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janeo commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Like Jane P. I don't post as much but always reading them as well. This family here will always be a part of us. Steve I echo everyone here take your time. To everyone I pray and hope your finding peace. To all the who's been here like…"
4 hours ago
Jane P. commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Steve, I don't post often but I do read posts and if there is one thing this site instilled in me was to not make any major decisions within that first year. These wonderful people gave you some great advice but until you feel ready, take your…"
5 hours ago
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Trina ...  Thank you for your beautiful post.  I am happy it gave you some peace and that you are finding you are not grieving so intensely 100% of the time.  Even though I am Canadian I did take time out to say a prayer for those…"
7 hours ago
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Bill ... what a beautiful poem and it says it all.  I like to think when the breeze flies through my hair that's my Ernie or, he's walking right beside me even if I can't see him. "
7 hours ago
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Steve ...  Don't fear your reaction if you decide to take Mark's cremains.  Of course there will be tears, but that's to be expected.  I have my Ernie's ashes in a beautiful wooden box and I say good morning…"
7 hours ago
Barbara Sullivan commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Steve -- If you can't decide -- don't.  Perhaps you could have Mark's cremains sent to a friend or family member who is willing to keep them for you until you are ready to make a decision.  I think this is a better option…"
9 hours ago
Steve commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Thank you both, my first gut feeling was to go pick him up and bring him home, I didn't think about releasing some and keeping some. What a wonderful idea! Thanks again"
14 hours ago
Rolland Wood commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Nice poem Bill.."
14 hours ago
Rolland Wood commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Bill, I did both.....kept her and released her...that's the good thing about can have your Kate and Edith too. ;-)"
14 hours ago
BILL Plunkett commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"MY COOKIE TALKING TO ME THE ONE WHO IS MY EVERLASTING LOVE AND BEST FRIEND     I'm Gone now, but I'm still very near. Death can never separate us. Each time you feel a gentle breeze, It's my hand caressing your face. Each…"
14 hours ago
BILL Plunkett commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"I had my wife cremated and have ashes in a vase in a corner with candles on each side. Every day I get to say good morning and at night goodnight. It helps me knowing a part of her is so close. Make the decision that will fit your spirit"
14 hours ago
Rolland Wood commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Steve, What I did with my wife Janice's cremains is burial at sea..she loved San Francisco I did it by myself..took them there..said a prayer and released her to can choose to keep an urn, or spread them someplace special. You…"
14 hours ago
Steve commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear group, I have to decide what to do with Mark's cremains.  I was not expecting this so soon, UT Southwestern sent me a letter today asking me how I wanted to proceed, I have 3 choices, they will inter him in their memorial gardens on…"
15 hours ago
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Bereaved Spouses

A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
22 hours ago
Trina Mamoon commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hello Marsha and Rolland, Thank you so much for your kind words and show of support. It does really help when  others who are on this same journey as me reach out and say words of sympathy and encouragement. As I have said before, this site was…"
georgia commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Nate, how beautiful, Your Maria is proud to have such a wonderful husband. Well done."

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Just a quick note to thank you all for supporting each other. When I started this I would have NEVER thought this group would grow this big and have the amount of activity that it does. It's great to see you all supporting and helping each other. With 3 jobs it is hard to spend as much time as I'd like but it's good to know I don't have to spend a lot of time here administering things. Just remember I'm around if you need me. When something gets posted I do get an email and I will respond as soon as I get that. Thank you all for taking care of each other and remembering your loved ones here.

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At 2:19pm on September 1, 2014, Karen W said…

Joyce, welcome to the site.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  I lost my husband Ed almost 9 months ago and I have found myself back at this site often looking for comfort, encouragement, understanding, or just to vent my feelings.  Everyone here has been where you and I are and understands what we are going through.   I wish you strength for each new day. 

At 10:45am on September 1, 2014, Joyce M said…

I too am new to this site...and am not sure how to post a comment...I have read so many comments by others and have found some small measure of comfort knowing that what I am going thru is so normal...I lost my husband just 3 weeks ago and every day is so hard right now....

At 9:44am on May 26, 2013, Jan said…
How do I talk to people on this site? I posted and did a blog and no one responded. Maybe I didn't do it correctly.
At 9:02pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
I just realized I posted
I have read others post and it seems no matter whether the loss of our loved one is recent or years ago What I am feeling is what others have posted
I feel a large piece of my heart died when he did I feel like I have to be another person at work and then go home to our home we shared for 45 years and feel so alone I just crawl in bed and zone out to movies or sleep When I think about how much I miss him and being there when he took his last breath it's like I have to put my feelings away because its too hard to deal with them. I get mad then sad and cry I just want to go to sleep and wake up and he is back home with me. The question I have is I feel bad when other family members call with problems they are having or if they are sick. I feel like I can't handle it or be sympathetic and say the wrong thing to them. I really don't want to talk to others I feel bad I can't listen to there problems Does anyone else feel this way. I have always been the strong one helped others and was able to fix my problems. This grieving I can't fix me. I know everyone says it takes time but this is the worst thing to go thru and I don't feel I will ever be me again. I married Mike when I was 18. Moved from my patents house to be Mikes wife then became a mother and now 45 yrs later alone. I was always a wife and a mother never a me I don't know how to be me. Mike and I were friends too and did everything together I really don't have friends Sorry my post is so long. Mikes birthday is coming up then Xmas. Thanks for listening
At 8:40pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
Hi. I am new here how do I post a question My husband of 45 years passed away 10 months ago tonight I don't feel it will ever be better I miss so much. GOD BLESS EVERYONE
At 2:35am on September 13, 2012, Marilyn kroge said…
I am facing the 1st anniversary of the loss of my beloved Jim and I still can't accept that I am alone for the first time since I was 18 years old, almost 50 years with the same man and my only love. I wake in the night to sounds that I realize are coming from my very soul. I find myself calling out to him, begging him to please come back to me, that I can't go on without him and I can't stop the tears that won't stop and I don't want to stop the pain I feel because that would make it real, it would mean that I finally know that I will never feel his arms around me, that I'll never kiss him goodbye when he left each morning. This man I met for the first time and we knew that first meeting that love at first sight really happened and we were together from that moment until I kissed him and felt his last breath, warm and so amazing that I felt his breath as he closed his eyes and so quietly left me forever . I know how maudlin my words sound but I so need to finally tell someone of my pain. I'm not allowed to say any of this to my sons or anyone in my family. Their grief became anger and so this has been my life, alone and terribly hurt that no one wants to hear what I've said here where I feel safe sharing my deepest thoughts. Thank you......."m"
At 9:13pm on September 12, 2012, Margie Thrash said…

I am coming up on my second month without my rock (Scott) it is hard but I do have good friends that check up on me every night if I dont contact them so I am fortunate that way.  Had to already go thru his birthday without him was very hard to do.  Then we always did a 100 mile horse ride week of labor day did it this year by myself with a few friends and was hard but I did it.  Not a day goes by I dont cry.  One of his last text to me was please dont get depressed like I am right now (he had 3 months to live from diagnosis made it 3 1/2).  So I try to think of that text everytime it gets too bad and I go outside or work around the house and listen to alot of music.

At 2:21am on January 10, 2012, Rowe said…

Welcome to all new members. I Lost my first husband 31 yrs ago at the age of 38. Remaried 6 yrs later and lost my Late husband after 10 yrs. He has been gone for 15 years. I am living proof that after the grief, Life will go on.  Not at first, but about 5 yrs later you will be living again.. even though you thought it would never happen. I Recommend that you do not try to avoid the grief.. you have to deal with it because if you dont it will be waiting for you to come back. I am here for you if you need to vent, or just want someone to give you an ear.

At 5:40am on December 15, 2011, dawn m long said…

hi steve only a few more days till christmas .. Im here for ya

 luv dawn

At 5:40am on December 15, 2011, dawn m long said…

hi steve only a few more days till christmas .. Im here for ya

 luv dawn


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