Dear Sunni

Your little boy was very handsome.... No doubt even though time has passed, you still need endurance and comfort. I just lost my dad in death in Aug and it has been hard to deal with, but the link below has brought me much comfort, and I wanted to share it with you.

http://www.jw.org/en/publications/books/what-hope-for-dead-loved-ones/1101987030/

Thank you

Karl and Sunni,
Thank you so much for your response and prayers. It means so much to me.
Your little guy looks so happy and loved. He is just adorable.
You said it's been just over a year since you lost him. I'm at the beginning of this tragic journey and it gives me a sense of peace to have others like yourselves to talk to about this horrible pain I'm going through. I'm hoping as time goes on, it gets a little lighter for all of us. I'm thinking of your family this weekend and keeping you in my prayers. Thanks again for your response.

Sunni and Karl,

I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby boy.

I hope everything went well in the dedication at his school.

I'm sending hugs your way.

 

Sunni and Karl....reading your post on the main page today touched my heart that you are a little better.  My son was much older when he left and I see that sweet smile of your little son and think it isn't fair either to take such young children.  All of us on here feel your pain but wish slowly you can learn to go on for your family that is here.

What Tami wrote below is good advice.  Everyone on this site has a little bit to offer to go on another day.  Keep reading, keep posting....everyone is here for you.  And maybe seeing a Dr. would help or joining a group together is a good idea.

None of us are "strong" we are going through each day for the family that is with us here. 

Please hang in there....good thoughts coming your way.

Karl, I am not one to tell you what to do, I too have those nights and days. I am now on antidepressents and they help so much, Yes I am still heart broken and sad, I still feel his absence from my life but it doesnt consume me and if I keep busy that helps too so that I am not falling to pieces all day long. I really wish you would call your Dr if you arent on anything, I promise it will help, even if just a little bit. I look at Christians picture and see a very happy go lucky child, just know that you gave him so much love and were the best Dad to him and you are still a father, you have a daughter that needs you too, I try to think of that for my son, My son lived with an abusive dad for years until I got him back, and then I loved him so much and spoiled the crap out of him, I can think back on how happy he was to be with me and it makes me happy I could be there and give him the life he deserved, YES I wish it was forever, but it isnt, all I can do now is know that I did my very best as a mother for him, I miss him every second of every day, I know that one day I will be with him, I know that I have to wait for that day, I did go to a psychic right after my Son passed, it was unbelieveable!!! I really didnt trust her but It was paid for so I went, it helped me to deal with a lot of things, some people dont believe in them but I have to tell you,this lady said things that only I would know and things that were in the accident report that nobody knew until weeks later when I got the report...so YES I believe in the after life. Please just know that there is always someone here when you get to that place, we will always talk to you and never judge you, say what you want, thats what this site is for. Many Many hugs and prayers for you.

Karl, I am not one to tell you what to do, I too have those nights and days. I am now on antidepressents and they help so much, Yes I am still heart broken and sad, I still feel his absence from my life but it doesnt consume me and if I keep busy that helps too so that I am not falling to pieces all day long. I really wish you would call your Dr if you arent on anything, I promise it will help, even if just a little bit. I look at Christians picture and see a very happy go lucky child, just know that you gave him so much love and were the best Dad to him and you are still a father, you have a daughter that needs you too, I try to think of that for my son, My son lived with an abusive dad for years until I got him back, and then I loved him so much and spoiled the crap out of him, I can think back on how happy he was to be with me and it makes me happy I could be there and give him the life he deserved, YES I wish it was forever, but it isnt, all I can do now is know that I did my very best as a mother for him, I miss him every second of every day, I know that one day I will be with him, I know that I have to wait for that day, I did go to a psychic right after my Son passed, it was unbelieveable!!! I really didnt trust her but It was paid for so I went, it helped me to deal with a lot of things, some people dont believe in them but I have to tell you,this lady said things that only I would know and things that were in the accident report that nobody knew until weeks later when I got the report...so YES I believe in the after life. Please just know that there is always someone here when you get to that place, we will always talk to you and never judge you, say what you want, thats what this site is for. Many Many hugs and prayers for you.

Sunni.............
We don't move on from the pain we envelop it. We still feel our children each step of the way.Some of us have dreams and others have "feelings" and yes in a heart beat we would exchange places with our lost children. Hang in there. There are allot of wonderful,informative people on this site.
Hugs
Colleen

I just read your post and my heart breaks for you and all of us, but I feel your raw pain, I know it seems like it will never end, but I have been told to just hang in there and time will lessen the pain.... It will be two years for me in June... I miss my 18 year old son more and more, but I know that i have to be the best I can be so that he can be proud of me when we finally meet again. I have told you before that Christian reminds me of my son when he was his age... Love to him and PLEASE hang in there for Christian.