Steve Cain
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  • Aurora, IL
  • United States

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Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"So I'm preparing to go to an annual Christmas party and am kind of dreading it.  Our friends have had their party the first Saturday of December for the past 25 years.  Most of the people at the party I've seen during the year…"
2 hours ago
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Harold ...  I am so happy that your grandson and you will be together and you are doing things together.  There is nothing more blessed than bright eyed children excited with anticipation and believing in magic.  I often think we…"
3 hours ago
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Deb ...  To answer your question as to what I'm doing on the weekend, I'm taking my two dogs to get Santa pictures done as Ernie and I did every year because it raises donations for rescued dogs.  They look so cute and don't…"
3 hours ago
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Sara ...  As promised I'm letting you know that I had told my sister-in-law I was not engaging in any arguments and ruining everyone's Christmas.  I realized to pray for her in hopes whatever she was going through would…"
3 hours ago
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Deb ...  I could resonate about letting your house go after Bill was deceased and it's all part of grief.  I went through the same thing until one day just 8 - 9 months later I was driving towards the house when I realized how I…"
3 hours ago
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Deb ...  I am so happy for you that you had that experience with Bill letting you know he's truly near you.  As I've always thought we are just a dimension away. How can two people love each so deeply and death…"
3 hours ago
Sheri Dettman commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Deb, I'm so happy for your experience. That's the kind of thing that we all have to look for in order to help make sense of why any of this happened. I keep telling myself that Bill is my guardian angel now. I'm still sad and cry…"
4 hours ago
Deb S commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Harold, Thank you for this post. It made me smile. It is so nice of you to attend your grandson's game and so fun thinking of him enjoying a sleepover with you. It sounds like you have some wonderful memory building plans for his…"
4 hours ago
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Deb You asked what people had planned for the weekend. I went to my 9 year old Grandson's Basketball game and he is spending the night. We will probably cut down a tree today or tomorrow and get it decorated. It seems like you and I are on…"
5 hours ago
Deb S commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear friends, The most remarkable thing just happened to me and I feel compelled to share the experience. As I mentioned earlier, I am working in my dining room. It contains beautiful mahogany furniture that my dear husband purchased long before our…"
6 hours ago
Deb S commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Steve, Thank you for this sweet and thoughtful response. Perhaps I am also ready to make changes to reflect my own idea of what I want for my home. I started this project last week and finished my master closet, bath, and linen closet. These areas…"
7 hours ago
Steve commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Deb, Mark and I had lived in the same apartment for 5 years and we had it decorated for our enjoyment and took great pride in how comfortable it represented both of our likes.  It was a reflection of us and we were constantly changing and…"
7 hours ago
Deb S commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Just checking in. What does everyone plan for today or the weekend? My husband passed away almost 17 months ago. During this time, I've coped and taken care of a lot of pending matters. I've begun to heal. What I seemed to avoid during…"
8 hours ago
Deb S commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Harold, Thank you so much for this reply. Your use of the word "puzzle" makes so much sense to me. I had never thought of it this way before and it helps clarify what each of us experiences. A major piece of our puzzle is missing. I love…"
13 hours ago
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Deb I will be cutting down a lot from what we did previous years. We had a 4 ft x 8 ft village with train and decorations through out the house. During a class I took I said my life feels likes a puzzle, before it was a beautiful and peaceful…"
22 hours ago
Deb S commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Harold, I love your decisions for decorating this Christmas. Everything sounds wonderful. Holidays are such a difficult time. You have been in my thoughts and prayers as you navigate so many personal milestones during this season. I wish you…"

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Just a quick note to thank you all for supporting each other. When I started this I would have NEVER thought this group would grow this big and have the amount of activity that it does. It's great to see you all supporting and helping each other. With 3 jobs it is hard to spend as much time as I'd like but it's good to know I don't have to spend a lot of time here administering things. Just remember I'm around if you need me. When something gets posted I do get an email and I will respond as soon as I get that. Thank you all for taking care of each other and remembering your loved ones here.

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At 11:08am on June 18, 2015, Cynthia Murphy said…

It has been a while since I have been here. My husband died 19 months ago after 17years of suffering from diabetes related problems. I didn't think I would ever get better but I have. Eight months into a horrible grief a friend called and asked me to come over, her brother was there. I dated her brother in high school. He had lost one of his sons in 2001 and grieving as much as I was. We've had so many discussions about what we have been through and where we are now.. We are dating now and loving life again. We still talk about our loved ones we lost but we remember with smiles and happy memories. I don't know what the future holds for me but I have to trust that God is leading me in the direction that was meant to be for the second half of my life.

At 2:19pm on September 1, 2014, Karen W said…

Joyce, welcome to the site.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  I lost my husband Ed almost 9 months ago and I have found myself back at this site often looking for comfort, encouragement, understanding, or just to vent my feelings.  Everyone here has been where you and I are and understands what we are going through.   I wish you strength for each new day. 

At 10:45am on September 1, 2014, Joyce M said…

I too am new to this site...and am not sure how to post a comment...I have read so many comments by others and have found some small measure of comfort knowing that what I am going thru is so normal...I lost my husband just 3 weeks ago and every day is so hard right now....

At 9:44am on May 26, 2013, Jan said…
How do I talk to people on this site? I posted and did a blog and no one responded. Maybe I didn't do it correctly.
At 9:02pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
I just realized I posted
I have read others post and it seems no matter whether the loss of our loved one is recent or years ago What I am feeling is what others have posted
I feel a large piece of my heart died when he did I feel like I have to be another person at work and then go home to our home we shared for 45 years and feel so alone I just crawl in bed and zone out to movies or sleep When I think about how much I miss him and being there when he took his last breath it's like I have to put my feelings away because its too hard to deal with them. I get mad then sad and cry I just want to go to sleep and wake up and he is back home with me. The question I have is I feel bad when other family members call with problems they are having or if they are sick. I feel like I can't handle it or be sympathetic and say the wrong thing to them. I really don't want to talk to others I feel bad I can't listen to there problems Does anyone else feel this way. I have always been the strong one helped others and was able to fix my problems. This grieving I can't fix me. I know everyone says it takes time but this is the worst thing to go thru and I don't feel I will ever be me again. I married Mike when I was 18. Moved from my patents house to be Mikes wife then became a mother and now 45 yrs later alone. I was always a wife and a mother never a me I don't know how to be me. Mike and I were friends too and did everything together I really don't have friends Sorry my post is so long. Mikes birthday is coming up then Xmas. Thanks for listening
At 8:40pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
Hi. I am new here how do I post a question My husband of 45 years passed away 10 months ago tonight I don't feel it will ever be better I miss so much. GOD BLESS EVERYONE
At 2:35am on September 13, 2012, Marilyn kroge said…
I am facing the 1st anniversary of the loss of my beloved Jim and I still can't accept that I am alone for the first time since I was 18 years old, almost 50 years with the same man and my only love. I wake in the night to sounds that I realize are coming from my very soul. I find myself calling out to him, begging him to please come back to me, that I can't go on without him and I can't stop the tears that won't stop and I don't want to stop the pain I feel because that would make it real, it would mean that I finally know that I will never feel his arms around me, that I'll never kiss him goodbye when he left each morning. This man I met for the first time and we knew that first meeting that love at first sight really happened and we were together from that moment until I kissed him and felt his last breath, warm and so amazing that I felt his breath as he closed his eyes and so quietly left me forever . I know how maudlin my words sound but I so need to finally tell someone of my pain. I'm not allowed to say any of this to my sons or anyone in my family. Their grief became anger and so this has been my life, alone and terribly hurt that no one wants to hear what I've said here where I feel safe sharing my deepest thoughts. Thank you......."m"
At 9:13pm on September 12, 2012, Margie Thrash said…

I am coming up on my second month without my rock (Scott) it is hard but I do have good friends that check up on me every night if I dont contact them so I am fortunate that way.  Had to already go thru his birthday without him was very hard to do.  Then we always did a 100 mile horse ride week of labor day did it this year by myself with a few friends and was hard but I did it.  Not a day goes by I dont cry.  One of his last text to me was please dont get depressed like I am right now (he had 3 months to live from diagnosis made it 3 1/2).  So I try to think of that text everytime it gets too bad and I go outside or work around the house and listen to alot of music.

At 2:21am on January 10, 2012, Rowe said…

Welcome to all new members. I Lost my first husband 31 yrs ago at the age of 38. Remaried 6 yrs later and lost my Late husband after 10 yrs. He has been gone for 15 years. I am living proof that after the grief, Life will go on.  Not at first, but about 5 yrs later you will be living again.. even though you thought it would never happen. I Recommend that you do not try to avoid the grief.. you have to deal with it because if you dont it will be waiting for you to come back. I am here for you if you need to vent, or just want someone to give you an ear.

At 5:40am on December 15, 2011, dawn m long said…

hi steve only a few more days till christmas .. Im here for ya

 luv dawn


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