I lost my beautiful stepdaughter , age 18, to a rare cancer 2007. needless to say my husband was devestated, as was I. then there was a lull, and in Oct 2009 my husband lost his dad to cancer also. within a few weeks after his dad's passing he shut down completely. i didnt exist. i saw hurt , anger, and feel im the target for his emotions and grief. he is seeing our minister tomarrow, as he is close to him. but my life is torn upside down. i lost my dad to cancer 3 months before my stepdaughter was diagnosed. so therefore i didnt even have time to grieve for him properly. how do i deal with helping my husband, other than "giving him space?"