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Widowed at 43 on 11/1/15

My name is Derick, and I am here because I lost my partner of 15 years to a sudden heart attack in Puerto Rico. Family and friends have encouraged me to seek a support group to help cope with his loss, and I have always felt more comfortable writing down my thoughts and feelings than sharing them in a live setting.

A little bit about my partner and I:

We met in 2000 in St. Cloud, MN where he was an adjunct professor at the university there in communications. During our… Continue

Added by Derick Grundyson on February 10, 2016 at 4:33pm — No Comments

Widows for a Second Time

Q. I met someone who remarried after her husband died. Recently, her second husband also died. How common is it to be widowed twice? How do people survive this?

I personally know of four widows who lost two…


Added by Florence Isaacs on February 10, 2016 at 2:17pm — No Comments

4 years and counting. When does it get easier??

Tomorrow marks 4 years since my 32 yr old brother passed away from alcoholism. I vividy recall some days especially around now his body that day.. its etched in my mind.  I have lived a full life and carried on. My heart and soul have not been so fast. 4 years and the pain is still like yesterday .  I miss him so much. What is killing me is that while my family gathers tomorrow my other sibling always chooses to not take part in any family gatherings. He makes excuses to not come. It breaks…


Added by Jennifer on February 9, 2016 at 10:16pm — No Comments

Dealing with Facebook Memories and Reminders

The new phenomenon of "On This Day" FB memories, when you are grieving the loss of a loved one, is a tough one. Each day I'm seeing memories on FB of both my Mum and Dad, and reliving the trauma of everything that happened last year before they both died. I am very torn. In some ways, I don't want to see these posts, but in other ways, I *do* want to see them, because they *are* helping to give me some much needed perspective.

For instance, re-reading the details (which can get…


Added by Victoria Hrencecin on February 8, 2016 at 9:22am — No Comments

Must the Obituary Include a Cause of Death?

When I checked the obituaries in my local newspaper today, I found four out of the 33 stated a cause of death. Of the four, only one was specific. While it is customary to state the cause of death in an obituary, not every family is comfortable doing so. Or, the family is…


Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on February 3, 2016 at 11:00am — 1 Comment

Plastic Flowers

January 29th 2016 marked 1 year without Tim. 

Tim's mom Arlis and I visited his site with his sister and brother-in-law, Dawn & Ed.   Mom planned the route: stop at the Dollar Store first.  For a split second I thought what, why, huh, dollar store flowers, really?  This just shows how little I know…


Added by Andrew McCullough on February 1, 2016 at 12:00pm — 1 Comment

Find comfort from the God of all comfort

(Isaiah 41:10) Do not be afraid, for I am with you. Do not be anxious, for I am your God. I will fortify you, yes, I will help you, I will really hold on to you with my right hand of righteousness.’

(Isaiah 41:13) For I, Jehovah your God, am grasping your right hand, The One saying to you, ‘Do not be afraid. I will help you.’

These scriptures have brought me much comfort during distressful times.  My prayer is that it does the…


Added by Margaret Lopez on January 31, 2016 at 9:46am — 1 Comment

Enduring with Heartfelt Thoughts

As I read through this website... we find such comfort and warmth...I love the poems and artwork.. Some may not believe in a higher power....and some may not have faith but we have one thing in common ....We all have lost someone very close to us in death. Death is all of our enemies. Yes, a word spoken at the right time is so comforting..When we hear the words of consolation from our friends it helps us endure. It is such a danger to isolate ourselves. I see that ever clearer now...words of…


Added by T.C. Goodwin on January 31, 2016 at 6:50am — No Comments


In my town a young boy committed suicide. He was bullied. He told his bully, I can not take this any longer...I am going to kill myself. The bully said "Put up or shut up." The boy even told his bus driver, " You are not going to see me because I am going to end my life. The bus driver chuckled and said, " I will see you tomorrow.....Cases like this happen every day. One of my friends ended her life...a distant relative ended his....We can not ignore the signs. My heart is troubled about…


Added by T.C. Goodwin on January 29, 2016 at 6:42pm — No Comments

I want to remember Happy Memories

It is hard for me to go to funerals because I don't like seeing the body...My mother says to me " If I  die I want my family to see me."

This is going to be so difficult for me but I will respect her wishes.

I want to be cremated. I do not want people looking at me. I want people to remember me as a I was.  One time I went to a funeral and some made the comment that they did not fix the person up right.... this is sad..... I prefer memorial services where they talk about the…


Added by T.C. Goodwin on January 27, 2016 at 9:42am — No Comments

How- questions for my son

I dont know how to do this Stephen. How do I handle your sister being pregnant and hoping it is a boy? How do I get through her wedding without ruining things for her because I am not ready for them? How do I get through her wedding with your other sister there not talking to me? How do I deal with the loss of so many friends? I wish you were here to talk to, you always had time for me. You were my champion, taking on your disabled mom's causes and my voice when I could do nothing about…


Added by Kim Tucker on January 19, 2016 at 2:10pm — No Comments

Condolences When a Friendship Is Strained

I t’s hard not to feel sorrow when a friendship flounders. Maybe you are experiencing a difficult time and a friend vanishes; or, a friend experiences life changes and seems to drop out. It can be hard to pinpoint what has happened and if you are uncomfortable asking, you can only speculate.

This happened to…


Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on January 19, 2016 at 9:30am — 1 Comment

Sudden Death

It seems to always happen....our dear friend died a few days ago and we did not know he was sick. I think about his family and his dear wife.... So much pain....I am looking forward to the promise when we can have real happiness - Revelation 21;3,4.

Added by T.C. Goodwin on January 18, 2016 at 2:11pm — No Comments



Added by LAURA FONTES on January 16, 2016 at 5:00pm — 3 Comments

Feeling the loss of a brother.

 I got the worst call i could imagine back in sept. My dad called and told me my brother had passed away. It took me  a minute to comprehend what he had told me. I had to go to my brothers house to see his wife and kids, and to see my brother so i could process what my dad had told me. He was 32 years old. I am sad, angry, and hurt that he is gone. I can't imagine what my sister in law is going through. I know i lost my brother that i grew up with since he was birth and i can't imagine him…


Added by NJ on January 15, 2016 at 1:16pm — No Comments

PhD research on loss and grief

I am conducting a research study on the way Americans think and talk about loss and grief. This is a part of my PhD project.


You are eligible to participate if:

- you were born and raised in the United States

- you are a native speaker of American English

- you are an adult (19-60 years old)

- you have experienced the death of a loved person within the last 1-5 years.


If you are eligible and willing to participate, please go to the…


Added by Kamila on January 14, 2016 at 4:15pm — No Comments

Suicide & Depression

Many people feel that when people commit suicide God is going to punish them.... What many people do not realize is that Depression is a serious thing and I know God who is a loving God understands the pain and suffering that people are going through....We are weak ....we are frail...Our family members and friends are in God's memory and that is a promise John 5:28,29.

Added by T.C. Goodwin on January 13, 2016 at 7:29am — No Comments

Online Dating for Widows: 10 Tips To Avoid Being Scammed

Q. I'm a widow about to start online dating. I'm a bit nervous, and also worried about how I can avoid online scams. A close friend just got burned. What do you suggest?

Over 41.2 million people in the U.S. tried an online dating site in 2014, according to the Better Business…


Added by Florence Isaacs on January 12, 2016 at 10:00am — 1 Comment

New Year, Fresh Perspective: 4 Timely Tips

The news was horribly sad: The mother of my daughter’s best friend was terminally ill and in hospice care. She and her husband had retired two years ago and relocated to a community nestled in the Blue Ridge Mountains. It was a new beginning with different friends and adventures awaiting;…


Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on January 4, 2016 at 12:00pm — 1 Comment

Losing my mom

On December 9th last year (2015) I lost my mama. It was so sudden that I can't seem to shake the feeling of shock. I'd like to share the story of the last few months so I can get some feedback on maybe how or why this happened:

My mom had always been healthy and active. When she turned 80 a few years back she started having aches and pains in her low back and knees which we all attributed to the fact she didn't like to exercise. She would poke fun at me (I am in the fitness…


Added by Devra swiger on January 4, 2016 at 8:31am — No Comments

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