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Why Do We Hold Back From Telling Our Love Ones We Are Sick ? : Do They Understand?

I had a good friend that I noticed that she was losing a lot of weight. She would say my stomach hurt....She would go to the doctor and never really tell us what was going on.....She died..

I am more determined now to get involved in my good friends lives...A few months ago I accompanied one of my other friends to the emergency room... The staff were throwing out all types of medical terms. I told the doctor to speak clearly and explain in simpler terms what was going on (Not sure she…


Added by T.C. Goodwin on October 24, 2016 at 8:37am — No Comments

When End is Near

 Read something interesting about Hospice

1) Keep bed sheets clean

2) Change position frequently to prevent bed sores

3) Change undergarment or diapers if needed

4) Keep the mouth moist with wet swabs or ice chips/lip balm

5) Hold our love ones hand and remember the last thing to go is their hearing

- Awake 2015

Added by T.C. Goodwin on October 23, 2016 at 2:00pm — No Comments

Missing my brother

Today marks my brothers 3rd anniversary. I miss him everyday. Since then I found out how he really passed. It upsets me even more, but there's nothing I can do about it now. I've always been there to protect him and the one time he needed me I wasn't there. I'm guesssing we will never know what happened that night, but I have an idea. Looking back on that night and day at the hospital seeing how his girlfriend acted made me think. She got real angry at me when she asked for his apartment key. I… Continue

Added by Lynne Garcia on October 22, 2016 at 4:18pm — 2 Comments

An Inspiring Legacy

A friend in her early 30s was deeply affected by the recent death of former Israeli President Shimon Peres. She was unfamiliar with Peres until she read his obituary and learned his life story. She shared that she was unaware that Peres had tried to broker peace in the Middle East. She…


Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on October 21, 2016 at 9:30am — No Comments

Remembering Life and Death

Last month,

My family engaged in a group text regarding remembering those that month that died in our family... I believe it was actually the anniversary of 2 love ones.... So the texts started off depressing.. Then my sister turned it around and said ...."let's also remember the wonderful life that came in the world today"... Let's celebrate them and the birth of a new baby in our family....Let's remember precious memories of the dead and alive.... I thank my sis for making us…


Added by T.C. Goodwin on October 18, 2016 at 2:05pm — No Comments

Common Denominator - Loss of Love Ones

Although many of us have different belief systems, we have one thing in common- death. It is our enemy. I love to have comfort from friends and family but I get the greatest comfort from the wonderful promises in God's word the Bible. I can't wait to the time when God will do away with death and pain. In addition to all the suffering and injustice....No politician( or any other human being) can do away with death but God can and he will....

Added by T.C. Goodwin on October 17, 2016 at 9:45am — No Comments

Lost younger brother


I lost my brother end of August this year.  I am the eldest.  He thought he had the flu, went to walk n clinic, still verifying this and died a day later, alone in his own bed.  My parents are in shock.  I have a younger sister.  I started a new temp job couple of weeks before he passed.  I'm struggling with his passing and generally with all of this.  I am also angry with him for his lack of care and follow up.  He tried to work through his flu but had a temperature of 104.  Not…


Added by Ewa Toole on October 14, 2016 at 6:27pm — No Comments

Another Thanksgiving 2016

Snow covers the ground early this year.
Thanksgiving dinner was wonderful your family all here. As your sons drove away yes you heard right both boys driving can you believe it !
If I had a wish to give you it would be for your to see them. I Can just picture your face I see the tilt of your head the sparkle in your eyes your head back roaring at the sight of them
I miss you so very much
Love you Hun

Added by Colleen Pasay on October 9, 2016 at 9:25pm — No Comments

Grief Following a Long Goodbye

It’s difficult to witness the physical and mental decline of a friend or loved one with a debilitating illness. In fact, it’s hard not to grieve while they are still alive, as responsibilities and relationships shift and lives change. Some might think that death would be a relief and grief shortened, but that’s not often the case.…


Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on October 7, 2016 at 7:00am — No Comments

Complicated Grief and Widows

Q. I’ve heard that some widows experience “complicated grief.” How does it differ from ordinary grief, and who’s at risk? I’m a widow myself.

Grief is the emotional and physical response to the death of a loved one, featuring symptoms such as sadness, anxiety, panic, numbness, fatigue, shock. After my own husband…


Added by Florence Isaacs on October 5, 2016 at 9:30am — No Comments

There is no such thing as a "new normal"

Hi There. As a mother who lost her eldest son ten years ago, I have come to really dislike the term often used in grief work as living with a new normal. I work as a grief therapist and psychotherapist, and I can tell you from the perspective of a parent, there is nothing normal about the loss of a child, no matter the age. I think of it as "a new reality" that we are forced to live with. Losing someone you love isn't normal. Yes we adapt over time - life goes on with or without you. I get…


Added by Sharon Rossy on October 3, 2016 at 8:03pm — 4 Comments

This it to hard

Don't know how any of us do this. It is so hard.  Went camping for one night with my son and some of the kids and almost couldn't stand it. It just wasn't natural to be there without him. I followed my son home, who had his dads 4 wheeler in the back of his truck not ours

Added by ROSE EGGERS on September 26, 2016 at 4:31pm — 1 Comment

Recent Shooting in Charlotte

My heart goes out to the family of Keith Scott. Peaceful protest have done some good and its good to see even the national guards giving the citizens of Charlotte warm handshakes and hugs... Then I hear of folks getting shot up in a mall. I pray for a more permanent solution to all this blood shed, violence and pain. The only solution (Matthew 6:9,10)...Come Lord Quickly!

Added by T.C. Goodwin on September 26, 2016 at 4:14pm — No Comments

Gardening – The Best Way to Spend Time with Your Lost Love

Jan and I were different in so many ways. Most of our likes and dislikes were totally opposite and I always maintained that this was why we were so close. Sounds strange, doesn’t it? But I think our disagreements created a positive energy in our marriage that just resulted in raising the level of our love and…


Added by Lindsay Collier on September 21, 2016 at 3:30pm — 4 Comments

Turning Grief Into Purpose

While grieving a loss, you learn a lot about what helps or hampers healing. That’s what happened to Laurie B. following the death of her beloved husband. Despite a wide circle of friends, she often felt alone and saw a need for sensitive support. She approached her pastor and suggested they start a shawl ministry, a support group where members would knit shawls…


Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on September 20, 2016 at 8:00am — No Comments

How Writing Helps Us Cope with Death

William Shakespeare once said, “Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak knits up the over wrought heart and bids it break”.

For hundreds of years, people have taken up writing, especially letters, to express their grief and deepest…


Added by Julie Ellis on September 20, 2016 at 6:01am — No Comments

one year coming up 9/26/2016

I lost my best friend and spouse, David, on 9/26/2015.  We had 35 years together, all of which provided wonderful memories but I miss him so much.  time has only made it harder for me, definitely not easier as many said it would.

Added by Tim Morgan on September 19, 2016 at 2:35pm — 2 Comments

new here

I'm 31married in March.  He's 34.  He died July 8th flipping his car on the freeway.   6th of July found out I was 11 wks pregnant.  I have two other children 6 and 8 from previous relationship. I guess I'm just looking for advice on how to raise our child knowing their father.  Everything we had was in the vehicle and destroyed pretty much.  I have a few items of clothing.  Since the accident I've created a facebook page  to collect pictures etc.  I didn't know any of his friends or family…


Added by Whitney Rollins on September 13, 2016 at 12:48am — 3 Comments

Options When the Deceased Didn't Want a Funeral

Q. My late friend and colleague wished to be cremated and did not want a funeral. He had no close family. I (and others in my professional organization who will miss him) feel very sad. He had a huge impact on our careers, especially when we were starting out. What can we do that honors his wishes, yet also allows us some closure? And…


Added by Florence Isaacs on September 7, 2016 at 11:00am — No Comments

My Sister Karen

I lost my sister on 5/15/15. She was one of the brightest lights in my life. I was the closest to her of all of our family members. We laughed like crazy when we were together and I always wanted to be like her. Everyone she met fell in love with her. She was 3 years older than me and she died at 57. She had type 1 diabetes since she was 21 and her overall health was suddenly declining as though she was giving up on life. She had started drinking and smoking more I guess as a way to cope with… Continue

Added by Lisa coplin on September 2, 2016 at 8:46am — No Comments

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