You will cry yourself to sleep until you are comfortable. No one can say when it should stop. It will stop when it DOES. I still do it after 6 mos. I have a great picture of Harry on my screensaver of my cell phone. He is in a hospital bed but looking right at the camera and waving with a smile. He was not THAT sick at the time. It is right next to me in bed every night. I kiss him goodnight and his hand on that picture is the perfect size for my
index finger to fit over. I touch his hand and talk to him. I feel like he is there in some way.
I know if anyone else besides one of US on here ever saw me do that they'd probably think I was losing it. I don't care. It works for me depending on the kind of day I've had but most are fair. Some days there is just no consolation but that's all part of this terrible blow. God Bless You. Prayers for all.
LINDAUNION I JUST READ YOUR COMMENT I HAVE 2 SONS AND 3 GRANDCHILDRENI HAVE 2 SISTER 1 YOUNGER THEN ME AND THE OTHER OLDER MY OLDER SISTER LIVES BY ROCHESTER NY MY YOUNGER SISTER LIVES DOWNSTAIRS FROM ME. LINDAUNION I DO NOT THINK ANYONE KNOWS WHAT WE ARE GOING THRU UNTIL IT HAPPENS TO THEM AND IT WILL SOONER OR LATER SOMETIMES I JUST WANT SOMEONE TO TALK TO TO CRY ON THE SHOULDER BUT ALL I HEAR IS YOU CANNOT BRING HIM BACK IF THEY LISTEN TO WHAT I AM SAYING I AM ASKING THEM TO HELP ME COPE WITH THIS LOSS
NIGHT TIME IS THE LONELEST TIME FOR ME. I MISS COOKING FOR HIM SLEEPING WITH HIM AND MOST OF ALL I NEED MY BEST FRIEND BACK. I CAN SAY ONE THING I HAD THE CHANCE TO TELL HIM GOODNIGHT AND I LOVE YOU THAT WAS THE LAST WORDS WE SPOKE I STILL HEAR HIM TAKING HIS LAST BREATH I GUESS THAT WOULD BE WITH ME FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE. TAKE CARE
Hi Linda,I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband 13 months ago, and yes it is still hard to believe he is gone.Your loss is new and the pain is raw,I hope you stay on this site it really does help. I can tell you that even tho I am not crying everyday,there is not a day that goes by that I don't think of my husband and still miss him so bad. You will in your own time be able to do the same. I have his driver license on my bathroom mirror ( he put his dads there when he passed 29 yrs. ago ) so I put his there and when I wake every morning I go in and kiss my fingers and put it on his pic and say good morning baby. Then when I get ready to leave I tell him to let me have a good day,I talk to him everyday and when it's a bad day I tell him you must get me thru this and give me the strenth I need. They are never gone from your heart and as long as you keep their memories alive. Everone is different and mourns differently, you must take all the time you need, not what others tell you. It will get easier but the pain is still there you learn to handle it different I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers, and am here anytime you want to talk. Virginia
Linda, You loss is still so very new. You cannot be expected to feel differently. I am going on 7 months since I lost my husband and I still cry every day no matter what I am doing. I could be driving and I feel the terrible hurt and start to cry. Do you have someone that you can talk to? Sometimes that might help. If you can talk about your husband with someone who really cares, it might make you feel a little better. What you need is a good support group. This site has some of the kindest, nicest people who are going through the same thing as we are. They feel the hurt as we do. They feel the pain as we do. I do feel comforted by some of the posts on this site. May God Bless You and I will remember you in my prayers.
My condolences to you and the Family, I was very sorry to read you lost your husband in death, may the tender mercy that God has always shown be with you now so you will know that you are not alone and may the prayers of others help in some small way to bring you strength and comfort each day. "May the God of comfort, who comfort you in all your tribulation, and bring you comfort at this time." (2Cor.1:3,4)
Linda, Please accept my sincere sympathy for the loss of your husband. Your loss is so new yet I am sure that you feel devastated. This website is so very good because it gives you a place to talk, vent, get angry and whatever and no one is going to judge you for it. We all are experiencing the same loss. Some of us have lost our spouse many months or even years ago and to some of us the loss is still very new. There is always someone available to communicate with you when you need to talk. God Bless You.