What happens when someone you care about is grieving a loss and you know you said the wrong thing? That’s what happened to a friend of mine. She attended a family dinner and said something to her sister-in-law that she immediately knew was inappropriate. She didn’t know what to do, so she said nothing and her sister-in-law never mentioned it either. And even though the relationship seems fine, my friend feels guilty and wonders if there is something she can say a year later to make… Continue
Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on November 18, 2008 at 2:00pm —
I have recently lost my mother at the age of 53, I am so heart broken. I feel so lost without her, it doesn't seem real. This is the first time that i have ever lost someone so close to me, I don't know how to deal it feels like the whole world has stopped. She was the most beautiful person inside and out, she was my best friend I feel so sick without her. I just want her back it's not fair to be taken away so young. Mom I miss and Love you with all my heart.
Added by katie on November 18, 2008 at 1:33pm —
Welcome to Comforting Words! We’ve all faced a situation that’s left us speechless. A friend shares a devastating medical diagnosis, or you learn via e-mail of a relative’s death. What do you say? We’ve all been at a loss for words when we've needed them most. My goal in creating this blog is to provide a forum to share stories, ideas, and resources that will help us feel confident when confronted with unexpected news of loss and difficult times. And most important, I’d like to… Continue
Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on November 18, 2008 at 12:00pm —
2 weeks ago today on November 3rd, 2008, I lost my son Alexander James. Losing him was completely unexpected and since he's gone, I've lost myself somewhere.
Alex was my third pregnancy. The first was in 1994. We lost our daughter Elizabeth Lynn at 20 weeks due to my incompetent cervix, which we didn't know was incompetent until it was too late.
My 2nd pregnancy was in 2006 and was twins. We lost the first baby at 10 weeks to disappearing twin syndrome. We'll never know what sex… Continue
Added by Tammy on November 17, 2008 at 1:10pm —
Kevin Michael Conatty, a Soldier, Policeman, Private Investigator, Fiancé’, Step-Dad, Friend, Son, Brother, and Uncle. How could I even begin to put down on paper, his life story, and all of the wonderful things that he brought to me and my daughters life? Kevin was such a wonderful man who touched so many peoples lives in many different ways. He had a love that was so real, pure, and honest, anyone that ever knew Kevin or was a part of his life always felt… Continue
Added by In Loving Memory Of Kevin Conatty on November 17, 2008 at 11:48am —
All parents do it, we just don't realize it all the time... UGH! when they say they've cleaned their room, but really they just slide everything under their bed or into the closet... Well, I'm out of ugh's... They never meant harm or disrespect... they where just an ugh... I'm not liking being out of ugh's... I would do anything to have just one more time to say it, with meaning... Delete Comment
Added by Cheryl on November 16, 2008 at 11:07pm —
if buford smiles then what? Continue
Added by richard c. hooper on November 13, 2008 at 10:00am —
In the beginning there were lots of hugs, an acceptable way for people to show they cared. They no longer remember to do this and I miss Joe’s hugs even more. I guess it is up to me. I can give a hug and get one in return. Or I can simply say, “I need a hug today.” Continue
Little "Hugs" I Can Give Myself
BREAKFAST IN BED. The bed is still warm. And who cares if a few crumbs get scattered around when I eat my toast?
SELECTED MUSIC. Invest in…
Added by Marta Felber on November 12, 2008 at 3:30pm —
FEEDING THE HOMELESS
12-24-2007 AT 11-2
Added by Mrs. Pamela Schreiner on November 12, 2008 at 6:17am —
We are connected,
My child and I, by
An invisible cord
Not seen by the eye.
It's not like the cord
That connects us 'til birth
This cord can't been seen
By any on Earth.
This cord does it's work
Right from the start.
It binds us together
Attached to my heart.
I know that it's there
Though no one can see
The invisible cord
From my child to me.
The strength of this cord
Added by Beth Spoor (Smart) on November 11, 2008 at 8:49pm —
I Wanted You To Know......
I Was Sitting Here In Heaven
And Having A Wonderful Day.
I Started Thinking About You
And All The Things I Didn’t Get A Chance To Say.
I Don’t Want You To Worry About Me
And Please Don’t Shed Any Tears,
Because I Will Wait For You In Heaven,
If It Takes A Hundred Years.
Everything I Had On Earth
I Have In Heaven Too!
My First Day Here
My Body Became Brand New.
It Is Really Pretty Here
And I… Continue
Added by Beth Spoor (Smart) on November 11, 2008 at 8:30pm —
I am wondering what to do and say to my friend and her family regarding the death of her sibling. He was a wonderful young man, sensitive and caring and a bit of a free spirit. As he got older he became addicted to a number of things and ended up in prison for a good many years for a horrific crime, really letting everyone down. Every relative washed their hands of him except his parents. He was released just months ago and now has died from an apparent overdose. I do not know what to say to… Continue
Added by Lily on November 7, 2008 at 8:48am —
Q. What’s the difference between a funeral and a memorial service? I plan to attend a memorial service for an old college classmate, but I’ve never been to one before. What should I expect? Continue
A. Memorial services have become more and more common in this country, and in a way are a sign of the times. A memorial service is held without the remains present. Perhaps there are no remains, as in the case of some 9/11 victims or soldiers killed in combat. Or the…
Added by Florence Isaacs on October 18, 2008 at 4:00pm —
I Count My Blessings
Every Sunday morning our minister starts the service with an introductory phrase followed by, “So let us celebrate!” During the week, when there was something for which Joe was thankful, he would often say, “So let us celebrate,” exactly mimicking the minister’s voice and intonations. It always made me smile. I realize I have not been celebrating my blessings.
I Celebrate My:
Added by Marta Felber on October 11, 2008 at 3:30pm —
Q. My friend’s ex-husband just died, and I feel awkward about what to say to her and her children. I’m also concerned about talking to her ex’s family at the funeral. I met the in-laws a few times during the marriage. Do you have any suggestions? Continue
A. It can get very complicated when someone’s ex-spouse dies. The surviving ex-wife or -husband may feel deep sorrow. For a time, the couple did share a life together. There can be good memories as well as bad, and…
Added by Florence Isaacs on September 18, 2008 at 4:00pm —
The pain is unbearable! I put down the feelings that engulf me. They come tumbling out, faster than I can write. Some words are blotted out where tears have fallen. I write the date and time of day before each entry, giving reality to what is happening. Sometimes I write a lot, other times only a sentence or two. Always I feel some measure of relief.
Why I Write in a Journal
My journal offers a ready release. It is always with me, going in… Continue
Added by Marta Felber on September 15, 2008 at 2:30pm —
MY SISTER IN LAW FELICIA PARDUE WAS 18 YEARS OLD AND WAS THE VICTIM OF A VIOLENT, PURPOSEFUL HIT AND RUN LAST MONTH. SHE PASSED AWAY ON AUGUST 22, 2008. SHE WAS THE MOST AMAZING PERSON WHO LOVED TO LAUGH AND ACT SILLY. HER LIFE WAS TAKEN BEFORE SHE EVEN HAD A CHANCE TO KNOW WHAT SHE WANTED TO DO WITH HER LIFE. SHE TOLD ME A FEW WEEKS AGO THAT SHE WAS TIRED OF ALL THE DRAMA AND READY TO MAKE A CHANGE AND START DOING RIGHT. SHE DID START. SHE STARTED COMING TO CHURCH WITH US. ON HER WAY TO… Continue
Added by AJ on September 1, 2008 at 5:05pm —
I lost my sister two weeks back when a person driving a stolen pickup truck slammed into her bedroom, killing her instantly. She was a divorced mom in her mid forty’s & had 3 teen-age children. It has been hard to grieve her death because we were all so stunned by the death & all of the unresolved details that are left behind.
This event ahs flipped so many lives upside down it is hard to know where to even begin. It has been difficult for my wife & me because we live half way… Continue
Added by Sean on August 28, 2008 at 8:30pm —
It's Saturday August 23rd at 4:46 am and I am either unable or unwilling to sleep. In an hour and a half it will be the eight month anniversary of my brother's death. Until I realize that his brain steam actually herniated in New York, so I guess it's really in a half an hour. I muse about the idea of walking down to watch the sun rise on by the lake and give myself a moment of solace after a never ending night. I can't sleep because I came home tonight knowing I needed a grief night. I've… Continue
Added by Keek on August 28, 2008 at 3:30am —
Q. My colleague’s elderly mother just died, and a group of us at the office want to send flowers. What is the protocol at such a time? Should flowers go to the funeral home or to the bereaved’s apartment? What types of flowers are best, and what should we say on the accompanying card? We want to show our support in the most appropriate way. Continue
A. Thanks to Hollywood movies, we often think of lilies as traditional funeral flowers. In fact, the most commonly…
Added by Florence Isaacs on August 15, 2008 at 12:30pm —