lisa w. thanks so much for your kind and very understanding comments. it actually sounds like you may have experienced some of what i have. i would surely not want to be one of the ones who had unsympathetic and unkind comments to make to someone who is deeply grieving. i would be very ashamed of myself as i expect myself to be better than that. just because someone has not personally experienced the same thing doesn't mean they have to be cold and heartless. i hope i have never inadvertently hurt someone like i have been hurt by the very people who should be loving, caring and compassionate, yet choose, yes purposely choose, to not be. again, thank you for your support. hopefully our horrible experience can somehow help another and isn't that what we are put on the earth for is to help one another. i try, not always good at it, but i do continue to try. thank you again lisa, peace and love, sandy
little sister, i am so sorry about your sister. your pain is so raw and new that i am ashamed to go on about my troubles. i know that feeling when it just happens. you are just in a fog of grief and pain. i was so lost that i barely remember, but what i do remember was the lostness, so i pray for you to find some peace. i know it surely won't come overnight for you but if you know that in time, it will at least become a little more bearable, maybe that can help. i just remember thinking i may never be able to function again but you do begin to live again. but we never completely get over the loss. i think i am rambling in trying to explain how things were for me just in case some tiny something may help you in this horrible time. i do pray, listen to the pastor fervently, and my support here on this site has been extremely helpful. i try to stay positive but that is not always so easy. i will pray for us all and hope we can say by the end of 2010 that we have made some positive progress. our loved ones would not want us to be so sad. actually, my brother would fuss at me pretty good. he was such a great guy. well, peace and prayers and love to all, sandy
When your having the hardest time of your life sometimes people arent there the way you would expect them to . I have read the new posts and I dont understan people who have no heart at all or are just plain clueless in response to you r pain. We are all in this together . This is a hard road to travel on but we will make it through. Life can be good but it can really seem strange without your loved one in it. Life is so uncertain . I pray for peace in life for me and everyone in pain .
Thanks alot for your comment its a good feeling when someone take the time to listen to your story especially when they are hurting too. It hurt everyday when i wakes up and i think that i no longer have a big brother but i will continuing crying and praying. God Bless you and i will pray for both of us.
my brother passed away january of this year and i have really been having a rough time of it. this has been the hardest worst think ever. i am quite worried about my mom for the obvious reasons. then two months after we buried my brother, my husband left me. quite a prince, huh. but, what doesn't kill you will make you stronger. but i work nonstop as an emotional bandaid. can't sleep well, weird dreams. just a wreck and then people do tell me to focus on the living who i love which i am trying my best to do but this has been rough to say the least. we were not expecting his death at all. the shock just about killed all of us. it's been bad, but i guess i am some better. but i don't expect to ever completely recover from this.