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Posted on November 9, 2009 at 12:36am 1 Comment 0 Likes

Hello my name is Mike Perla I'm from Encino CA . I am 24 years old and sadly I have lost my little sister in a tragic car accident 5 months ago she was on her way to prom. What brings me here is sadness im lost I dont know how to cope with this tragidy. I want help please somebody tell me how I can help my family. I feel like were the only ones in the whole world that are going through this horrible pain.

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At 9:26pm on November 30, 2009, Angela Marshall said…: yea i know it is hard. And i know you are going though a lot of pain. but you going to eventually have to lean to accept it. and then as hard as this sounds you're going to have to move on.once you do that it will help the pain ease up a lot. That's what i have to do as well and am trying to do. It takes time I kno but you have to be patient,
Angela

At 9:52pm on November 18, 2009, Jenny Timmons said…: Hi Mike
I agree with Brenda the word SORRY doesn't seem enough, yet we hear it all the time. I wish there were words to make the pain stop, as we all here are dealing with the loss of someone we love.I read the messages and the stories of loss, hoping it will help me deal with it all. Yet I still hurt It helps to know there are people that know what we go through and don't judge us for what we feel, just keep reading the messages and know that we care. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Jenny

At 8:55pm on November 16, 2009, Brenda said…: Hello Mike...Yes ...That word sorry just doest seem like it's enough for the pain we go through, and it does feel like you are the only one going through it. but as you can see on this site ...we arent. I know it hursts so bad. My daughter is going through so much too. Michael was her big brother and her protector. Not only do we have to deal with our own pain but also our other loved ones pain too. I ill be praying for you. I wish I could say this will all go away...but I can't. Keep coming to this site because you will have the support here from people that understand your grief. Blessings ,Brenda

At 8:06am on November 15, 2009, Kathy Mook said…: Hi Mike, I'm so sorry for the loss of your sister. Thanks for your complement regarding my words. I just try to share my experience, strength, and hope as I too walk the path of grief. I haven't lost any sibblings yet but I have three adult children who have. They are very private with their grief and get up set if I talk about Jon in front of them. In regard to my faith, I have been a Christian for 32yrs. and gone through a lot of valleys and storms in my life. God knows everyone of them and knew before I was born what things I would have to deal with. Keeping it is all about releationship and remembering. Building a relationship with Jesus through prayer,reading the Bible, spending time with other Christians and remembering all He has brought us through and all the blessings He has given us, like the time He did give us with our family before they died. If you just pour out your heart to God Mike, He will help you through this and when you get angry at Him, He will understand, He lost His son too. Keep coming back. It helps. There is a sibblings group on Hospice's site too or you could even start one here. I'll be praying for you. Do you have a picture of her in her prom dress?

At 9:23pm on November 8, 2009, Angela Marshall said…: hi mike,
let me just say it is really terrible to hear what happened to your sister and what you nd your family are going through is terrible. Now I havent lost my sister like you have but I have lost my bestfriend. I do know partly how you are feeling. Like why did this happen to her out of all people and you wont be able to see her again and you wish you culd just say 1 last thing to her?? Well what I 1st started doing was pray. At tough times like this thats really all you can do. Then I started a journal. It helped me to express all my feeling and its like your reallty writing to that person and instead of keeping it all bottled up inside you can just let all your feeling out and it will help. Then the next step is acceptance. Everyone has there one timing when they have to go and yes she was young and it may not have seemed like she should be gone but she is. You have to accept that and cherish all the good you had with her and remember she will always be there with you and she wouldnt want you to be depressed she would want you to keep on living your life and to be happy. It takes time to heal but it will get better. Just pray to God and when its your time to go years and years from now you will both see eachother again in heaven.
Hope This Helps,
Angela