Vickie ...

How are you doing my friend?  I hope things are going better for you. I do think of many on this forum, but since my husband passed away I find I am doing the job of two people around the house. I have been cleaning out closets; drawers, etc., as well as gardening and I have quite a large garden.  I am getting there!  Still haven't put weight on yet although eating like a Mac truck driver. I guess I am using up the calories fast.  Still have the odd down days, but have good days as well and am blessed to have my small family (brother, his wife and 2 nephews) along with friends and neighbors who have been so good to me so I shouldn't complain at all.

Going into surgery on August 10th so I am pretty stressed over that.  Like many here visiting loved ones in the hospital is not easy and most of us would now like to stay as far away from hospitals as possible. 

Hope every day is easier for you Vickie.

 

Hugs

Marcy

Hi Vicki ..

 

It's wonderful to hear from you.  It is snowing heavily here right now (I live close to Vancouver, British Columbia.)  I know this will limit my flow of girlfriends coming to visit me and I don't drive well in the little snow we manage to get here.  I know the nights are lonely and this is the time even after 9 months of Ernie's passing that I have tears off and on.  I decided to make up some beautiful family albums for my brother and his two sons Ty and Cam and I work on those during the lonely evenings.  There is much more I could be doing, but like many who are grieving sometimes I just watch a little TV and try to get my mind off things.  My biggest fear is a whole weekend alone and thus far I have been blessed with family and friends visiting.  I know things will get a little easier for you as time goes on, but in your own good time.  I'm always here if you need to talk.  The people here are fantastic and if we stick together we'll make it through the good and bad times.

 

God bless you my friend

Marcy

Welcome back Vicki ...  glad everything is going well with g-son.  I remember when my own mom told me how quickly life passes by the older you get ... the closer you get to the end of the roll of toilet paper the faster it goes.  I always thought that was nonsense, but I have since smartened up a great deal and it's true.  HAPPY NEW YEAR!  Nice to be your friend.

 

Marcy

Hi Vickie, thanks for requesting me as a friend. I hope you are doing okay, it's been almost 16 months for me and I still have days where I slide backwards and have my meltdowns but somehow I get through it, not over it. I'm here for you, so anytime you need to vent go ahead. Hugs to you!
Barb

VICKIE: IT WILL BE STILL HARD DOING THINGS THAT YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND DID TOGETHER I ONLY WISH YOU GOOD LUCK WITH PUTTING THE TREE UP. TRY TALKING TO YOURSELF AS IF YOUR HUSBAND WAS THERE. I MEAN FOR EXAMPLE THE CHRISTMAS BALLS BELONG ON THE OTHER SIDE OR THERE ARE TO HIGH OR TO LOW THEN MAYBE YOU WILL LAUGH AT YOURSELF. THIS IS THE ONLY THING I CAN THINK OF IT HELPS ME EVERY YEAR IT WOULD BE 2 YEARS MARCH GOOD LUCK AND HUGS ARE GOOD

Thanks Vickie for the encouragement. Happy Birthday to your husband also. I hope you can have a day of celebration and remember the good times. I'm just going to try and deal with this slump I'm in and hopefully the day will get better. Thinking of you today. Thanks again for your support.

Thank you Vickie, I really do appreciate it. Hugs to you. Hugs are good.

Thanks vickie. I am here for all of you too.

Thank you vickie, it really does help to share our lives knowing that we are all going through our loss grieving. Through it all I think we can better cope. For we all care and understand on this site. Hugs to you. Hugs are good.