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Trina Mamoon commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Carol, Thank you for your words. If only those other people knew what a struggle it is for us--the bereaved--to face each new day, how much willpower and courage it takes just to make it through the day without breaking down or bursting out…"
Elizabeth C commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Another day past another day further from the actual loss, I pray for us all and thank you for your sharing and compassion. God bless."
diana ribbenthrop commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"I feel for all of you who are grieving.  I am 5 yrs out  Lost my love   May 2010  from stage 4  lung cancer. .I was 66 . In 2011  my 38 yr old daughter got divorced, lost her job, her home  and savings .…"
Trina Mamoon commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Sorry, I see I have many mistakes and typos, but I don't know how to edit once it has posted. "
Trina Mamoon commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Sorry, it was supposed to read Chicago Beard."
Trina Mamoon commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear All, I have been reading the recent lists, and as always reading about the experiences of other bereaved spouses just fills me with deep sadness and I can't stop crying when I read these posts. Chicago Bear, you did a very important thin…"
Steve commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"I lost my beloved soulmate/husband November 30, 2014. I am 67 and still working, am in good health and still so alone. Mark was sick for along time and it broke my heart to watch someone who loved life and knew no stranger slowly get worse. He…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Grief is sort of like writing a serious book about something that is passionate to relate to others ....  write what you know and have experienced!  Sometimes, just sometimes we can grab a readers interest and glide them though…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Chicago Beard ... Well said! We all grieve no matter how old we are when we lose a mate or spouse.  I am now writing a book on Senior grief because Seniors seem to be left out in left field with some in society thinking just because…"
Elizabeth C commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"I have been pondering the comments on loss and how we will never get over it, it's true, sometimes it gets worse as we mourn not being able to share our lives with our loved ones. And as we age we realize more and more of what a loss we have…"
Elizabeth C commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"I said to the funeral director who was helping me select a casket and make arrangements, how do you deal with this day after day, and the dead bodies? He said it doesent bother me at all (he is pretty young). He said, I've never known anyone…"
Chicago Beard commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Thank you Barbara. I could not just let it slide."
Chicago Beard commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Jane P I have been working in mental health since 1973 and as a therapist since 1976 and my experience was exactly the same as Joyce Brothers. I did not know what I did not know until I experienced it. It humbled me a great deal, I can tell you that."
Barbara Sullivan commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"I am glad you responded to that article, Chicago Beard.  'They" really can't know what we feel, unless we tell them, or they experience it for themselves.  Bless you! Barbara"
Jane P. commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"kudos to you Chicago Beard!  Even Dr. Joyce Brothers once admitted until her husband died she had no clue what grief was all about and had no business counseling others on grief. "
Rolland Wood commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Yep Chicago...that dude said it like it really is..."

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Just a quick note to thank you all for supporting each other. When I started this I would have NEVER thought this group would grow this big and have the amount of activity that it does. It's great to see you all supporting and helping each other. With 3 jobs it is hard to spend as much time as I'd like but it's good to know I don't have to spend a lot of time here administering things. Just remember I'm around if you need me. When something gets posted I do get an email and I will respond as soon as I get that. Thank you all for taking care of each other and remembering your loved ones here.

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At 2:19pm on September 1, 2014, Karen W said…

Joyce, welcome to the site.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  I lost my husband Ed almost 9 months ago and I have found myself back at this site often looking for comfort, encouragement, understanding, or just to vent my feelings.  Everyone here has been where you and I are and understands what we are going through.   I wish you strength for each new day. 

At 10:45am on September 1, 2014, Joyce M said…

I too am new to this site...and am not sure how to post a comment...I have read so many comments by others and have found some small measure of comfort knowing that what I am going thru is so normal...I lost my husband just 3 weeks ago and every day is so hard right now....

At 9:44am on May 26, 2013, Jan said…
How do I talk to people on this site? I posted and did a blog and no one responded. Maybe I didn't do it correctly.
At 9:02pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
I just realized I posted
I have read others post and it seems no matter whether the loss of our loved one is recent or years ago What I am feeling is what others have posted
I feel a large piece of my heart died when he did I feel like I have to be another person at work and then go home to our home we shared for 45 years and feel so alone I just crawl in bed and zone out to movies or sleep When I think about how much I miss him and being there when he took his last breath it's like I have to put my feelings away because its too hard to deal with them. I get mad then sad and cry I just want to go to sleep and wake up and he is back home with me. The question I have is I feel bad when other family members call with problems they are having or if they are sick. I feel like I can't handle it or be sympathetic and say the wrong thing to them. I really don't want to talk to others I feel bad I can't listen to there problems Does anyone else feel this way. I have always been the strong one helped others and was able to fix my problems. This grieving I can't fix me. I know everyone says it takes time but this is the worst thing to go thru and I don't feel I will ever be me again. I married Mike when I was 18. Moved from my patents house to be Mikes wife then became a mother and now 45 yrs later alone. I was always a wife and a mother never a me I don't know how to be me. Mike and I were friends too and did everything together I really don't have friends Sorry my post is so long. Mikes birthday is coming up then Xmas. Thanks for listening
At 8:40pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
Hi. I am new here how do I post a question My husband of 45 years passed away 10 months ago tonight I don't feel it will ever be better I miss so much. GOD BLESS EVERYONE
At 2:35am on September 13, 2012, Marilyn kroge said…
I am facing the 1st anniversary of the loss of my beloved Jim and I still can't accept that I am alone for the first time since I was 18 years old, almost 50 years with the same man and my only love. I wake in the night to sounds that I realize are coming from my very soul. I find myself calling out to him, begging him to please come back to me, that I can't go on without him and I can't stop the tears that won't stop and I don't want to stop the pain I feel because that would make it real, it would mean that I finally know that I will never feel his arms around me, that I'll never kiss him goodbye when he left each morning. This man I met for the first time and we knew that first meeting that love at first sight really happened and we were together from that moment until I kissed him and felt his last breath, warm and so amazing that I felt his breath as he closed his eyes and so quietly left me forever . I know how maudlin my words sound but I so need to finally tell someone of my pain. I'm not allowed to say any of this to my sons or anyone in my family. Their grief became anger and so this has been my life, alone and terribly hurt that no one wants to hear what I've said here where I feel safe sharing my deepest thoughts. Thank you......."m"
At 9:13pm on September 12, 2012, Margie Thrash said…

I am coming up on my second month without my rock (Scott) it is hard but I do have good friends that check up on me every night if I dont contact them so I am fortunate that way.  Had to already go thru his birthday without him was very hard to do.  Then we always did a 100 mile horse ride week of labor day did it this year by myself with a few friends and was hard but I did it.  Not a day goes by I dont cry.  One of his last text to me was please dont get depressed like I am right now (he had 3 months to live from diagnosis made it 3 1/2).  So I try to think of that text everytime it gets too bad and I go outside or work around the house and listen to alot of music.

At 2:21am on January 10, 2012, Rowe said…

Welcome to all new members. I Lost my first husband 31 yrs ago at the age of 38. Remaried 6 yrs later and lost my Late husband after 10 yrs. He has been gone for 15 years. I am living proof that after the grief, Life will go on.  Not at first, but about 5 yrs later you will be living again.. even though you thought it would never happen. I Recommend that you do not try to avoid the grief.. you have to deal with it because if you dont it will be waiting for you to come back. I am here for you if you need to vent, or just want someone to give you an ear.

At 5:40am on December 15, 2011, dawn m long said…

hi steve only a few more days till christmas .. Im here for ya

 luv dawn

At 5:40am on December 15, 2011, dawn m long said…

hi steve only a few more days till christmas .. Im here for ya

 luv dawn


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