My Sister Holly commited suicide Aug. 27th of 2011. Nothing could have prepared me for her death. Now,there is no clarity,and everything,including my thoughts are broken up. Holly was 38,and the Mother of 3 children. She was incredibly Beautiful,personable,funny,kind,and so many other good things,she could never see.Holly and I came from a broken home,and were forever damaged from that and many other things.I don't know that I can go on.All I see in my mind,is my only sibling,shot in the…

I just posted this on line, in rely to how people are so mean to each other.

You are so right!  Most people don't want to helpful or kind to the those perceived to be weak.  My son was that way.  He always went out of his way to help others.  He was a very quiet, but extremely intelligent individual.  When he was in Boy Scouts the leader knew when they would go camping to always tent the boys who were either retarded, or ADHD, or autistic with my son Brad.  Because Brad would always…

Margaret, I really appreciate your blog I hope you won't mind if I plagarize your comforting words and 'share' them with others. It is true what you have said I hope people will take time to look up the scriptures you have cited. They will truly see that a God of love would never, ever rip babies from their mothers arms or have some nefarious 'plan' in mind for our deceased loved ones that would necessitate separating us from them. We can take heart tho' that God is poised to destroy our…

When I lived with my maternal grandmother for part of my freshman year of college, each morning we walked a few blocks together before I went one way to catch the El to school and she went the other to church. She attended daily Mass as much as possible. I thought it was strange that people needed that much Mass time. Instead, I went with her only on Sundays.

But I have come to appreciate daily Mass. To me, it’s no different than having a support group for suicide loss…

Today has been one year since my beautiful mother left this earth and my heart is still aching.  The past year has been the worst year of my life.  There hasn't been one day that I haven't missed her and cried for her.  Mom, you were a kind and loving teacher and an inspiration to us all.  Everything I am, I am because of you.  You taught me everything I know and I am so greatful for your unconditional love.  Rest now, sweet mother, in the glorious arms of Jesus.  Know that we will meet…

Another year has started. It has been two years since I lost my husband of 42 years. I can't say it has gotten any better, I know  he's not suffering anymore , he died peacefully  I am grateful for that.  I get mad at him sometimes then I cry but I know he's still with me I can feel him looking over my shoulder and watching over me. As one of his doctors told me after he passed; he'll always be with me in my heart. This is what gets me through each day. 

Comfort from a complete stranger

I went to Cody's grave site for the first time since being laid to rest last week. I just sat on the ground and cried for about 2 hours. I tried  talking to Cody and feel comfort in just sitting there at his site. A elderly man walk up to me and ask if he could sit with me. He sat down on the ground with me and told me his wife died 6 months ago and he comes back everyday to visit her site. He said he saw us all last week and knew by the…

The anniversary of my husband’s death is coming up in a couple of weeks.  The thoughts I have this time of year are involuntary.  It reminds me of a car wreck I once had where I pulled over against the guard rail and watched the out-of-control car spinning towards me.  It is a captivating moment.  The thoughts bombard my mind.  They crash into my routine and disrupt all order.  Life would be so much easier if he were here.  He would know how to fix that.  I wouldn’t be working two jobs.  He…

ON JAN 03, 2012 WAS THE TWO YEAR ANNIVERSARY OF MY SONS DEATH !!!  AND STILL I DO NOT HAVE ANY ANSWERS AS TO WHY THIS HAPPENED...THE CONVICTION OF JOVANI MUNIZ...GETTING ONLY A SIX YEAR SENTENCE AT THE YOUTHFUL OFFENDER SYSTEM HERE AT PUEBLO COLORADO, IS SO DEMEANING, HOW IN GODS NAME COULD A PERSON MURDER ANOTHER WILLFULLY, WANTONLY, PREMEDITATED, AND GET OFF WITH A NO JUSTICE SERVED SENTENCE, JUST BECAUSE HE WAS A SIXTEEN YEAR OLD PUNK, AND THE SYSTEM WILL NOT PUNISH A "SO CALLED"…

A few years back I did a radio interview on how to write a condolence note. The interviewer mentioned some distinguished public speakers, quoting passages of notes they’d written. He asked me how the general public could replicate these meaningful messages. I was shocked for a moment thinking that if anyone expected to personally write such grandiose notes, they’d be so intimidated they’d never get them done. And maybe that’s why so many people procrastinate and struggle to write…

Q. I work for a small company, and it is up to me to notify employees that a coworker just died. Customers and suppliers who worked closely with him must be told, as well. Is it okay to inform people via email? What should I say? Do I have to include funeral details? 

In large organizations, managers, supervisors, or department heads usually inform employees or associates of the death and follow specific guidelines from Human Resources. Spreading the word…

Lost my wife of 30 years 11/28/2011, came back to living room after a couple of miniutes, found her slumped over and purple, checked her airway which was clear and I knew it was bad. Started cpr, called 911 and no one could save her. She was only 51.

 I lost my son Joe on April 5, 2010 after he was at our house for Easter Sunday. A drunk driver took him from all the people who love him.

I was in total  and denial when the policemen asked my husband and I to sit down. Then said, "Your son passed." Maybe I thought it would go away. I didn't know how to handle it. But i did have friends on a computer soap net site. It was were I would communicate with fans of a soap I watched since the first day it aired on channel 2. The name is the…

Today would have been my husbands 33th birthday, I miss him so much he passed away on Sept 26, 2011 Due to suicide. We have made it thru the holidays but today seem harder than any day or holiday. Our kids miss you so much, You would be so proud of your boy dylan i took our kids to the snow on new years, Dylan wanted to ride your board so bad so i told him it would be ok, he did so go he was able to keep his balance and stay up on it all the way down the hill he just doesnt know how to stop.…

I read recently that Christmas is a time of rebirth. As one year ends and another begins, I see this as a time of reflection of where we’ve been this past year and where we’re going in 2012.

In 2011, I worked on my ability to let go. I had some rough paths to travel this past year, and a friend noted to me the other day how much he has seen me grow in this time as I navigated them. That’s not to say that I’m perfect because I’m definitely not. Today I was reminded that Lent…