Dear WD your words are SO TRUE! I have carried my moms torture for her thru the years and have gotten angry at those who have hurt her after she left... this is a transition that is so important for our healing... Im still working on this.. maybe a quick response to a loved ones emergency and then out of the picture! A few ive even- not gotten into their dramma. Its a new chapter in our lives and for our salvation we must change this cycle:) Thanks for your post, im sure your words have rung true for many *