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Christina Marangolo commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha, Thank you for your post.  It really does help sharing my feelings and hearing comments from others in my situation.  I am totally caught up in my own little world.  When friends ask to go out, I go...I try not to miss out on…"
17 hours ago
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Carol ...  Great post and I certainly hope you are feeling much better.  Yup, it's the little germy darlings that pass off their germs to us and God bless 'em.  LOL  Like you it's 5 years for me as well and I…"
23 hours ago
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Christina ...  It is wonderful to see you post again and that you are coping the best you can.  When grieving often the spouse left behind is caught in a vortex of 'keeping busy'; looking after children, pouring themselves…"
23 hours ago
Christina Marangolo commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Thanks Pete & Chuck, I think I need to make a conscious effort to look more on posts here.  I'm sure that will help.  I mean you all know first hand what I'm going thru, so...I like your comment about "getting by with a…"
Charles E. Nelson commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hello Christina, I remember your first posting and our time line is not very far apart - for me it's a little over 9 months since losing Larry. I was told by many people that I should look for counseling, but like you wasn't sure I wanted…"
Pete Bronson commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Ooops missed the 3 in a little over 3 years"
Pete Bronson commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hello Christina, I am sorry for your loss. It took me a little over  years to come to terms with talking to a counselor about my wife's passing. It has helped me to cope since I started. I do still have my moments, I am told those are…"
Christina Marangolo commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"It's been over 6 mo. since my husband passed and I think I'm doing ok, everyone seems to think that as well.  I'm working full time & keeping busy. As much as I don't want to dwell on what happened I need to deal with…"
Steve commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Chuck, Thank you, your post hit home for me. I have been so busy trying to overcome my loss I find myself at a stand still unable to plan ahead for this year. Mine and Mark's plan was to start up a small business kind of like "Flea Market…"
Charles E. Nelson commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"It's time - no more procrastinating... You've wandered around doing small meaningless tasks to avoid it, including putting out birdseed where you found, hidden under a fallen snow shovel, a beautiful feather - and then you knew, and said…"
Jan 31
Charles E. Nelson commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"I want to thank everyone for saying such nice things about my post - Diane, Carol, Georgia - if anything I ever write helps any of us even in the smallest way, then I know I have given back a little of the tremendous amount of comfort and support…"
Jan 29
Steve commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Didn't realize that I copied a post from last year ( at least part of it) still not good with copy and paste on this site. I just wanted to share the story about humming birds. Oh"
Jan 29
Steve commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"I will be leaving tomorrow morning traveling home to Jacksonville; should arrive by Friday late afternoon (am driving and brin "Legends say that hummingbirds float free of time, carrying our hopes for love, joy and celebration. The…"
Jan 29
georgia commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hello everyone, Steve, Chuck I want to thank you for your posts. I have been feeling low the last few day's and reading your posts I'm reminded I'm not alone in this."
Jan 29
Diane C commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Chuck, That was absolutely beautiful and so true of all of us on this site. I want to thank you for making me cry during my lunch hour at work. I have been reading your posts since you joined our site. You are just another angel that has been sent…"
Jan 28
Charles E. Nelson commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
""It's alright - I promise I won't let you fall..." You sat there, in a wheelchair after spending a month on your back in a hospital bed, looking at this young woman, a physical therapist who would barely come up to your chin -…"
Jan 27

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Just a quick note to thank you all for supporting each other. When I started this I would have NEVER thought this group would grow this big and have the amount of activity that it does. It's great to see you all supporting and helping each other. With 3 jobs it is hard to spend as much time as I'd like but it's good to know I don't have to spend a lot of time here administering things. Just remember I'm around if you need me. When something gets posted I do get an email and I will respond as soon as I get that. Thank you all for taking care of each other and remembering your loved ones here.

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At 11:08am on June 18, 2015, Cynthia Murphy said…

It has been a while since I have been here. My husband died 19 months ago after 17years of suffering from diabetes related problems. I didn't think I would ever get better but I have. Eight months into a horrible grief a friend called and asked me to come over, her brother was there. I dated her brother in high school. He had lost one of his sons in 2001 and grieving as much as I was. We've had so many discussions about what we have been through and where we are now.. We are dating now and loving life again. We still talk about our loved ones we lost but we remember with smiles and happy memories. I don't know what the future holds for me but I have to trust that God is leading me in the direction that was meant to be for the second half of my life.

At 2:19pm on September 1, 2014, Karen W said…

Joyce, welcome to the site.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  I lost my husband Ed almost 9 months ago and I have found myself back at this site often looking for comfort, encouragement, understanding, or just to vent my feelings.  Everyone here has been where you and I are and understands what we are going through.   I wish you strength for each new day. 

At 10:45am on September 1, 2014, Joyce M said…

I too am new to this site...and am not sure how to post a comment...I have read so many comments by others and have found some small measure of comfort knowing that what I am going thru is so normal...I lost my husband just 3 weeks ago and every day is so hard right now....

At 9:44am on May 26, 2013, Jan said…
How do I talk to people on this site? I posted and did a blog and no one responded. Maybe I didn't do it correctly.
At 9:02pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
I just realized I posted
I have read others post and it seems no matter whether the loss of our loved one is recent or years ago What I am feeling is what others have posted
I feel a large piece of my heart died when he did I feel like I have to be another person at work and then go home to our home we shared for 45 years and feel so alone I just crawl in bed and zone out to movies or sleep When I think about how much I miss him and being there when he took his last breath it's like I have to put my feelings away because its too hard to deal with them. I get mad then sad and cry I just want to go to sleep and wake up and he is back home with me. The question I have is I feel bad when other family members call with problems they are having or if they are sick. I feel like I can't handle it or be sympathetic and say the wrong thing to them. I really don't want to talk to others I feel bad I can't listen to there problems Does anyone else feel this way. I have always been the strong one helped others and was able to fix my problems. This grieving I can't fix me. I know everyone says it takes time but this is the worst thing to go thru and I don't feel I will ever be me again. I married Mike when I was 18. Moved from my patents house to be Mikes wife then became a mother and now 45 yrs later alone. I was always a wife and a mother never a me I don't know how to be me. Mike and I were friends too and did everything together I really don't have friends Sorry my post is so long. Mikes birthday is coming up then Xmas. Thanks for listening
At 8:40pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
Hi. I am new here how do I post a question My husband of 45 years passed away 10 months ago tonight I don't feel it will ever be better I miss so much. GOD BLESS EVERYONE
At 2:35am on September 13, 2012, Marilyn kroge said…
I am facing the 1st anniversary of the loss of my beloved Jim and I still can't accept that I am alone for the first time since I was 18 years old, almost 50 years with the same man and my only love. I wake in the night to sounds that I realize are coming from my very soul. I find myself calling out to him, begging him to please come back to me, that I can't go on without him and I can't stop the tears that won't stop and I don't want to stop the pain I feel because that would make it real, it would mean that I finally know that I will never feel his arms around me, that I'll never kiss him goodbye when he left each morning. This man I met for the first time and we knew that first meeting that love at first sight really happened and we were together from that moment until I kissed him and felt his last breath, warm and so amazing that I felt his breath as he closed his eyes and so quietly left me forever . I know how maudlin my words sound but I so need to finally tell someone of my pain. I'm not allowed to say any of this to my sons or anyone in my family. Their grief became anger and so this has been my life, alone and terribly hurt that no one wants to hear what I've said here where I feel safe sharing my deepest thoughts. Thank you......."m"
At 9:13pm on September 12, 2012, Margie Thrash said…

I am coming up on my second month without my rock (Scott) it is hard but I do have good friends that check up on me every night if I dont contact them so I am fortunate that way.  Had to already go thru his birthday without him was very hard to do.  Then we always did a 100 mile horse ride week of labor day did it this year by myself with a few friends and was hard but I did it.  Not a day goes by I dont cry.  One of his last text to me was please dont get depressed like I am right now (he had 3 months to live from diagnosis made it 3 1/2).  So I try to think of that text everytime it gets too bad and I go outside or work around the house and listen to alot of music.

At 2:21am on January 10, 2012, Rowe said…

Welcome to all new members. I Lost my first husband 31 yrs ago at the age of 38. Remaried 6 yrs later and lost my Late husband after 10 yrs. He has been gone for 15 years. I am living proof that after the grief, Life will go on.  Not at first, but about 5 yrs later you will be living again.. even though you thought it would never happen. I Recommend that you do not try to avoid the grief.. you have to deal with it because if you dont it will be waiting for you to come back. I am here for you if you need to vent, or just want someone to give you an ear.

At 5:40am on December 15, 2011, dawn m long said…

hi steve only a few more days till christmas .. Im here for ya

 luv dawn


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