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At 9:06am on November 21, 2011, s l watson said…

lula, my Mama lived ten days after entering hospice care.  I don't know how a 95 year old woman as frail as she was lasted that lone with no water or food.  The hospice folks provided heavy sedation so she seemed to be at peace.  She passed away on Dec. 15 of 2010 with me on one side and my sister on the other.  We stroked her hands and made our peace with her.  She wasn't always the perfect mother and we forgave her and we were not always the perfect children and we asked for her forgiveness.  We told her it was ok for her to go and that we would be ok.  Sometimes, they wait for us to not be present and sometimes they hold out until we at their side.  When her time comes she will decide whether she is alone or with you.  Get the book, In Lieu of Flowers by Nancy Cobb.  It was a great help for me.  This is a difficult time for you and it will change you forever.  Be there for her and do what you have to do to accept the natural order of losing a parent. 

At 9:06am on November 21, 2011, s l watson said…

lula, my Mama lived ten days after entering hospice care.  I don't know how a 95 year old woman as frail as she was lasted that lone with no water or food.  The hospice folks provided heavy sedation so she seemed to be at peace.  She passed away on Dec. 15 of 2010 with me on one side and my sister on the other.  We stroked her hands and made our peace with her.  She wasn't always the perfect mother and we forgave her and we were not always the perfect children and we asked for her forgiveness.  We told her it was ok for her to go and that we would be ok.  Sometimes, they wait for us to not be present and sometimes they hold out until we at their side.  When her time comes she will decide whether she is alone or with you.  Get the book, In Lieu of Flowers by Nancy Cobb.  It was a great help for me.  This is a difficult time for you and it will change you forever.  Be there for her and do what you have to do to accept the natural order of losing a parent. 

At 4:46am on November 21, 2011, Peggy Hill said…

Lula, I'm so sorry you have to go through this.  It's the hardest thing you will ever do.  Is there a hospice where you are that could take care of your mom? It would be easier for you there and they keep them comfortable so they don't feel the pain.  I lost my mom recently too and never would have made it without Hospice.  They take care of your mom and you.  I worried about all kinds of things when it was my mom.  I worried that she was hungry or thirsty or cold or hot but they explained to me that those senses were the first to go so they didn't feel those things.  That helped me.  I was shocked that I was strong enough to be there and watch my Mom pass but I did it for her.  I lost a cousin to cancer a few weeks ago.  He worked on friday, went to the doctor monday and died on saturday.  I don't know how the doctor missed that.  It was all over him.  You're in my heart and in my prayers.  Stay Strong.

At 8:22pm on October 26, 2011, BONNIE said…
LuLu-I am so sorry to hear about what happened. It sounds like he was not in his right mind and maybe even tripping. The procedures and laws need to be changed regarding the ill in a dignified manner.
Again I am so sorry for your losses.
~Bonnie
At 7:04pm on October 1, 2010, ashley nicole scruggs said…
trust me... i agree 100%. i wish i knew what really happened. i dont. i wasnt there. she was at her dads. i only know what i was told. this is so aggrivating. not having answers...but i trust that the Lord will carry me through all of this with a beautiful victory in the end. and i will see my sweet angel again one sweet day. God bless
At 7:04pm on October 1, 2010, ashley nicole scruggs said…
trust me... i agree 100%. i wish i knew what really happened. i dont. i wasnt there. she was at her dads. i only know what i was told. this is so aggrivating. not having answers...but i trust that the Lord will carry me through all of this with a beautiful victory in the end. and i will see my sweet angel again one sweet day. God bless
At 5:54pm on July 9, 2010, Nancy Holiman said…
We won't know until Autopsy results are back, however he had been suffering chest pains weeks leading up to his death that he swore must have been some anxiety issues or something?
 
 
 

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