Despite your best intentions, it can be hard to listen intently to someone dealing with pain and loss. Our personal communication experience is one of interactive dialogue but if you are to truly help someone processing a loss, the dialogue should be one way.
Distractions are barriers to effective listening. Here are six you can easily avoid:
- Don't multi-task such as folding laundry, sorting mail, or unloading the dishwasher. Even if you're on the…
Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on January 5, 2009 at 7:00am —
The greatest thing that ever happened to me was my father. I wasnt actually his son by blood but if I could have anyone else as my father nothing would top what I had with him no fame fortune or anything offered would ever make me want anything more than him. I was standing outside my house on a Tuesday I had just got off of work when I got a phone call from my mother saying we had no choice but to take my father off of life support or watch him suffer for the next month or so of his life. i… Continue
Added by Dean Nichols on January 5, 2009 at 4:30am —
I am truly without feeling right now. It is the most confusing , frightening, sad, angry and depressed feelings all rolled into one. On top of it, I have issues with being bi-polar, ADD, PTSD. I just lost my sister to the insidious illness of anorexia and here I sit..unable to move. I am glad this site is here.
Added by Carla M Hornback on January 3, 2009 at 9:10am —
Adult and Children's Bereavement Support Groups
JAN. 12th & 26th at 1:00pm & 7:00pm
St.Andrew's Church Hall, Richmondtown,SI
For further information contact: K.Goldman 718-226-6451
Added by Karen L Goldman,LMHC BC on January 2, 2009 at 10:15am —
Someone facing a difficult experience needs an outlet to voice their concerns and fears. It is through conversations, sharing our stories over and over again, that we finally make sense of what is happening in our lives. One of the greatest gifts you can give someone facing a tough time is a willingness to listen. And yet listening doesn't come easy to us. Listening is a skill, just like speaking and writing, and the more you practice, the more proficient you become. Here are seven… Continue
Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on December 29, 2008 at 5:30pm —
You only meet someone like my mom once in a lifetime. It was an honor to be called one of her daughters. She devoted her life to God, her children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren. She was a friend, prayer partner, and confidant to so many people. She lived her life as an inspiration to everyone around her. She was amazing to watch as she was so very vibrant and inspiring; she cherished everyday God had given her. Mom always reminded us that this life is only for a short time, and that we… Continue
Added by Tylah Howard on December 28, 2008 at 11:21am —
see, after all nothing comes in life we have to leave alone
go alone, that is lonely comes and goes lonely, recentaly i have lost my motherdue to the cancer of lungs, its very sad part of my life, what to do, it was very unfortunate to leave my mom, she was great for me, she was everything for me,
so , afterall mom is mom, u cannot compare it anything no replace for it
Added by sunny on December 28, 2008 at 4:28am —
My Mom passed away on Sunday, December 7, 2008. My 43rd birthday was the day after this event, and also the last time I was to ever see her again. My Dad passed away when I was an infant and Mom rasied the four of us completely on her own. She's the only parent I've ever known. I live away from my family, alone, having just gotten divorced this year - and I'm just not sure how I can cope with Mom's death, especially at Christmas, which was her favorite holiday & time of the year. I have… Continue
Added by Donna Scharrett on December 21, 2008 at 12:34pm —
Holidays should be joyful, but they are often sad for individuals grieving a loss or going through a difficult experience. Five simple things can bring cheer to those facing tough times:
- Write a personal note to let them know you are thinking of them and their loved one.
- Invite them out to lunch and offer to provide transportation.
- Deliver a gift bag or tin with home-baked or store-bought cookies, muffins or a quick bread.
- Include them in…
Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on December 18, 2008 at 4:30pm —
I want to remember Joe and the life and love we shared. I also will create memorials as tributes to the life he lived.
|Memorials to Joe
||Their Meaning for Me
|Plant a pink dogwood tree where I can see it from the kitchen. It will bloom in the early…
Added by Marta Felber on December 11, 2008 at 4:00pm —
I am Britton Cannon's neice Tonya Fuller and am glad to be contacted by anyone who would like to speak to myself or anyone other member of my family for Britt. Some people may know me some may not but all are truly welcomed to speak with me. Thank you to all who stop's by to look at my website for my Uncle Britt. To all who know who i am know how hard my life without him is for me, he was my best friend and i'm truly happy to see how many people came to say there last goodbyes to him britt… Continue
Added by Tonya FULLER R.I.P BRITTON D Cannon on December 7, 2008 at 2:00pm —
A colleague, Joan Price, recently lost her beloved husband, Robert. Many folks she encountered found it hard to say the right thing and too often she was asked, “How are you doing?" Joan wondered, “What was I supposed to answer? The truth was ‘Horrible, of course!’ but I restrained myself." Continue
I asked Joan to share what she wished folks had said so we could learn how to better communicate with a grieving spouse. Joan reminded me that we each grieve differently and statements…
Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on December 2, 2008 at 4:30pm —
We will love and miss you until we all meet agian in Jesus loving hands.Our love and support goes out to aunt Robin and all my cousins,God bless and keep you.With all our love,kenny Scott,Alyssa Scott,Marni,and Susan m.Scott-Lewis.
Added by susan lewis on December 2, 2008 at 9:04am —
I spent the last 10 years caring for my sweet dear sister Abby. She has been gone a year now and I can't believe how much I miss her. She passed 9/4/07 had a birthday 10/4 and then with the holidays it magnifies the loss. We went through so much together and now there is a big empty hole in that part of my heart. She suffered terribly with mental illness and I take comfort in knowing she is in the arms of the Lord. I created her site so I could really go to it and feel her presence. I created a… Continue
Added by Stephanie on November 28, 2008 at 6:00am —
It happens all the time. Something has us stressed, upset, or worried and we search for comfort. But what we really need is someone to listen; someone to give us their full attention as we share our fears and concerns. We’re not looking for advice, we’re looking for understanding. And we each have the power to give this all important gift – our time and attention. Continue
It’s hard to ask for support but we can’t expect our friends and loved ones to be mind readers and intuitively…
Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on November 25, 2008 at 4:30pm —
Q. What can you say or do when there’s a suicide in someone’s family? My cousin’s 21-year-old son killed himself, and she and her husband are inconsolable. What can I possibly say to them in such a devastating situation? I feel powerless to help them. Continue
A. Suicide is the third leading cause of death in the 15-24 age group in this country with only injuries and homicides claiming more lives, and suicide on college campuses is more common than most people…
Added by Florence Isaacs on November 18, 2008 at 4:30pm —
What happens when someone you care about is grieving a loss and you know you said the wrong thing? That’s what happened to a friend of mine. She attended a family dinner and said something to her sister-in-law that she immediately knew was inappropriate. She didn’t know what to do, so she said nothing and her sister-in-law never mentioned it either. And even though the relationship seems fine, my friend feels guilty and wonders if there is something she can say a year later to make… Continue
Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on November 18, 2008 at 2:00pm —
I have recently lost my mother at the age of 53, I am so heart broken. I feel so lost without her, it doesn't seem real. This is the first time that i have ever lost someone so close to me, I don't know how to deal it feels like the whole world has stopped. She was the most beautiful person inside and out, she was my best friend I feel so sick without her. I just want her back it's not fair to be taken away so young. Mom I miss and Love you with all my heart.
Added by katie on November 18, 2008 at 1:33pm —
Welcome to Comforting Words! We’ve all faced a situation that’s left us speechless. A friend shares a devastating medical diagnosis, or you learn via e-mail of a relative’s death. What do you say? We’ve all been at a loss for words when we've needed them most. My goal in creating this blog is to provide a forum to share stories, ideas, and resources that will help us feel confident when confronted with unexpected news of loss and difficult times. And most important, I’d like to… Continue
Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on November 18, 2008 at 12:00pm —
2 weeks ago today on November 3rd, 2008, I lost my son Alexander James. Losing him was completely unexpected and since he's gone, I've lost myself somewhere.
Alex was my third pregnancy. The first was in 1994. We lost our daughter Elizabeth Lynn at 20 weeks due to my incompetent cervix, which we didn't know was incompetent until it was too late.
My 2nd pregnancy was in 2006 and was twins. We lost the first baby at 10 weeks to disappearing twin syndrome. We'll never know what sex… Continue
Added by Tammy on November 17, 2008 at 1:10pm —