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At 4:58pm on September 21, 2011, Pamela Thomas said…: Jan, I'm so glad that you are conquering this journey. I'm so happy to hear that you are going back to church. Since my husband passed away, I have learned some valuable lessons in life. Live and enjoy every moment. I no longer take things for granted. I always tell my loved ones everyday that I love them. Thanks for letting me know how you are doing. Have a wonderful day. God Bless You!!

At 3:57pm on May 2, 2010, Pamela Thomas said…: Jan, I'm sorry for your lost. I'm hear to encourage you to go back to church. This is where, I get my strength through worship. Jan, there maybe someone in church that needs your support. Please email me when you will be going back. I want to celebrate with you. My personal email address is trotwood83@yahoo.com

At 8:27pm on March 12, 2010, Connie said…: Jan, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband of 46 years on 11/9. I feel like there is no reason for living. I miss him so very much. I cannot sleep in our bedroom and most nights cannot sleep at all. I have three daughters and 5 grandchildren and they are so very good to me. It just isn't the same as having my 'best friend' with me. They say that time will help heal the wounds.

Jan, please accept my sincere sympathy for your loss. May God Bless you.

At 3:08pm on February 6, 2010, Denise MacCallum said…: Hi Jan,
My name is Denise and I lost my husband from bile duc cancer and lung cancer on October 09...He only lasted 3 months after he was diagnosed...I still can't believe that he is gone...We were together for almost 40 years...I will be 60 this month and we had planned to do something special...All I want is to be alone for the day really doesn't mean much without him...I hope that I hear back from you...My thoughts and prayers will be with you...
Denise M.

At 1:18pm on January 31, 2010, Sue Darby said…: Jan,
Good to hear from you. And yes, things do get better. Do you have children. I do, they're both grown adults w/kids of their own. But they help just be being there and grieving w/me. They have both had a tough time of this and I have felt I needed to show strength for them so they would not worry about me. They have been a great help.

And, I bought a dog, in fact, two of them. I can't tell you how much they helped. They make me laugh. And that feels so nice.

So stay strong - brighter days are coming.

I care,

Sue

At 5:50am on December 18, 2009, Sue Darby said…: Hi Jan,

I go on w/life by getting on w/life. I went back to work 5 days after my Tom passed. The support I received was overwhelming and for at least 8 hours per day I was able to focus on something other than my loss. Yes, I cried every morning and every night, to and from work, but, for me, it was the best thing. Do you work? If so, immerse yourself in work. But when you are at home feel free to cry, to sob, to scream. You earned that right. Something precious has been snatched from you and you need to get that pain out.

Hard to believe but after a while you do feel better. I was w/Tom for over 45 years but I find, after this year and half, that I do enjoy things again, I am able to laugh, and I am able to go on. He had his cancer for over 9 years and we always knew that someday it would win so when he did succomb to the cancer I felt I had 9 years to prepare for his death. He fought it, did not want to die, but passed w/his dignity, passed w/grace and passed w/his family.

Please feel free to respond. We have shared something even though we don't know each other. I do care.

Sue D