes here...can't do it. Can't pick them up. I have to go and pick a small personal urn. So I can keep some of the ashes here, I think I want to do that...but who knows?, I have to do this soon, but have no idea how. I can't think of anybody to ask to help me. I will wait until God tells me... Going to lisen to our Bible study now, gn, Lord bless...

At 4:46am on May 29, 2012, Jane P. said…

Janice, I am so sorry for your loss and even sorrier you had to join this group.  You will find throughout this grieving process there are no timeframes and there are no right or wrong answers.  It is now about you and how you feel or what makes you feel better.  My husband passed 11 months ago after 17 months of dealing with lung cancer and no matter how you look at it there is NO GOOD WAY to die if you are the survivor.  Watching him deteriorate for these months did not make his passing any easier.  I found that time passes, the months change and I still am in limbo. But I try to move forward only looking back for the memories that brought us together.  Stay strong, come here often if only to read posts.  Hugs, Jane P.

At 1:04pm on May 28, 2012, Julie Larsen said…

Janice:

I hope we can be of help to each other. My Charlie died 7 weeks ago today and he was 66. We have been married for 45 years (while we were both in college). We are almost at the same spot on this terrible road.

Charlie had a lung transplant almost 9 years ago. Before that he had been on oxygen 24/7. Without the transplant he would have been gone then. He did well as lung transplants go (5 years is a good outcome) We became a little complacent. We always just thought he would have a slow decline. In March he broke his wrist badly enough to need surgery. Although he was released the next day we returned to the hospital that night. His oxygen level was really low and his heart beat was irregular. I had awakened him to take meds. They tell me now that if I had not called 911 he most likely would have died in his sleep (don't really know how I feel about that). As it was he spent a torturous month in ICU far from our home. Either my brother or I was with him almost every minute. He was intubated 3 times. He had pneumonia.(no immune system because of post transplant drugs). His kidneys failed and he was on fulltime dialysis. He suffered a painful hematoma in the groin. All this time because he was intubated and his right wrist was broken he could hardly communicate with me. Of course, I kept telling him I loved him, but we never had "that" conversation. I kept thinking somehow we would get through everything and we would talk later. As a final straw he had a perforated bowel and could not have surgery. On Easter Sunday I had to make the decision to let him go. He died 30 hours later with me holding on to him and telling him how much I loved him. I can still see him take his last breath.

I hope you don't mind me piling these details on to you. I will gladly listn to your story.

I can't realy see an end to this grief. I truly feel I have nothing to live for. I have gotten some help on this website. Talking about Charlie always helps me for a while. Maybe you can find the same comfort.

 

Julie

 
 
 

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