hi michelle....my daughter past the nite before thanksgiving in 2005 from an embolism to the lung....she was 24 years old...i also lost my dad one month to day after her. the only thing i can say to you is when things get really really bad...i try to celebrate their live especially around the holidays...i kept her room the same as she left it and it wouldve been kept that way if my grandson didnt move in...however, i left some of her clothes in her closet. i go in her/grandson's room and hug her clothes...and i look at all her things and rember what they meant to her...especially her turtles...it is good to be able to see part of them and to touch what they have worn...;im not saying it is easy but it helps to be close to them in some way...when i go to the cemetary, i think how sad that i have to visit my dad and my daughter here...im not really sure that this had helped since his passing is still fresh...i was very num in the beginning and now i look bac and think of things that i should have done or seen or something...celebrate your son's life. dont give away his things...if you can keep his room the same and treasure things that u kno he loved and visit him at the cemetary and talk to him...they kno...whenever i go visit, there is always a bird that either flies by or sits on a branch...i think that is her way of letting me kno that she is there...i hope that i have helped u in a small way...keep him close in your heart...you will never never forget but you will always remeber the times and the little things that you shared...my daughter has a twin sister and misses her sister so much...as does my grandson who was two when she past...he talks about her and says he loves her...good luck and if you need to talk ...write me again...